Hello! I'm new to the site, looking forward to getting to know all you other wtt ladies
Today I'm absolutely elated as my OH has finally talked about ttc We've been together a decade and he has always said wait or maybe whenever I've asked, until yesterday when we finally got an offer on his flat (he's been getting around to selling it since before I met him!), and he had a cry and said he feels like we have a better future now as he's been thinking about babies for a while. I was utterly gobsmacked, I'd deliberately not mentioned it for about a year as I'd all but given up waiting (well maybe the odd comment or look here and there).
We haven't set a date yet to ttc, but I'm so excited now that I know it will one day happen that life just feels a million times better, I'm totally over the moon I'm sure you ladies will understand where I'm coming from. I'm 30 this year (he's older) and I was starting to feel like I'd thrown my chance away by being with my OH, it's such a relief to finally be on the same page.
I'd like to start trying straight away as I'm at uni and I'd get a paid year out if we hurry (I'm in year 2 of 3), which would be better than being newly qualified and going on maternity leave. I hope he doesn't want a long wait. But hey, so long as I get my baby someday I'll be happy whatever
That's wonderful! So happy for you! I think you'll find this forum incredibly supportive.
I totally understand your elation; being with OH for 10 years and rarely daring to bring up the topic of future babies became unbearable this year, when my hormones seemed to hit me over the head with a sledgehammer! Imagine my giddiness when I got a possible and tentative "yes" out of him for ttc next year! Now am waiting patiently as he warms up to the idea. Ideally he is as excited as I am to be a parent by the time we ttc. I don't know how likely that is but fingers crossed!
Hello AnneBurg, thanks for your post, it sounds like we're in a similar situation. The last ten years has felt like an eternity, and although I love my OH very much I just couldn't imagine life without having a family so it was just heartbreaking. I'm now so excited even though I might still be in for a looong wait, it's just such a relief to know that one day we'll be trying for our baby My OH has spent the last couple of days giving me sheepish looks which just make me grin so much. Really hope your OH warms up quickly!
Hello Jess_1984, thanks for your congratulations! It was a total shock when he said he's been thinking about it as he's shown no signs of interest at all for the last ten years I'd stopped mentioning it for so long as I'd pretty much given up on him ever wanting a family, totally over the moon!
Squashy: too weird!! I just read your post on the getting to know you thread and we're pretty much the same age and profession (ish) and Charlotte is my number 1 name for our (hopefully!) first child! Awesome coincidence!
I think my OH just needs time- time to slowly digest the idea of having a family beyond our cat. And time to realize that life doesn't come to a shattering halt when one has a child, but rather, opens new doors.
Hey Ladies, thanks for all the replies! So nice to find such an ace site with so many lovely people all feeling the same
AnneBurg, Oh wow! Lol! What profession are you in (if you don't mind me asking that is)? Are you in the UK? That is a pretty ace coincidence, I wonder if we are doppelgänger's too hehe. I once walked into a patient's room and his jaw dropped, we looked at each other for a few seconds, then he told me I looked just like a relative of his and he wondered what she was doing there, until he realised it couldn't have been lol, he gave me a few strange stares after that... so I know I have one out there somewhere ;-)
I'm really warming to the name Charlotte, he likes it because he wants to shorten it to Charlie, and I quite fancy Lottie. But as I know a LOT of Charlotte's I'm not sure we'll go for it. No doubt we'll have a boy, I'm convinced, I was the only girl of seven and he was one of two boys, so although it's supposed to be equal chances either way I'm not so certain lol .
At the moment I'm being a little bit quiet on the baby talk, as he's a tat stressed about selling this flat, but I'm secretly so excited that I've been looking online at lots of cute baby gear that I'd like... lusting over prams and clothes :* I hope he doesn't want to wait ages. We have two spare bedrooms full of junk and last night I was standing in the door way's trying to picture which will be our nursery...
I can relate to that, my OH has some weird idea that babies completely change everything about your life and cost a fortune, that you can't go anywhere and do anything once they're here, that you need wrapping up in cotton wool while you're expecting, that you get big and stay big after birth... where do men get these ideas eh? I'm so looking forward to all the things we CAN do once baby is here, visiting the family and watching them get fussed and loved, all the cuddles and giggles, all the firsts, the bedtime bath and story routines, attaching a little baby seat to my bike when we go for long rides, all the great places to visit as a family, looking forward to getting home after a looong shift to my man and my baby awwww...
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