I think this is the right section? Or I hope you girls can help me?!

I would like another child in the not so distant future! Our LO is 2.7 years old and I always liked the idea of a 3-4 year age gap.

My OH on the other hand is adamant that we are having no more children! He feels that by having more than one it will become more of a chore being a parent and he will not enjoy it as much as he does with having just Tom.

Oh and he thinks that because we're both self employed we never really know when next months paycheck is coming from. But we've not stuggled much up to now!

How do I change his mind??? Did you have to convince your OH??

i am still working on my OH right now.

We have 2 kids a girl and a boy so the whole package really. He just doesn't understand that I just don't feel done with our family.

He knows that I am charting this cycle and doingOPKs and he knows that I am taking folic acid. Fingers crossed.

After having Elliot DH was adament we wouldn't have anymore (charming haha) he's one of 4 and always felt it was too manic in his house, but I basically said to him an only child was absolutely completely and utterly out of the question, I asked what his favourite memories were as a child and although he didn't answer I knew every one of them would involve his siblings some how (he's very close with them), I told him he was being selfish and there was no way I wouldn't give Elliot a sibling, even if we couldn't medically I'd adopt and I pretty much said it was that important to me he'd know where to go....I didn't say that in so many words or entirely mean it but I think it demonstrated how important it was to me. I managed to get him to at least stop saying 'never' and for the last year he hasn't even mentioned the fact we wouldn't have any more children, I openly talk about when I'll get my coil removed, when we will TTC and he is happy, he actually brought it up himself the other day lol, I just worry the pressure is on for me to have a girl because I know he'd love a girl lol. Anyhow when he said 'never' Elliot was only 4 months, sleeping terribly, we were in a flat and DH was unemployed, we are now financially stable, out 'the other side' of the sleepless nights and DH in his dream career so he's 100% on board. So I guess all I can say is complete and utter pressure, and time lol. I would just reiterate it being more for your child than you, so they have a sibling.

I think circumstances can make a big difference in terms of changing their minds for sure.

well, my son was an only child for almost 11 years, and it was very lonely for him . He have alot of social issues to work on as well (he is used to being the center of the attention) . having a sibling would have helped him with interaction with other kids. He is used to talking to grown ups.

I had a brother growing up and I hated him until I was about 20..so some siblings never get on, now we are very close but I hope mine are good friends although so far they both do not like one another but they do have some fun together which is so sweet to watch.

I bet it's frustrating/upsetting no matter how many children we want!!

My OH would definately freak if I started taking folic acid and charting :hehe:

Thank you

I definately need to be a bit pushier, and explain the reasons surrounding having a sibling and the pros to it!!........ I know he'll get annoyed but I think it's really important!!

I might have to show your reply to my OH!!!

We always thought that by socialising Tom he would be okay as an only child, but you can't always do that! I see him playing of an evening on his own and feel really sad for him! Thank you x

I'm working on trying to convince my OH to have our 1st one!!!! It's terrible! All I want is a baby! The more I seem to talk about it to him the more it seems to drive him insane and away from the idea of having a baby. Why don't you with your husband way up the pro's and con's of having a 2nd baby.. If you can afford it financially then your husband should really consider having a 2nd child. It's so nice for children to grow up with a sibling to laugh and play with.. I wish you the best of luck.