19 months, 1 IUI, 2 IVFs...zippo

[caliduo]

(insert every single expletive you can think of)!
The husband here..one part of the CaliDuo. I'll be speaking for my wife as she can't really take any more talk of pregnancy, fertility, success with IVF, etc. We just found out today that our 2nd IVF did not work and we are beyond dissapointed. We transferred two frozens.

Our hx is below:

Wife 34, Me 32. Both of us are very healthy, active, and fit.
1 year failed naturally
1 IUI failed
1 IVF cycle yielded 18 viable Embryos!!! - 16 frozen - hyperstimulated
1 transfer of 2 embryos that month with no success
1 month off
1 month IVF with 2 frozens...no success
Endometrioma present through all above.

We are now looking at surrogate options, genetic testing...at this point we are soo frustrated and at a complete loss. I know some of you out there have felt this numb feeling...some of you still are feeling it. It is the absolute worst. I know we are lucky that we can even try...that we can afford IVF...that we have so many viable embryos...but we are at a complete loss. I know many of you have had difficult times or are still going through them. But I appreciate if anyone reads this...I am just venting. Neither of our families know this has been happening...neither do any of our friends. It is really just us that are dealing with it and our fert specialist. We can't take another "single line" result on these damn tests anymore. I can't hear another "I'm sorry, but the beta came back at 0". We are remaining optimistic, but barely. We've read the numerous success stories, but until you're one of those stores...you never feel like it is going to happen. We never had the faintest idea that this would or could be this difficult.

 

[Briss]

caliduo, you still have a lot of options and time is on your side. I'd not despair just yet. you have about 14 frozen embryos which may still provide you with more than one child or you can try one more fresh IVF cycle you seem to be able to generate excellent number of good quality embryos (not many of us on this forum are this lucky). And also you just TTC naturally for 1 year, if the tubes are fine and open you can still get lucky naturally. I'd definitely look into your wife's lining and NK sells as there might be some implantation issues. were your embryos good quality 5 days blasts? if not then it's not surprising that some may not take on as there is always certain number of embryos with faulty chromosomes. also I am surprised they did FET only a month after fresh IVF which resulted in hyper stimulation, your wife's' body need a bit more time to recover for pregnancy so that might be the reason for BFN. you just need to keep on trying. good luck