3 failed IUIs. How do you cope?

[SashimiMimi]

Sorry I'm on my phone and clearly can't type!!

 

[Sunshine24]

Thanks for all the thoughts everyone!!!! I appreciate it!

Back from transfer, it went great. Honestly it was very quick and oddly enough, relaxing. My doc has an amazing facility and the room we were in felt like a spa.

First he did a "practice transfer" and injected a bit of hcg --he said it would help the embie stick.

Then, we had the 2 vs 1 conversation. He said for my age ( 31 ) and the quality of the embryos ( very good ) he would be comfortable trying just one but would do two if we insisted. He said one would be good enough for our situation, especially if we are worried about twins ( we kind of are ). So we went with one. We definitely have at least 2 to freeze, maybe 3--so that's great too. If we have to do it again ( I hope not ) we will do another fresh, but its nice to know we have ones banked too.....

I laid still for 20 minutes after and then headed to an amazing, AMAZING acupuncture session. My acupuncturist said she was going to put me " on a cloud" and she really did. I havent been that relaxed in so long. Highly recommend it. I will be going to acu on Wednesday again too.

OTD is March 18th and already decided there will be NO POAS during this waiting period--I cant handle it. So now, we wait.

Hanging out on the couch allllll day and allll day tomorrow and even working from home on Monday to just take it easy. Fingers crossed!

 

[Bma11]

Sounds wonderful! Glad you had such a pleasant experience!! Keep us updated on what is going on!!

 

[SashimiMimi]

Oh Sunshine that sounds wonderful! I'm glad you did acupuncture, I'm glad the doctor helped you decide the 1 vs 2 debate and most of all I'm glad you feel so positive and upbeat. I cried after my transfer because I felt so emotional and felt there was so much riding on our one and only little egg. After the transfer and the acupuncture, OH and I went out for a nice lunch date. We figured if we couldn't conceive naturally, then we would have a nice romantic date instead. It was also a celebration of making it through an entire IVF cycle!

I read somewhere that laughing a lot can help affect success... I don't know if it's true, but I can see how being happy and laughing would be good for you! But during my TWW I watched all of Arrested Development on Netflix. It was definitely a hilarious show and now whenever I hear about Arrested Development, I think of IVF!

All the best to you Sunshine! I'll be eager to hear how you feel these next two weeks. I recall have zero pregnancy symptoms at all, so try not to symptom spot. I think I had more "pregnancy symptoms" during my failed IUIs than IVF. Just take it easy and try to relax... glad you are taking Monday off!

 

[Sunshine24]

My acupuncturist also said to watch some funny movies and laugh a lot! Hey, I'm all for that!

My husband is hilarious and was even making me laugh practically DURING transfer, so I'm happy to hear that's a good thing too! Hahaha.

I will def be watching some funny shows this next week.

Thanks for the support!!!

 

[fisher640]

I was def not happy or optimistic during my last TWW. I too didn't have any symptoms. Infact indistinctly remember thinking it must be a bust because at 7dpo my bbs werent sore. Until 10dpo when I was like "hmm, my bbs might be a little more sore than they were on 7dpo". That's when I decided I'd test after work.

Sounds like such a promising transfer.

 

[Sunshine24]

Well, its the day after transfer and I am having a hard time doing " nothing"! I'm not exactly on full out bedrest but I'm taking it ( or trying to... ) take it really easy. Its 60 degrees and sunny outside and all I want to do is jog, run errands, BE HUMAN but my husband is insisting I stay put. I know it's the right thing right now but its hard! Hahahaha.

I am just laying here watching TV..playing around on my laptop....and staying stress free....which I am going to continue to do but I am NOT someone who is good at doing nothing! AH!

Sorry to vent. Hahaha. I know its all for the greater good in the end.....

 

[Bma11]

Your little running ball of sunshine makes me happy everytime I see it! Lol

I can not relate to you, I am pretty darn good at doing nothing all day! Hahaha. I choose for the most part to get out & be active so when the chance comes to be lazy, I take it!
Anyways, stay put so that embryo can get all snuggled up!! At least you have hubby there to entertain you!!

 

[ttcbaby117]

Yeah take it easy....jogging right now is not a good idea...though I understand the desire!

I just read this if anyone is interested.....it seems choosing one in your circumstance, Sunshine, was a good decision to make! There are some scary s/e from multiple births, even though it increases your chance of pregnancy.

https://www.ivf1.com/multiple-births/

 

[SashimiMimi]

I find the stereotypes regarding IVF and multiple births annoying. I've had more then One person ask me how I felt about possibly becoming the next octomom when I opened up about my plans to do IVF. Even now I have a friend who refuses to believe I have just one baby in here! I think most REs do everything to they can to decrease the chance of multiples, not create 8 babies like certain reality shows!

How was you say off Sunshine?

 

[ttcbaby117]

Yeah there is a huge stigma....people don't realize you have a bigger chance of multiples with IUI than with Ivf. Well I guess they'll believe there is only one when you give birth hahahaha

 

[Sunshine24]

There is SUCH a huge stigma w IVF, which is why --for my own sanity-- my husband and I kept it private. Sometimes I feel like I wish a few people knew, but mostly I am glad I made that decision.

Sashimi--so rude that when you open up to someone about something so private they ask you about being octomom! Crazy! People just dont get it.

As for me, I'm back at work today---they moved me ( due to new staff and some retirements ) to a HUGE private office with a gorgeous view, so it's a very relaxing setting to be in this week--I'm grateful. My test is on on Monday-- 6 days from now, and so far--I'm not feeling any different but I'm also not feeling any urge to POAS--which is the main thing I'm trying to avoid.

Thanks for checking in!!

 

[Jlh1980]

Hi everyone, I haven't been on in a while but its good to hear that everyone's pregnancy is going well (fisher/sashimi)
Also happy to hear that sunshine's transfer went well, although I know the waiting is torture, but everything sounded so positive that is the best you can ask for. I being a physician myself think you made the right choice by only having 1 embryo implanted. I have several friends that go to facilities in Manhattan which is where a lot of the research comes from and most of them will not implant two unless you have failed 1 round of IVF, so I hope that is a little reassurance for you.
As for me I went in today for an US I have 3 follicles which is the most I've had on femara so we are going to do two IUI's back to back, first one tomorrow. I know the statistics aren't that much better but if this one doesn't work we are going to be moving on to IVF. I have to say after hearing everyone's IVF stories on here I feel much more hopeful and not as scared. I'm hoping for a calm week at work and then of course the torturous 2 week waiting period will begin.......ugh! I really hope this works but thanks to everyone on here I now know that if we end up doing IVF its not the end of the world!

Unexplained infertility
Me 32 DH 34, TTC for almost 1 year
Jan 2013 Femara 5mg, timed intercourse BFN
Feb 2013 Femara 7.5mg, IUI BFN
March 2013 Femara 7.5 mg, will do 2 back to back IUI's starting tomorrow

 

[Sunshine24]

Jlh--good luck with your IUI! I have heard good things about the abck to back, fingers crossed.

Thank you for saying that you think the one embryo was a good choice, means a lot coming from a physician!

If this one fails--we will do 2 on our 2nd. BUT THIS ONE WILL NOT FAIL ( hahahah, trying to stay positive! )

Keep us updated on how it goes for you tomorrow~

 

[ttcbaby117]

Jlh - good luck with your IUI cycle. I do hope it works for you and no other treatment will be necessary. How many to transfer has been a question me and DH has gone back and forth about...I am waiting to see how many embies I get and what their quality is then we will see about making that decision. From what I have seen from most of these ladies here....IVF really isnt as bad as it seems...anything to have our lil ones right!

 

[Sunshine24]

ttc- I have to say, IVF really WASNT as bad as I thought it would be. Of course I dont know yet if its BFN or BFP but the process wasnt nearly as scary as I had imagined it would have been.

I mean, it's not as enjoyable as a vacation to Hawaii or something, but it's certainly not as terrible as you are probably imagining. Also, it goes pretty fast---and if you eat and drink very healthy through the cycle ( I found anyway ) that you can help with side effects and still feel pretty normal.

 

[PinkPeony]

Thanks for keeping us updated Sunshine. It's been really reassuring to go through the process with you on here. I am having the IVF talk with my doc next week so I've totally been stalking you on here and it has made me feel way less overwhelmed by the whole thing. Sending you so many good vibes for your BFP. Your positivity is infectious.

As for the multiples thing.... for me I think I'd go for 2. Mainly bc I really want at least 2 lo's and I'd love to not ever have to worry about TTC ever again once I finally get through this journey. Also... I've always wanted twins and I feel like after going through infertility I'm so strong and ready for anything life throws my way.

 

[CCClomidQueen]

Hello everyone I just stumbled across this thread today and find it very supportive and encouraging, so I hope it's all-right to join in. I'm having a laparoscopy in 2 weeks and I'm starting to get very nervous, I'm also very curious when they get in there if an old ruptured appendix caused scarring or if I have endo. I have no symptoms, but I see it's common to not show signs. after 3 failed IUI's I took another break because DH had spine surgery, but now I'm back hoping for answers.

 

[Sunshine24]

Hello everyone I just stumbled across this thread today and find it very supportive and encouraging, so I hope it's all-right to join in. I'm having a laparoscopy in 2 weeks and I'm starting to get very nervous, I'm also very curious when they get in there if an old ruptured appendix caused scarring or if I have endo. I have no symptoms, but I see it's common to not show signs. after 3 failed IUI's I took another break because DH had spine surgery, but now I'm back hoping for answers.

Hey CC! Welcome! Glad you found us. Sounds like you are in a very similar place I was a month or two ago. I had 4 failed IUIs, scheduled a lap, and they found moderate endo--with no previous signs!!! My doc is confident he was able to remove all of it ( all he could see, anyway )

The surgery was really not bad at all, and I *think* ( fingers crossed ) it cleared up our issues. This is our first month "trying" after the surgey ( via IVF ) so we shall see soon ( MONDAY! ).

If you have any questions about the surgery, please dont hesitate to reach out to me via private message. I was scared of it, but I am so glad I did it, and it hopefully remedied our issues. After trying for a year on our own, and then the failed IUIS--at my age - 31-- they just couldn't figure out what was going on.

We chose IVF as our next route instead of another IUI because we wanted the quickest results and the doc said my endo will return in about 6 months ( if you're wondering why I'm doing IVF right now... )

The ladies on this board are very supportive and have great stories to share. It's made my last treatment cycle SO much more bearable, I dont know how I made it through 4 IUI's without being on this board!

WELCOME and good luck!

 

[Sunshine24]

CC-- I just noticed you are in Rochester--who is your doctor there? I have a friend there that had great success with a doctor in Rochester.