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Old Mar 14th, 2016, 06:23 AM   11
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I'm going back to work at the end of April, my wee one will be 6 months old. I'm also a teacher, so I get what you mean about work-life balance.

I'm working 3 days per week, my partner is also going to be dropping hours and our families are doing the rest of the childcare.

I totally get what you mean about providing for your family and having a work ethic instilled in them. Particularly as I have a little girl, it is important to me that she sees her daddy cut his hours as well as me so as she knows that a woman's place isn't in the kitchen. I think we have a nice balance, two days at home with mummy, a day at home with daddy, then a day at each set of grandparents.



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Old Mar 23rd, 2017, 11:20 AM   12
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Even as a teacher you should have the option to work part-time as a job share. I'm a teacher and interviewing to go back to work and I'm specifically looking for job shares. They are available you just need to hunt around.



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Old Mar 23rd, 2017, 11:30 AM   13
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Im of the opposite thinking. I think as a mom with kids, you shouldnt work and its just as valuable as a job as any. ( unless youre a single mom, other circumstances, etc).

I nanny (and not for the money). I stay at home. I homeschool. My day isnt lazy. My kids are just as socialized and mature as a working moms kids.

IMO, if you dont have to work, then dont. Screw your in laws.



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Old Mar 23rd, 2017, 12:37 PM   14
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Im of the opposite thinking. I think as a mom with kids, you shouldnt work and its just as valuable as a job as any. ( unless youre a single mom, other circumstances, etc).

I nanny (and not for the money). I stay at home. I homeschool. My day isnt lazy. My kids are just as socialized and mature as a working moms kids.

IMO, if you dont have to work, then dont. Screw your in laws.
Judgy comment much? If you are a mum you SHOULDNT work? Ridiculous thing to say. You do you and let others do them, this comment has really annoyed me to be honest. Having a vagina doesn't mean that your life should stop just because a child so happened to grow inside you. My genetalia don't define me. Nor does that fact that I have a child. I worked damn hard to have a good job, I love my job and sure aren't going to give it up just because I have children. It doesn't mean I love my daughter any less! Your comment is outdated and sexist.

Ps, if women choose to be sahm's and it is financially viable for them to do so then fair enough, but it certainly shouldn't be expected that the vagina owning parent automatically gives up their career to play with a kid all day. It isn't 1920 any more!

And also, I want my daughter to grow up knowing that a woman's place isn't in the home. A woman's place is wherever she wants her place to be,whether that be in the home, in a career or in education. If she ever feels she NEEDS a man to go out and work to pay her keep then I will have failed her. If she grows up and makes that CHOICE then fair enough, but it is all about choice. Your comment devalues the hard work that women have been doing for generations to smash the glass ceiling and make it easier for women to juggle family and work life.



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Old Mar 23rd, 2017, 14:42 PM   15
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Im of the opposite thinking. I think as a mom with kids, you shouldnt work and its just as valuable as a job as any. ( unless youre a single mom, other circumstances, etc).

I nanny (and not for the money). I stay at home. I homeschool. My day isnt lazy. My kids are just as socialized and mature as a working moms kids.

IMO, if you dont have to work, then dont. Screw your in laws.
Judgy comment much? If you are a mum you SHOULDNT work? Ridiculous thing to say. You do you and let others do them, this comment has really annoyed me to be honest. Having a vagina doesn't mean that your life should stop just because a child so happened to grow inside you. My genetalia don't define me. Nor does that fact that I have a child. I worked damn hard to have a good job, I love my job and sure aren't going to give it up just because I have children. It doesn't mean I love my daughter any less! Your comment is outdated and sexist.

Ps, if women choose to be sahm's and it is financially viable for them to do so then fair enough, but it certainly shouldn't be expected that the vagina owning parent automatically gives up their career to play with a kid all day. It isn't 1920 any more!

And also, I want my daughter to grow up knowing that a woman's place isn't in the home. A woman's place is wherever she wants her place to be,whether that be in the home, in a career or in education. If she ever feels she NEEDS a man to go out and work to pay her keep then I will have failed her. If she grows up and makes that CHOICE then fair enough, but it is all about choice. Your comment devalues the hard work that women have been doing for generations to smash the glass ceiling and make it easier for women to juggle family and work life.
Shes on a public forum asking a question. I answered. Im allowed MY opinion. If OP wanted ONE opinion, that ONLY agreed with her, she should have stated as such!

Good day to you~!



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Old Mar 23rd, 2017, 15:50 PM   16
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Im of the opposite thinking. I think as a mom with kids, you shouldnt work and its just as valuable as a job as any. ( unless youre a single mom, other circumstances, etc).

I nanny (and not for the money). I stay at home. I homeschool. My day isnt lazy. My kids are just as socialized and mature as a working moms kids.

IMO, if you dont have to work, then dont. Screw your in laws.
Judgy comment much? If you are a mum you SHOULDNT work? Ridiculous thing to say. You do you and let others do them, this comment has really annoyed me to be honest. Having a vagina doesn't mean that your life should stop just because a child so happened to grow inside you. My genetalia don't define me. Nor does that fact that I have a child. I worked damn hard to have a good job, I love my job and sure aren't going to give it up just because I have children. It doesn't mean I love my daughter any less! Your comment is outdated and sexist.

Ps, if women choose to be sahm's and it is financially viable for them to do so then fair enough, but it certainly shouldn't be expected that the vagina owning parent automatically gives up their career to play with a kid all day. It isn't 1920 any more!

And also, I want my daughter to grow up knowing that a woman's place isn't in the home. A woman's place is wherever she wants her place to be,whether that be in the home, in a career or in education. If she ever feels she NEEDS a man to go out and work to pay her keep then I will have failed her. If she grows up and makes that CHOICE then fair enough, but it is all about choice. Your comment devalues the hard work that women have been doing for generations to smash the glass ceiling and make it easier for women to juggle family and work life.
Shes on a public forum asking a question. I answered. Im allowed MY opinion. If OP wanted ONE opinion, that ONLY agreed with her, she should have stated as such!

Good day to you~!
Judge away. You aren't entitled to have an opinion on my life. It's good to see you are raising kids to be open minded *rolls eyes*



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Old Mar 23rd, 2017, 16:21 PM   17
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Im of the opposite thinking. I think as a mom with kids, you shouldnt work and its just as valuable as a job as any. ( unless youre a single mom, other circumstances, etc).

I nanny (and not for the money). I stay at home. I homeschool. My day isnt lazy. My kids are just as socialized and mature as a working moms kids.

IMO, if you dont have to work, then dont. Screw your in laws.
Judgy comment much? If you are a mum you SHOULDNT work? Ridiculous thing to say. You do you and let others do them, this comment has really annoyed me to be honest. Having a vagina doesn't mean that your life should stop just because a child so happened to grow inside you. My genetalia don't define me. Nor does that fact that I have a child. I worked damn hard to have a good job, I love my job and sure aren't going to give it up just because I have children. It doesn't mean I love my daughter any less! Your comment is outdated and sexist.

Ps, if women choose to be sahm's and it is financially viable for them to do so then fair enough, but it certainly shouldn't be expected that the vagina owning parent automatically gives up their career to play with a kid all day. It isn't 1920 any more!

And also, I want my daughter to grow up knowing that a woman's place isn't in the home. A woman's place is wherever she wants her place to be,whether that be in the home, in a career or in education. If she ever feels she NEEDS a man to go out and work to pay her keep then I will have failed her. If she grows up and makes that CHOICE then fair enough, but it is all about choice. Your comment devalues the hard work that women have been doing for generations to smash the glass ceiling and make it easier for women to juggle family and work life.
Shes on a public forum asking a question. I answered. Im allowed MY opinion. If OP wanted ONE opinion, that ONLY agreed with her, she should have stated as such!

Good day to you~!
Judge away. You aren't entitled to have an opinion on my life. It's good to see you are raising kids to be open minded *rolls eyes*
Youll be ok in your small bubble, i promise. Life will go on.



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Old Mar 23rd, 2017, 16:47 PM   18
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Im of the opposite thinking. I think as a mom with kids, you shouldnt work and its just as valuable as a job as any. ( unless youre a single mom, other circumstances, etc).

I nanny (and not for the money). I stay at home. I homeschool. My day isnt lazy. My kids are just as socialized and mature as a working moms kids.

IMO, if you dont have to work, then dont. Screw your in laws.
Judgy comment much? If you are a mum you SHOULDNT work? Ridiculous thing to say. You do you and let others do them, this comment has really annoyed me to be honest. Having a vagina doesn't mean that your life should stop just because a child so happened to grow inside you. My genetalia don't define me. Nor does that fact that I have a child. I worked damn hard to have a good job, I love my job and sure aren't going to give it up just because I have children. It doesn't mean I love my daughter any less! Your comment is outdated and sexist.

Ps, if women choose to be sahm's and it is financially viable for them to do so then fair enough, but it certainly shouldn't be expected that the vagina owning parent automatically gives up their career to play with a kid all day. It isn't 1920 any more!

And also, I want my daughter to grow up knowing that a woman's place isn't in the home. A woman's place is wherever she wants her place to be,whether that be in the home, in a career or in education. If she ever feels she NEEDS a man to go out and work to pay her keep then I will have failed her. If she grows up and makes that CHOICE then fair enough, but it is all about choice. Your comment devalues the hard work that women have been doing for generations to smash the glass ceiling and make it easier for women to juggle family and work life.
Shes on a public forum asking a question. I answered. Im allowed MY opinion. If OP wanted ONE opinion, that ONLY agreed with her, she should have stated as such!

Good day to you~!
Judge away. You aren't entitled to have an opinion on my life. It's good to see you are raising kids to be open minded *rolls eyes*
Youll be ok in your small bubble, i promise. Life will go on.
It's YOU that is living in a bubble, thinking that (to directly quote you) WOMEN should be at home with the kids. A woman should be wherever the hell she wants to be.

FYI, children f working mothers are more likely to be successful than children of SAHMs so when I "choose" to go to work, I'm not doing it because I can't be arsed to look after my daughter, being a SAHM is far less chaotic in my experience than being a working mum. I'm doing it because my daughter deserves to have the future she wants, not one defined by her genitalia.

http://hbswk.hbs.edu/item/kids-benef...-a-working-mom

see website above to show that my claims are not unsubstantiated.

For what it's worth my partner is becoming a SAHD but apparently he is an inferior parent as he was born with different body parts.



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Old Mar 23rd, 2017, 21:05 PM   19
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It's YOU that is living in a bubble, thinking that (to directly quote you) WOMEN should be at home with the kids. A woman should be wherever the hell she wants to be.

FYI, children f working mothers are more likely to be successful than children of SAHMs so when I "choose" to go to work, I'm not doing it because I can't be arsed to look after my daughter, being a SAHM is far less chaotic in my experience than being a working mum. I'm doing it because my daughter deserves to have the future she wants, not one defined by her genitalia.

http://hbswk.hbs.edu/item/kids-benef...-a-working-mom

see website above to show that my claims are not unsubstantiated.

For what it's worth my partner is becoming a SAHD but apparently he is an inferior parent as he was born with different body parts.
The sad part is i never said women staying home were inferior. Maybe at work, they should teach you how to READ.



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Old Mar 24th, 2017, 02:18 AM   20
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It's YOU that is living in a bubble, thinking that (to directly quote you) WOMEN should be at home with the kids. A woman should be wherever the hell she wants to be.

FYI, children f working mothers are more likely to be successful than children of SAHMs so when I "choose" to go to work, I'm not doing it because I can't be arsed to look after my daughter, being a SAHM is far less chaotic in my experience than being a working mum. I'm doing it because my daughter deserves to have the future she wants, not one defined by her genitalia.

http://hbswk.hbs.edu/item/kids-benef...-a-working-mom

see website above to show that my claims are not unsubstantiated.

For what it's worth my partner is becoming a SAHD but apparently he is an inferior parent as he was born with different body parts.
The sad part is i never said women staying home were inferior. Maybe at work, they should teach you how to READ.
I can read pretty well, thanks. I didn't say that you did say that, I was referring to the fact that you think vagina owning parents should stay at home. You didn't say "it works best for us having the mum at home" which is fine, you said that mums should stay at home. The implication is then that dads should work to support mums and therefore dads take a lesser role at parenting.

Anyway, I'm going back to this century where women have choices and aspirations.



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