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Old May 18th, 2017, 13:50 PM   1
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Urgent help please - disciplinary/grievance advice needed


Bit of a weird post, with only tenuous link to pregnancy - sorry - just really need some advice.

I had an early miscarriage at the beginning of March. I was distraught, having anxiety attacks and went into work and made a mistake, which was a stupid slip of the mind - no damage done, but I went into a client file which I wasn't supposed to - didn't read anything, didn't look at anything, literally just clicked into it. I realised what I had done, came out of it and then carried on as normal. I suffer from depression and anxiety, and honestly was in too much of a haze to really think about what I'd done.

Anyway, a week later I got pulled into the manager's office, and told I was suspended pending a disciplinary hearing.

I had an investigative meeting a month later, when I apologised, explained what had happened. My manager tried to trick me - they asked if I had ever done anything like that before - I said no and they said 'well we know you have'. They then said I went on records of clients which weren't open to me - which I had, but only because of valid reasons, all of which I could explain. At that time my manager basically said at the end of it I was going to be sacked. My union rep was appalled and did make a complaint. I haven't heard anything since, until today.

Today I got a call from my manager telling me to go into the office tomorrow to discuss coming back to work. I assume this means the 'complaint' was found to be groundless.

I just feel completely overwhelmed. I have been so anxious about all of this. We've been having fertility treatment (only clomid at the moment), which I've had to put on hold. I have been in such a dark place I've had to phone the samaritans, and been prescribed anti depressants and anxiety medication. I haven't left the house in three weeks, and before that only left to go to my counselling appointments or the doctors for about a month (ironically I'm too anxious to go to my counselling appointments at the moment!!).

Prior to all this, I felt something was going on at work - I had to have time off sick last year as I was diagnosed with a neurological condition, and was in hospital for some time. That left me with some difficulties, such as slower processing speeds in terms of brain function, but I seem to be regaining that now. Work were not exactly supportive about the time off, even though it was covered by the disability act. I also noticed a lot of my emails were being cc'ed to my manager etc. I was referred to occupational health 3 months ago, but have heard nothing from them. I had very irregular supervision, and none of these were given to me to sign off on the records. I raised with my supervisor that I was concerned about how I was managing on several occasions, but was told that all the feedback they had from clients and other staff/management was positive, and they had no concerns.

During this process, I have had no contact from work, other than the invites to, and meetings, even though suspension is supposed to be reviewed regularly. I was not told I could have a union rep. I was not allowed to get my personal belongings from work. I was escorted off the premises, and told I could not talk to any of my colleagues - I have had to ignore messages from friends at work for 3 months.

Anyway, the outcome for me is basically that I don't feel I can go back there. The thought of going back to the office makes me feel physically sick, and I just start shaking. The way I was accused of going in to other files makes me so worried, as imagine if I clicked on the wrong record or something - this could all happen again. I just feel completely unsupported. On the other hand, I really do not want to leave the company, as I actually enjoy the type of job I do, and also have been there a number of years, have friends there, and would like the maternity pay when we eventually get a sticky bean.

So my question - do you think I could raise a grievance requesting a move to a different department? What should and shouldn't I say at the meeting tomorrow? They informed me so late, and the appointment is so early that I can't speak to my union rep before going, and was told I could not have anyone with me at the meeting.

Basically, please help - I am so overwhelmed and just don't know what to do!
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Old May 19th, 2017, 06:05 AM   2
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1. You are always entitled to have someone at the meeting with you, I'm sure of it, so I would contact the union rep tell him/her about tomorrow's meeting and that they've said you can't have anyone with you and see what he/she says. If I'm right they should tell you you are entitled to have someone with you and will hopefully say whether or they are available tomorrow. If they are not available call work and re-arrange the meeting, they have to give adaequate notice.
2. Speak to hr if you have a hr dept and find out what the procedures are for what should happen when someone makes a mistake like you did and the procedure on how to raise a grievance. You had extenuating circumstances to explain your mistake and I find it a little ott the you were threatened with being sacked just for clicking on the wrong file, if they can see you went in it surely they can see you weren't in there for very long.
3. Chase for the referral to occ health, they will be on your side and work pretty much have to make any adjustments recommended.
4. Go to the doctor, if you are feeling so bad you can't go to counselling appointments I can't see how you are going to be able to return to work. You need to look after yourself otherwise you will be even more ill.
5. Consider seeking legal advice, you may be able to get some advice free or at reduced costmthrough your union.

They are the things I can think of off the top of my head. I'm really sorry you are going through this, some employers are really not supportive and unfortunately you will have to try and stand your ground and fight them, which sucks I know.

Good luck and if I think of anything else I'll come back and add to this thread.



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Old May 19th, 2017, 16:45 PM   3
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You should be invited in writing at least 48 hrs in advance of any formal meeting that forms part of a disciplinary process. If you are still in the investigation stage with no overall outcome then you need to ensure you have a rep and your manager has a note taker present. If you can't get a union rep then I would email and advise you want to postpone.


Acas have a guide here http://www.acas.org.uk/index.aspx?articleid=2179
Page 17.onwards is the most relevant to you I think



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Old May 19th, 2017, 16:50 PM   4
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Originally Posted by Wannabe Mommy View Post
You should be invited in writing at least 48 hrs in advance of any formal meeting that forms part of a disciplinary process. If you are still in the investigation stage with no overall outcome then you need to ensure you have a rep and your manager has a note taker present. If you can't get a union rep then I would email and advise you want to postpone.
I agreed with this !



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Old May 20th, 2017, 04:15 AM   5
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Originally Posted by Wannabe Mommy View Post
You should be invited in writing at least 48 hrs in advance of any formal meeting that forms part of a disciplinary process. If you are still in the investigation stage with no overall outcome then you need to ensure you have a rep and your manager has a note taker present. If you can't get a union rep then I would email and advise you want to postpone.


Acas have a guide here http://www.acas.org.uk/index.aspx?articleid=2179
Page 17.onwards is the most relevant to you I think
Thanks Wannabe Mommy, I thought there was something in place re. adequate notice and be allowed to have someone with you but didn't have time to check.



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Old May 20th, 2017, 15:28 PM   6
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Thank you all for your help! I requested my union rep for the meeting but my manager point blank refused, and would not even reschedule the meeting so I could have the chance to talk to them prior; she phoned at 4.45pm and the meeting was first thing the next morning. At the meeting she informed me that everything was being dropped, I was not at fault, and demanded I return to work immediately. As in leave the meeting, go straight to office and start working. I couldn't believe it, and had to phone in sick. I'm. It sure what to do now. I've since spoken to my union rep who couldn't believe it and said it was bullying. Conviently thr Hr manager who was dealing with my case is on annual leave.
I spoke to acas (thank you for that link) and both they and my union rep have recommended raising a grievance as I just don't feel I can return to work, but I'm not sure I should? It just means more stress and meetings. I'm torn between doing that, just going back and seeing how things go (which I think would probably end up causing more stress in the long run), or just quitting.
Never rains but it pours!!



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