Worried about telling family - Page 2

tinkalink · Apr 14th, 2012, 08:34 AM

My mum is super excited for me and keeps asking me if we've started TTC yet

My dad on the other hand... he is a vicar so probably won't approve of our circumstances! However, I am 27 now and do not live at home so if his reaction isn't too great I think I'll just give him space and time to come to terms with it. I am an adult with a stable lifestyle so I can't see anything wrong with me and my partner TTC! It is a bit scary though the thought of announcing it....

nikkiana · Apr 14th, 2012, 22:39 PM

I doubt I'll tell anyone in my family anything until I'm pregnant, but I'm sure that it would be warmly received news. I'm far more nervous about how OH's family would react... I haven't really gotten to know his family yet. I met his mother once, and she wasn't terribly impressed with me and has been making hurtful comments whenever OH brings up our relationship to her... I'm not sure how she'd take it... but I'm also hoping that we get past that initial first impression.

wwchix · Apr 15th, 2012, 04:00 AM

I've not read through the whole thread but the vibe is the same as my opinion, it's up to you when you TTC.

If its that much of an issue with her, don't tell her when you are, wait until you get your BFP.

I'm still not sure if we will tell my mum when we are TTC as I don't want the questions of are we/aren't we yet. But she know's we will be once we are debt-free from family

xx

shellyt · Apr 15th, 2012, 06:07 AM

I am scared when I will have to tell me mum because she lives in Australia (me England) and I am worried it will make her un settled and upset she isnt here xx

AnneBurg · Apr 15th, 2012, 08:40 AM

I'm kinda worried about telling a few people: my sister, while I love her to death, is older and I think baby news would make her feel like she is "falling behind" so to speak. Some of my friends as well, because they see me as very career driven, so it would just seem strange to them, and maybe unrelatable?

shellyt · Apr 15th, 2012, 09:38 AM

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Originally Posted by AnneBurg

I'm kinda worried about telling a few people: my sister, while I love her to death, is older and I think baby news would make her feel like she is "falling behind" so to speak. Some of my friends as well, because they see me as very career driven, so it would just seem strange to them, and maybe unrelatable?

I'm sure it will be a nice surprise :-) x

Amazeballs · Apr 16th, 2012, 08:15 AM

I'm 24 years old and have been married for only a month!And I'm dying to start trying for a baby but whenever I bring it up with my family they also say the same thing.. "Oh you too young, etc" It's so annoying! I also feel that when I do eventually fall pregnant perhaps I'll feel reluctant to tell them as I don't feel I have their full support.

My husband is 28 years old but he doesn't want to start trying either, he also feels im too young! Its a terrible place to be in cause all I want to do is have a baby but he wants to wait. And for who knows how long.

I think if you and your husband are ready to have a baby then you guys should go for it. You have started your own little family now and frankly your mom shouldn't be telling you when to have a baby and when not to. It's your body and when you are ready to start your own family then you should go for it.

xxxx

CakeCottage · Apr 16th, 2012, 09:54 AM

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Originally Posted by MrsGruffalo

I have, and I'm 27. My mum is totally freaked out about the idea of becoming a grandma, so in her head, I'm not ready to be a mum. Sadly, it's her issue, not mine... and hopefully she's going to be a grandma soon whether she likes it or not!

I know exactly how you feel with that one!

Same here, I'm 26 (27 in October) and my mum still tells me I'm too young but then says well you don't want to leave it too late as you'll probably need ivf (she works in a fertility unit)
Can't win ha!!
I think she just thinks she's still too young to be a nanna ha x

bornthiswayxo · Apr 16th, 2012, 11:00 AM

It's a fairly normal reaction to get parents saying 'wait until you're older', or something similar. My parents are dead against me even NTNP (or just using condoms lol) because I currently live with them right now, which I understand, and I have a lot of boxes to tick (so to speak) before I think about TTC, as my life isn't going as planned at the moment. I think as long as both you and your hubby settled and happy with the way things are going (in your relationship, money, home, maybe jobs); you should go for it whenever you want to. I think future grandparents get nervous about the idea sometimes, but once it happens they love it. Good luck!

pianogirl · Apr 16th, 2012, 11:16 AM

I'm 23 and we're planning to start TTC in July/August. If you know you're ready for kids (I know I am ready, depending on the day, haha) and your OH is on the same page as you then you should go for it. You and your OH need to make the decision yourselves. It's your family, your choice. I'm excited for you!

Apr 14th, 2012, 08:34 AM	#11
tinkalink Pregnant (Expecting) Active BnB Member Join Date: Mar 2011 Posts: 668	My mum is super excited for me and keeps asking me if we've started TTC yet My dad on the other hand... he is a vicar so probably won't approve of our circumstances! However, I am 27 now and do not live at home so if his reaction isn't too great I think I'll just give him space and time to come to terms with it. I am an adult with a stable lifestyle so I can't see anything wrong with me and my partner TTC! It is a bit scary though the thought of announcing it....

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Apr 14th, 2012, 22:39 PM	#12
nikkiana Waiting To Try (WTT) Active BnB Member Join Date: Apr 2012 Location: NYC Posts: 66	I doubt I'll tell anyone in my family anything until I'm pregnant, but I'm sure that it would be warmly received news. I'm far more nervous about how OH's family would react... I haven't really gotten to know his family yet. I met his mother once, and she wasn't terribly impressed with me and has been making hurtful comments whenever OH brings up our relationship to her... I'm not sure how she'd take it... but I'm also hoping that we get past that initial first impression.

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Apr 15th, 2012, 04:00 AM	#13
wwchix Trying to conceive (TTC) Active BnB Member Join Date: Aug 2011 Location: Yorkshire Posts: 571	I've not read through the whole thread but the vibe is the same as my opinion, it's up to you when you TTC. If its that much of an issue with her, don't tell her when you are, wait until you get your BFP. I'm still not sure if we will tell my mum when we are TTC as I don't want the questions of are we/aren't we yet. But she know's we will be once we are debt-free from family xx

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Apr 15th, 2012, 06:07 AM	#14
shellyt Pregnant (Expecting) Active BnB Member Join Date: Mar 2012 Location: England Posts: 189	I am scared when I will have to tell me mum because she lives in Australia (me England) and I am worried it will make her un settled and upset she isnt here xx

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Apr 15th, 2012, 08:40 AM	#15
AnneBurg Trying to conceive (TTC) Active BnB Member Join Date: Mar 2012 Location: Canada! Posts: 130	I'm kinda worried about telling a few people: my sister, while I love her to death, is older and I think baby news would make her feel like she is "falling behind" so to speak. Some of my friends as well, because they see me as very career driven, so it would just seem strange to them, and maybe unrelatable?

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Apr 16th, 2012, 08:15 AM	#17
Amazeballs Pregnant (Expecting) Active BnB Member Join Date: Apr 2012 Location: Malawi, Africa Posts: 294	I'm 24 years old and have been married for only a month!And I'm dying to start trying for a baby but whenever I bring it up with my family they also say the same thing.. "Oh you too young, etc" It's so annoying! I also feel that when I do eventually fall pregnant perhaps I'll feel reluctant to tell them as I don't feel I have their full support. My husband is 28 years old but he doesn't want to start trying either, he also feels im too young! Its a terrible place to be in cause all I want to do is have a baby but he wants to wait. And for who knows how long. I think if you and your husband are ready to have a baby then you guys should go for it. You have started your own little family now and frankly your mom shouldn't be telling you when to have a baby and when not to. It's your body and when you are ready to start your own family then you should go for it. xxxx

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Apr 16th, 2012, 11:00 AM	#19
bornthiswayxo Waiting To Try (WTT) Chat Happy BnB Member Join Date: Apr 2011 Location: UK. Posts: 1,613	It's a fairly normal reaction to get parents saying 'wait until you're older', or something similar. My parents are dead against me even NTNP (or just using condoms lol) because I currently live with them right now, which I understand, and I have a lot of boxes to tick (so to speak) before I think about TTC, as my life isn't going as planned at the moment. I think as long as both you and your hubby settled and happy with the way things are going (in your relationship, money, home, maybe jobs); you should go for it whenever you want to. I think future grandparents get nervous about the idea sometimes, but once it happens they love it. Good luck!

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Apr 16th, 2012, 11:16 AM	#20
pianogirl Pregnant (Expecting) Active BnB Member Join Date: Apr 2012 Posts: 193	I'm 23 and we're planning to start TTC in July/August. If you know you're ready for kids (I know I am ready, depending on the day, haha) and your OH is on the same page as you then you should go for it. You and your OH need to make the decision yourselves. It's your family, your choice. I'm excited for you!

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