Need advice from mummy's/daddy's who already have two children
Hi me and my partner had our beautiful baby boy in July 2011 we had decided that we would like to start trying when Jamie was around 15 month old so that the gap was t too big or too small however OH spoke to me yesterday about how he wouldnt mind trying soon however he is really worried that he won't feel the same about another child all he keeps saying is what it I favour Jamie over the next one
I think it's just something you have to experience iykwim. You can never tell someone how they'll feel it's just one of those things that just comes naturally. All you can do is try to reassure him, because believe me there is more than enough space in your heart for all of your children however many you have
I will tell you I had the same worries when I was pregnant with my son. My daughter had been an only child for 5 years and then all of a sudden we were having another child. I was worried I wouldn't be able to love another child as much as I love my daughter. But the thing is, when my son was born, I had just as much love for him as I have for my daugter. Naturally my heart grew and the amount of love I had to give grew as well.
I think it's natural for parents to have those worries. Hth Hun!
I love both my kids just the same. They have some of the same qualitites, as well as different ones. My bond with them are different as they are in different stages in their lives. My kids are almost 3 years a part, and when we have #3 he/she will be 3 years apart from ds2. While it's totally up to you when you'd like another, I personally would not want another baby before the other child was potty learnt and more self sufficient. I was a lot more tired with my second pregnancy than with my first, most likely due to having a toddler to chase around.
I don't have any kids so I can't really advise on that front. However, I just wanted to say that I strongly believe the one thing we have an infinite supply of in this world is love. We have enough to go around for everyone we care about with extra to spare. To echo one of the earlier posters, our hearts grow to supply love to new people, not shrink!
I honestly did not think it would be possible to love him as much as I love my daughter, but only a couple of days after he was born, I did. There is a 21 month gap between my kids, and there is much to love about a new baby when you are having to deal with a troublesome toddler!!
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