Need advice from mummy's/daddy's who already have two children

iwanababybump · Apr 15th, 2012, 05:59 AM

Hi me and my partner had our beautiful baby boy in July 2011 we had decided that we would like to start trying when Jamie was around 15 month old so that the gap was t too big or too small however OH spoke to me yesterday about how he wouldnt mind trying soon however he is really worried that he won't feel the same about another child all he keeps saying is what it I favour Jamie over the next one

Any ideas how I can ease his mind

Gemie · Apr 15th, 2012, 06:15 AM

I think it's just something you have to experience iykwim. You can never tell someone how they'll feel it's just one of those things that just comes naturally. All you can do is try to reassure him, because believe me there is more than enough space in your heart for all of your children however many you have

iwanababybump · Apr 15th, 2012, 07:10 AM

Thanx gemie I know he wont favour (or At least I don't believe he will) I just Told him they would both be special in their own unique ways

junemomma09 · Apr 15th, 2012, 07:28 AM

I will tell you I had the same worries when I was pregnant with my son. My daughter had been an only child for 5 years and then all of a sudden we were having another child. I was worried I wouldn't be able to love another child as much as I love my daughter. But the thing is, when my son was born, I had just as much love for him as I have for my daugter. Naturally my heart grew and the amount of love I had to give grew as well.
I think it's natural for parents to have those worries. Hth Hun!

iwanababybump · Apr 15th, 2012, 09:08 AM

ThAnkyou I'll show him this post thAnkyou again

goddess25 · Apr 15th, 2012, 10:38 AM

I kind of worried about this too before livi was born but once that baby comes out everything falls into place.

bellablue · Apr 15th, 2012, 10:56 AM

thank you for this post i feel that way!

im sure he will ove the baby so much

i love my daughter so much and my husband wants to have number two like now lol

i can see where hes coming from

i feel like that but i know once i am pregnant the love will grow for the next baby

thanks ladies

NaturalMomma · Apr 15th, 2012, 15:59 PM

I love both my kids just the same. They have some of the same qualitites, as well as different ones. My bond with them are different as they are in different stages in their lives. My kids are almost 3 years a part, and when we have #3 he/she will be 3 years apart from ds2. While it's totally up to you when you'd like another, I personally would not want another baby before the other child was potty learnt and more self sufficient. I was a lot more tired with my second pregnancy than with my first, most likely due to having a toddler to chase around.

Good luck!

Kismet · Apr 15th, 2012, 16:22 PM

I don't have any kids so I can't really advise on that front. However, I just wanted to say that I strongly believe the one thing we have an infinite supply of in this world is love. We have enough to go around for everyone we care about with extra to spare. To echo one of the earlier posters, our hearts grow to supply love to new people, not shrink!

Jaz78 · Apr 17th, 2012, 01:07 AM

I had my second child 4 weeks ago.

I honestly did not think it would be possible to love him as much as I love my daughter, but only a couple of days after he was born, I did. There is a 21 month gap between my kids, and there is much to love about a new baby when you are having to deal with a troublesome toddler!!

Apr 15th, 2012, 05:59 AM	#1
iwanababybump Mum (Mom) Active BnB Member Join Date: Aug 2010 Location: North East England Posts: 667	Need advice from mummy's/daddy's who already have two children Hi me and my partner had our beautiful baby boy in July 2011 we had decided that we would like to start trying when Jamie was around 15 month old so that the gap was t too big or too small however OH spoke to me yesterday about how he wouldnt mind trying soon however he is really worried that he won't feel the same about another child all he keeps saying is what it I favour Jamie over the next one Any ideas how I can ease his mind

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Apr 15th, 2012, 06:15 AM	#2
Gemie Mum (Mom) BnB Addict Join Date: May 2010 Location: West Midlands Posts: 8,536	I think it's just something you have to experience iykwim. You can never tell someone how they'll feel it's just one of those things that just comes naturally. All you can do is try to reassure him, because believe me there is more than enough space in your heart for all of your children however many you have

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Apr 15th, 2012, 07:28 AM	#4
junemomma09 Mum (Mom) BnB Addict Join Date: Jan 2009 Location: Florida Posts: 2,678	I will tell you I had the same worries when I was pregnant with my son. My daughter had been an only child for 5 years and then all of a sudden we were having another child. I was worried I wouldn't be able to love another child as much as I love my daughter. But the thing is, when my son was born, I had just as much love for him as I have for my daugter. Naturally my heart grew and the amount of love I had to give grew as well. I think it's natural for parents to have those worries. Hth Hun!

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iwanababybump Mum (Mom) Active BnB Member Join Date: Aug 2010 Location: North East England Posts: 667	ThAnkyou I'll show him this post thAnkyou again

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Apr 15th, 2012, 10:38 AM	#6
goddess25 Mum (Mom) BnB Addict Join Date: Jun 2008 Location: vancouver Posts: 9,658	I kind of worried about this too before livi was born but once that baby comes out everything falls into place.

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iwanababybump Mum (Mom) Active BnB Member Join Date: Aug 2010 Location: North East England Posts: 667	Thanx gemie I know he wont favour (or At least I don't believe he will) I just Told him they would both be special in their own unique ways

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Apr 15th, 2012, 10:56 AM	#7
bellablue Other BnB Addict Join Date: Oct 2010 Location: east coast Posts: 4,496	thank you for this post i feel that way! im sure he will ove the baby so much i love my daughter so much and my husband wants to have number two like now lol i can see where hes coming from i feel like that but i know once i am pregnant the love will grow for the next baby thanks ladies

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Apr 15th, 2012, 15:59 PM	#8
NaturalMomma Mum (Mom) BnB Addict Join Date: Dec 2010 Posts: 2,601	I love both my kids just the same. They have some of the same qualitites, as well as different ones. My bond with them are different as they are in different stages in their lives. My kids are almost 3 years a part, and when we have #3 he/she will be 3 years apart from ds2. While it's totally up to you when you'd like another, I personally would not want another baby before the other child was potty learnt and more self sufficient. I was a lot more tired with my second pregnancy than with my first, most likely due to having a toddler to chase around. Good luck!

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Apr 15th, 2012, 16:22 PM	#9
Kismet Trying to conceive (TTC) BnB Addict Join Date: Mar 2012 Location: Ontario, Canada Posts: 4,983	I don't have any kids so I can't really advise on that front. However, I just wanted to say that I strongly believe the one thing we have an infinite supply of in this world is love. We have enough to go around for everyone we care about with extra to spare. To echo one of the earlier posters, our hearts grow to supply love to new people, not shrink!

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Apr 17th, 2012, 01:07 AM	#10
Jaz78 Trying to conceive (TTC) Active BnB Member Join Date: Jun 2011 Location: Australia Posts: 62	I had my second child 4 weeks ago. I honestly did not think it would be possible to love him as much as I love my daughter, but only a couple of days after he was born, I did. There is a 21 month gap between my kids, and there is much to love about a new baby when you are having to deal with a troublesome toddler!!

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