Reading this post gave me some serious relief about OH and myself! You ladies have a great way of looking at it, and I felt better when someone who'd been there chimed in and agreed!

I'm sooo anxious, but mostly about being a good mom, how it'll affect OH and me, how it'll affect our finances, our families, our time together... I also worry about doing the "right" things, like how do I discipline our children properly without using corporeal punishment?? How to set boundaries with our families, because both sides of our families basically have no boundaries where we're concerned, no matter how hard we try!

Funny thing is, I don't worry about infertility as much as I did BEFORE I found out I have issues ovulating! I was charting, discussed it and my symptoms with my doc and we made a plan, which we've already put into motion! If you feel like you have a great doc behind you, a lot of that worry goes away! I know if I'm not ovulating, we're going to medication right away and we'll continue from there if nothing happens! However, my doc and I are super confident that things will get themselves sorted out, even if I have to take a round or two of Clomid to push my ovaries into working properly after 13 years on birth control! Having a plan eases my mind where infertility is concerned!

Soo basically, yes I'm anxious/scared but I think we can use it as a good thing!

I think its normal to feel somewhat anxious.

I have had 2 previous losses and my pattern seems to be miscarriage, baby, miscarriage, baby so in my head I think my next pregnancy is most likely going to end in a miscarriage which is silly to think that. I worry about that. I worry that I am too old. I worry that its not going to happen this time as quickly as my previous pregnancies, i worry that I am not ovulating.....basically the list is endless!!

Same here ladies! My biggest fear aside from not being able to have children is it changing my relationship. However, I have heard lots of stories saying although it definitely changes it changes for the better I'm going to make sure I put the effort in to make sure a baby has a positive effect on our relationship!

I'm not a mom yet, but from what I've seen of the couples around me, if you and your OH work together to raise the baby well it brings you together. I've got the best husband ever, I'm looking forward to watching him be a daddy!

Wow! I honestly thought it was just me who felt anxious about fertility. I'm sorry you're all feeling this way too, but I'm glad I'm not alone. I don't have any diagnosed fertility problem other than my age. I worry that I don't have any eggs left in my basket or that if I do manage to get pregnant I will miscarry. (Again, another age-related risk). I also worry about how to raise good children. I want my kid(s) to be kind, caring and loving in all they do. I worry somehow I'll give birth to Satan incarnate who will torture small animals and turn into a serial killer! I know it's completely ridiculous, but these fears are rarely rational. I haven't worried much about my relationship with DH, though. We communicate well and work through things, so I doubt we'll have a problem that can't be solved.

Don't feel nervous, and worry things will go wrong My mom had two miscarriages and that didn't stop me from getting pregnant first active cycle of trying. Just try not to stress too much about it (I know, easier said than done). Good luck

Your situation reminds me of mine. I have a cousin that has been TTC unsuccessfully for 5 years so infertility is constantly on my mind. I know there have been some miscarriages in my family, including 1 by my mom. I also have another cousin that was just recently told she has a mass the size of a tennis ball on her left ovary. They think it's just a cyst but considering cancer runs in our family (both my mom and her cousin have had to have hysterectomy's as a result, though they were finished having kids) it has me even a bit more worried. Somedays I get myself so down thinking I'm never going to get pg and we haven't even started yet!

And to top it off, I just recently found out my SIL is pg so I will have to cope with that on top of TTC. You are definitely not alone in your worries.

I'm also so eager to start trying to have a baby, my hubby doesn't like to talk about it as he think I'm too young (I'm 24! Thats not that young! come on!). Anyway, I want to start trying in July (if I can convince my hubby to start trying) but I also get a little nervous as my sister cannot fall pregnant naturally and neither could my aunt. I try not to think about the bad things that could happen though cause then I get myself stressed and apparantly if you are stressed it is even more difficult to fall pregnant and there's higher risk of miscarriage.

Thanks so much, this makes me feel a lot better! Thanks all of you, it's good to know I'm normal, and I'm not the only one worrying about this stuff. This might sound dumb, but I think it will be easier not to worry once I'm actually trying, once I'm actually doing something about it. For now, just waiting, I think this might be the hard part.