This is a bit of a rant really so I apologise but I really just want reassurance from those who are or have successfully done BLW. My little girl is 5 months and has just started showing an interest in food so we eat as soon as my husband gets home and sit LO at the table with us. So far she's held and played with (swallowing very little) of banana, nectarine, avocado, pepper, carrot etc.
Having read the book I know that she is still getting nutritionally everything she needs from her milk (she has been on Aptamil First milk since 4 weeks old) but my parents are making me feel as though I'm starving her. I am fed up with the constant criticism about how she should be on cereal, rice, that I should be pureeing everything and feeding her like 'normal' people. This isn't meant as a debate between BLW and TW. All my friends are doing TW, but BLW appealed to us and this is the route we've chosen to go down.
I just wanted to ask for advice really on how to deal with the nasty comments, reassurance that my daughter isn't 'starving' and to ask when is the point in which you do worry about how little solids they're taking? I do realise it's not at 5/6 months. Already I have seen an amazing transformation in eye hand coordination over a few weeks and she seems to really be enjoying it. I'm just struggling as an over sensitive tired Mummy.
We get this from DH's aunt (his mother is no longer with us so his aunt is like my MIL) she is 84. Despite us explaining the BLW theory to her and her saying at fourmonths she didnt understand it but would respect our decisions she has tried to ospoonfeed my LO several times. And the other day he was happily munching through a breadstick and she kept trying to take the 'bits' he had broken off out of his mouth, LO was getting understandably annoyed cos he was enjoying his snack. She kept saying hes gonna choke on that.
He was fine. Even my own mum who is a bit younger gets freaked out watching him eat. He loves grapes (halved of course) and she keeps telling me they need to be skinned and mushed. He coughed once while eating one, he had a cold and had been coughing all day and she about wet herself wrestling it off him, then he started crying and she was like see hes upset cos he was choking. So i said hes upset you just stole his lunch, and gave him another one which he popped straight in his mouth.
Just stick with your convictions, you know baby best so you will know if hes hungry cos hes not getting enough but to be honest i was expecting it to take much longer than it did for LO to start swallowng quite a lot of his food, as we have only been weaning for 6 weeks and now he eats most of all his meals, and has just the last two days started working on his pincer grip instead of fist grabbing so i think its helping his development copme on great too
I have the same problem with my mum. She is panicking and telling my to try give him puree while he is feeding himself! She is obsessed with fat (constantly telling me I need to loose weight), so I tald her about the fact that spoon feeding can cause obesity... She didn't have anything else to say... Lol
Be strong and do what you think is right.
My LO enjoys feeding himself so much, that he refuse to be fed, doesn't even let me hold something (our tray is very slippery) for him!
In fact that is the article that ridiculously has brought this all up again. My Mum probably thought she was being helpful sending me it. I replied saying, 'yes, this is one of the very good reasons why we've chosen to BLW'. I then got a fully-loaded email back stating, 'all very well but it's not filling your daughter up!' I'm very sensitive about feeding due to huge issues I had with breastfeeding and know that much of this stems from my insecurity but I really wish I wasn't being made to feel like I'm starving my five month old. My parents are looking after my little one this weekend so I can have a first night away for my birthday and I'm actually dreading the comments about how 'hungry' she is (she takes exactly the right amount according to the aptamil guidelines for her age plus the finger foods she's starting to try). I am however pretty confident that they wouldn't go as far as trying to get baby rice down her neck. X
How on earth did she come to the conclusion that TW was better than BLW after reading that article. It is clearly saying the exact opposite isn't it. In fact I got the impression that the experts were suggesting that changes should be made to encourage more people to BLW. Maybe you should tell her to re-read it and draw her attention to the bits about being over fed and over weight. It is going to be difficult without her support, but just have faith that she will realise it was the right thing to do months from now, when LO is enjoying good food and thriving
Blw is quite a new thing. When I had my son I didn't do it as it sounded all new and radical. Of course now its the norm. Just don't worry what people say. Everyone thinks that how they brought up their child is the right way. Your way - whatever that may be - is right for you. I just shrug and tell my parents "this is how they do it now" or you could annoy them by saying "food before one is just for fun!"
Although personally I think that article is rubbish. Feeding your kids too much andgiving them craps makes them fatter! Bnabies have been spoon fed for years!
I agree! I am BLW LO but my decision to do so was not because I was worried about obesity, in fact it was the opposite. My now grown up son was spoon fed and was the fussiest eater I've ever known and ended up being underweight as a result, so I decided to try a different approach this time in the hope that my daughter would enjoy meal times in a way that my son never did. So I know from personal experience that spoon feeding does not necessarily lead to over eating
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