1st tri is scary?!?!?!

[MADLYSBOYS]

I think I am now going to officially avoid 1st tri.....its worrying enough but since yesterday I have entered a total of three threads to be scared out of my wits by bnb members who are playing the scaremonger game by posting links to the internet giving info and statistics on the things that can go wrong in pregnancy if we make the wrong decision ie having additional scans. I understand people have different opionions and views and this opens up area for discussion and I am totally respective of that but the threads have been total harmless `OP sharing pregnancy experience with others` and posters have recieved a barrage of abuse and/or criticism or had horrible statistical information shoved down their throats as to why they shouldnt do this, that or the other during pregnancy

There is no right or wrong answer to descisions each of us make in pregnancy and later as parents but some people are failing to take into account other peoples liberty and freedom of choice and this truly makes me sad!

 

[chocojen]

madly so pleased to see you here recognise you from TTC, we are around the same EDD!!! Sorry you have been so scared, I agree there is a lot of scary stuff on this forum xx

 

[Gemie]

I feel the same with the scary threads... I learned not to click on something that sounds scary lol I try to avoid first tri a lot though I do keep finding myself here lol
xx

 

[Starmoon]

Madly, congrats on being here, I also remember you from ttc. I had to come say from ttc for a while when I was there because sometimes it drove me mad and I think I became far more obsessed than I might otherwise have done. I have been ok in First Tri (and now Second Tri) but know exactly where you are coming from.

 

[MADLYSBOYS]

Thank you Ladies,

I have too avoided anything I havent wanted to read but the last thread I entered and quickly exited was a thread about having 3d/4d scans and the ops excitment of having one......this was quickly dashed by horrible stats.....so what seemed to be a nice topic of conversation quickly turned into another debate as to why you shouldnt partake in extra scans/use dopplers etc and the risks.....1st tri is scary enough for us ladies iand ts even worse when threads are littered with stuff like this when its not even at the op or posters request?

 

[Tigerlilies]

There are certain threads that aren't worth reading, it just makes you worry more. Less than 4wks you'll be out of the scariest trimester! Keep your head up!!!!

As far as other people's opinions on certain decisions to make during pregnancy with with infants, if someone posts a question, they have to expect different opinions from all sorts of people from different back grounds. If people are going to get uneasy at someone else's opinion, I would say they should not publicly ask questions about personal decisions and just stick to people they know and trust for opinions. There are a lot of knowledgable ladies on this thread but certain decisions you just need to educate yourself on without stats that could be bias and just go with your gut decision.

 

[MADLYSBOYS]

Thank you dietrad hon

I think I will keep a low profile for the next few weeks....maybe its my hormones but I find myself getting upset for other posters too reckon I am TOO sensitive right now!

I understand people will always have different opinions and at points this may cause tensions to rise but it just puzzles me how posters get slated on threads for the most innocent of things maybe I am missing something!

 

[joanne40]

Hi Madly!!! :wave:
I remember you from the ttc forum too!!
I agree, and I am avoiding clicking on the scary sounding ones, as I am nearly 41, and am scared enough thanks!!!
Hope you are keeping well
Jo

 

[MADLYSBOYS]

:wave: Joanne lots of friendly faces

I havent posted much in 1st tri so I havent bumped into most of the ladies I know from TTC yet dont think I will either roll on 2nd tri eh hon? might be calmer and more friendlier on the scare tactics

Except all day MS am fine hon thanks for asking! Hows you?

 

[Louppey]

Hi Madly! You prob don't remember me, but I remember you from TTC/2 Week Wait. Seems like ages ago now!!

I found 1st tri really scary, some days I didn't even go into the 1st tri section of the forum as all the threads seem to be about MC, MMC or other things that can go wrong with the baby

Try not to let it worry you, you've got to 8 weeks to you're doing really well... and soon you can move over to 2nd tri! Far less scary, and much more fun to read

Look forward to seeing you over there soon honey

 

[MADLYSBOYS]

of course I remember you Louppey hon you were the 1st lady on my PRAYING FOR thread to get her remember?

Well I am between 8wks and 9wks (9wks by lmp but 8wks by ov hence the difference in my tickers!) so not long to go before 2nd tri

 

[MilosMommy7]

well for one, you cant avoid it! lol. and for two, i know everything is scary. 1st tri is technically the one to be scared of since it's the trimester that a mc will happen if it's going to happen. i've jsut learned that it's important to read all the information, and keep an open mind about it. just have to remember that it's only a possibility and that most likely it wont happen to you.
although thinking like that can also be bad because you'll have the biggest denial if something does go wrong. i've found that it's easy to relax until something hurts too much or something is going haywire you shouldnt let the threads influence your thinking, even though that's easier said than done lol.

 

[Louppey]

of course I remember you Louppey hon you were the 1st lady on my PRAYING FOR thread to get her remember?

Well I am between 8wks and 9wks (9wks by lmp but 8wks by ov hence the difference in my tickers!) so not long to go before 2nd tri

Hee hee! I remember Wasn't sure if you would or not though, as I wasn't in TTC for that long at all.

Wow I can't believe you're 8-9 weeks already... I feel like i'm only about that to be honest!! Don't know where the time has gone... Are you planning on having a private dating scan, or are you waiting for the NHS one? I'm assuming you're in the UK. You may not be!!!

I had a private dating scan at 7+2 and they put me forward 4 days (as I had short cycles, 26 days)... then at my 12 week NHS scan they put me forward 3 days again! So I was lucky enough to skip ahead a whole week past LMP. Woo Hoo!!!

How you finding 1st tri, apart from all the scary threads of course?! Hope you're doing OK. I was just shattered 24/7. Like a zombie! Now I have woken up just enough to be a total b*tch 24/7. Pregnancy - all fun and games

 

[MADLYSBOYS]

I could never forget Louppey hon.....1st cycle and my 1st as a cycle po

Yes I am in the uk and am seeing my MW for the 1st time on Monday Its a booking app so she will refer me for my 1st scan which hopefully wont be to far around the corner! I am anxious now to see `beanie baby` esp after we m/c the cycle before our sticky maybe this is why I am finding 1st tri a little more hard to bare
I cant believe you are nearly mid-way point hon.....seems like two mins ago I have terrible all day ness which started at the weekend and I am like a zombie so so tired all the time! DS just started school so big change for him thought we would get him settled before we announce his little bro/sis to him plus DH wants to wait until 1st scan anyways I am hoping to have a 4d scan around christmas as a belated birthday present b/c I think it will be an amazing experience for us all to enjoy as a family Glad to hear your not feeling so bad these days cant wait to feel a little normal again!

 

[MADLYSBOYS]

Thank you MilosMummy

I know your right hon and I would never let those scaretactics influence my decision but of course it does worry me when you read such things....best to be avoided for me and LO I think

 

[joanne40]

:wave: Joanne lots of friendly faces

I havent posted much in 1st tri so I havent bumped into most of the ladies I know from TTC yet dont think I will either roll on 2nd tri eh hon? might be calmer and more friendlier on the scare tactics

Except all day MS am fine hon thanks for asking! Hows you?

Hey!!! :wave:
I am good thanks, ms isnt here full blown yet, just keep getting 'wafts' of it if you like.......i reckon it isnt far away!! I am still a bit shocked tbh.....it happened much quicker than I thought it would!! I am just hoping that all will be well
I can't believe you are almost second tri.....how quick has that gone?!! I can't wait to be 8 weeks!!! Will feel a lot better!!
I am sooo glad you are ok though, was wondering where you were!!
Good to see all is gggrrreat!!!!
Jo

 

[Louppey]

Aww thanks I'm sooo happy you got your Madly

Yes I did see you had a MC prior to this one, I do occasionally stalk the people I remember from TTC I'm sorry you had to go through that All is looking good for you now though The thing I found hardest about 1st tri was staying positive. Every twinge/cramp/feeling I was straight onto google. Not a good idea - avoid google at all costs Even after my 1st scan, when I knew Roo was in the right place etc I was still petrified of ectopic and even rung my doc up about it I'm pleased to say, you do start to relax a bit when you get to 2nd tri. Not totally, I don't think we ever will now, but I have definately started to enjoy the pregnancy more now rather than just getting myself wound up over it.

I think I had my booking in appt at 8 weeks, scan was about 4 weeks after that so FX it will be even sooner for you. They go by LMP so they will be looking to get you booked in asap I should have thought, so you'll be around 12 weeks. Roll on yours so you get to tell DS that he has a little brother or sister on the way... bet he'll be thrilled

Sorry to hear you're suffering with the dreaded all day sickness. Thankfully I never really suffered too much. I felt naseous a lot, but was never actually sick. I got those travel sickness bands - they really helped. Them and cold ice lollies Can't beat it

OMG now you've said it I can't actually believe that I am almost half way It just doesn't feel real at all. Don't think i'll believe it til I have the baby in my arms. Even at scans, I feel like they're just showing me a video or something to dupe me

A 4D scan, I am uber jealous over here!!! I would LOVE one of these, but we can't really afford it. We only got married last December, ended up wacking the honeymoon on a credit card and are still trying to pay the damn thing off, along with decorating the nursery and buying all the furniture and all the other stuff you need. The list seems endless. I'm hoping we will be able to save a little to get a 4D one, but we'll see. I'd definately love to get it done if we can

Are you planning on finding out the sex? I'm team I am hoping not to get a flash of anything at our 20 week scan that will give it away hee hee hee

 

[HippyMumma23]

I totally know what you mean. Im beginning to get better at avoiding these threads, but when I first started, I was cringing and cowering away from the first trimester. I went from feeling good about being pregnant to worrying about this, that and 'tother.

There other fab parenting websites you can use (I dont know if Im allowed to name any??) but unfortunately Ive noticed, for the first X amount of time similar stuff happens there too. Although not quite to the extent that they have it here for some reason.

When are you due?

x

 

[HippyMumma23]

Oh ignore that last bit your ticker clear says your EDD!

 

[MADLYSBOYS]

Thanks Joanne hon glad you missed me I am still lurking and posting in my regular haunts on TTC I have some amazing friends and they are ok we me still hanging around plus I stalk journals of ladies still TTC and we even created a graduate thread as a follow on from a thread in TTC so that once ladies get their they dont have to hit 1st tri straight away......we all felt lost and it was a great idea check out our thread symbol in my siggy

I hope MS doesnt hit you hard hon...its a new experience for me b/c I never had with DS but I sure am making up for it this time! The olde wifes tale goes: lots of sickness =girl hardly any/none=boy if it was right for me I am having a girl this is our last so one of each would be nice....am not fussed but I feel a little out numbered at home even our fluffy bunny is a male

I must admit we are still a little shocked too....I suppose once we see mw next week and have a scan if will become more real ....It was our 4th cycle TTC and we had a m/c on our 3rd cycle (although a few days short of TTC 6mths b/c of my cycle length!) so quicker than we expected too. With DS 10mths in total but it took 5mths to get regular cycles are depo so 5 cycles really.....a little quicker this time around although I expected it to be more and was aiming for by end of year

Lots of love hon.....good luck am sure I will be seeing you around