3 failed IUIs. How do you cope?

[SashimiMimi]

I'm a huge worrier and think I worried my way out of enjoying my first trimester as much as I should have. I got so tense during the betas I couldn't even concentrate at work!!! I would even go in for an ultrasound when I felt little or no symptoms I was a total wreck! Just have faith that this is your happy ending. It's been too much work not to enjoy every second! And one day you can tell your baby how you did a trigger shot in the bathroom at a wedding to bring him or her into this world!!

 

[LaylaShawn]

Sunshine!!!!! Congratulations!!!!
I've been stalking this thread few a few weeks. I have been thinking of you the entire time. I checked this thread soon as I came home from work. I'm so happy for you. I am in tears as I type this. I pray you have a happy and healthy pregnancy.

 

[Bma11]

THANKS Sunshine!!! I'm going shopping tomorrow or Wednesday ! Sounds like we have the same taste! Yay! Lol I'm a terrible cook & meat & poultry can really make me nauseous in my mouth. I'm SOOO weird! Lol

 

[StayHopeful]

Massive congratulations, Sunshine! Sooooo happy for you!

 

[Chris_25]

Well, results are in, and it's hard to even type clearly as I shake and try to remain calm and not run around screaming with joy.....






I am so happy, shocked, delighted, and over the moon!!

Found out about 2 hours ago ( so I dont know if that 4pm thing was just so I wouldnt expect a super early call or what?? ) , I first had to drive to DH's office to tell him before I posted here!! I called him from outside and said, " Please come outside I have something to give you." He came outside and I just handed him a note that said " YES." He was like--you mean?? We are? You mean?? YOURE PREGNANT>????

After almost 2 years of trying to conceive, 4 failed IUI's, surgery, tears, heartache, and this IVF----we have our BFP.

It's early days I know...so please continue to pray--I am still so cautious!! I could not have gotten here in one sane piece without all of you, so THANK YOU!

Omg just catching up I was thinking about u and signed on! I am so excited for you that is such amazing news! Congratulations! Woohoo

 

[ttcbaby117]

Thanks so much sunshine, I will add in your recommendations. I am not much of a meat eater but I will try for some chicken. Also, my acupucntrists wanted me off of dairy. Did you ACU recommend dairy to you?

Sashimi - what sunshine said is so true. Thank you for sticking around...you didn't have to but your precense has made a huge difference.

 

[Sunshine24]

My acu stresses well-rounded diet, so I actually made sure to drink a glass of milk with dinner every night ( when normally I would have had water...or wine! ) So the milk and then the yogurt in the smoothies were my main sources of calcium ( plus calicum from the veggies ). I had heard about avoiding dairy but wasnt told that by my doctor or acu and my doc ALWAYS stressed balanced eating, so that's what I tried to do.

 

[ttcbaby117]

Good point! I switched to Almond milk once my acu told me no dairy but it hardly has any protein in it! It has 1 gm, where milk has 9gms. I will have to chat with her about that when I get over to Miami. Thing is I love yogurt and cheese but haven't been eating it and being that I am not much of a meat eater....I need some cheese for my protein. I eat chicken about twice a week but that is it as far as any meat goes. I do eat a lot of fish but now am worried about mercury. UGh, sometimes I feel like you are damned if you do and damned if you don't...LOL.....Oh well...I will try a little of everything and see if that helps!

 

[Bma11]

TTC- my RE sent me a sheet on stuff to avoid etc while actually pregnant. I can email you the whole thing if you'd like. Here's what it said on fish:

6. Swordfish, tilefish, king mackerel, and shark contain high levels of methylmercury. This metal can harm an unborn baby's development. Pregnant women should choose fish that are low in mercury, such as catfish, salmon, and canned light tuna. If you prefer albacore (white) tuna, limit yourself to 6 ounces per week.

 

[Jlh1980]

Sunshine!!!!! Congratulations!!!!
I've been stalking this thread few a few weeks. I have been thinking of you the entire time. I checked this thread soon as I came home from work. I'm so happy for you. I am in tears as I type this. I pray you have a happy and healthy pregnancy.

Wow you got 4-6 follicles with 5mg of femara, that is amazing! I only had 3 with 7.5mg, I just wanted to reach out since I too am in the 2ww and as usual I'm not feeling optimistic. Hope you are in a better place!

Sunshine- that is some serious commitment with your diet, I hope you did enjoy your burger. Just curious do you have any signs or symptoms of pregnancy yet? Also did you take a ept, just so you could finally see the positive that you've been waiting so long for, I can' t wait for that I'm taking a picture.

Also did anyone look at the SART website when picking a fertility specialist. I'm a little bummed because I just looked and the success rates with IVF at my clinic are lower than all the others in the area. I like my RE but my husband thinks we should switch since there is another one in the area that has a higher success rate. It feels like a set back to have to start over but I guess in the end it is worth it to give ourselves the best outcome.




Unexplained infertility
Me 32 DH 34, TTC for almost 1 year
Jan 2013 Femara 5mg, timed intercourse BFN
Feb 2013 Femara 7.5mg, IUI BFN
March 2013 Femara 7.5 mg, back to back IUI's now in 2ww

 

[Jlh1980]

Good point! I switched to Almond milk once my acu told me no dairy but it hardly has any protein in it! It has 1 gm, where milk has 9gms. I will have to chat with her about that when I get over to Miami. Thing is I love yogurt and cheese but haven't been eating it and being that I am not much of a meat eater....I need some cheese for my protein. I eat chicken about twice a week but that is it as far as any meat goes. I do eat a lot of fish but now am worried about mercury. UGh, sometimes I feel like you are damned if you do and damned if you don't...LOL.....Oh well...I will try a little of everything and see if that helps!

TTC I didn't realize you are already starting your IVF, so excited for you!!! I don't know what downregging means but it sounds like you are well on your way

Also could someone please tell me how to get your information at the bottom of the post print automatically, computers aren't my strong point lol


Unexplained infertility
Me 32 DH 34, TTC for almost 1 year
Jan 2013 Femara 5mg, timed intercourse BFN
Feb 2013 Femara 7.5mg, IUI BFN
March 2013 Femara 7.5 mg, back to back IUI's, 2ww

 

[Sunshine24]

Hi Jlh- I actually DO have symptoms that I dismissed before as side effects from the progesterone. My most prominent symptom by far is extreme exhaustion! I am just so tired right now once I get home from work I dont want to do much, but I guess that's what I am supposed to be doing now anyway. I have also had AF cramping for about a week....but its obv not AF!

So are you definitely planning to switch RE's based on the stats? Were they very different from each other?

 

[Bma11]

Jlh- go up to the user cp and edit your signature. Is that what you are meaning? You can put all your information there and it will post automatically when you post.

Also- with the SART thing. Some clinics may not take women over a certain age or women with poor quality eggs or low ovarian reserve, making there rates look higher and better because they only take "easy" patients. Does that make sense? So, maybe your clinic doesn't discriminate at all and takes harder cases where the success rate is low to begin with. I honestly don't know how to look at the SART and know how they choose their patients SO, you should call those others and ask and yours too.

 

[PinkPeony]

Thanks for sharing your food plan Sunshine! Very inspiring. It's very similar to what I had cookin in my head as to how I'm going to get my sh-- together for my next cycle(s). This one I was on a break bc DH was away for work during my fertile week so I really indulged - drank more than usual, ate crap etc. it was nice not to think about stuff but for sure there was an emotional eating/drinking component to it and I've put on weight, feel crappy and sluggish so I'm ready to get back to being healthy again and it's time to start prepping myself for IVF.

Incidentally, I was supposed to meet with my doc to get the IVF lowdown tomorrow. But got a call from the clinic today - my doctor had a family emergency so she is going to be out for the next 2 weeks. It sounds quite serious so I'm a bit concerned about her. But since I'm due to start AF anytime now and I would have to go on Clomid in a few days that leaves this cycle up in the air... Plus there was a lot of anticipation about this appt with her. My DH was going to come and I'm quite eager to get the IVF show on the road.

Ok sorry ladies -- I'm having one of *those* days. Hate feeling like everything's up in the air, frustrated with the waiting game. It's like a Kafka novel at this point. I have no ill feelings toward my doc btw. Just had to get that off my chest.

 

[StayHopeful]

Sorry to hear about everything with your doctor, Peony. I understand, I'm having one of those days too. I went in to my FS for progesterone bloodwork this morning and found out that I haven't o'd yet. This is the 2nd month that Metformin hasn't worked for me, I o'd on CD35 the first month. So it looks like trying naturally while waiting for IVF is out. It was just tough to hear. We're moving forward with IVF, but not until May/June because we figure it will be easier for me to go in for my appointments once school is out (I'm a teacher).

 

[Bma11]

Sorry to hear about everything with your doctor, Peony. I understand, I'm having one of those days too. I went in to my FS for progesterone bloodwork this morning and found out that I haven't o'd yet. This is the 2nd month that Metformin hasn't worked for me, I o'd on CD35 the first month. So it looks like trying naturally while waiting for IVF is out. It was just tough to hear. We're moving forward with IVF, but not until May/June because we figure it will be easier for me to go in for my appointments once school is out (I'm a teacher).

Stay hopeful. I don't know your story. Do you have PCOS? I am apart of a group on Facebook called pregnitude and PCOS. I found it when I was looking in to taking pregnitude. It's helped many women get their cycles regulated and to regulate ovulation as well.

 

[Bma11]

Thanks for sharing your food plan Sunshine! Very inspiring. It's very similar to what I had cookin in my head as to how I'm going to get my sh-- together for my next cycle(s). This one I was on a break bc DH was away for work during my fertile week so I really indulged - drank more than usual, ate crap etc. it was nice not to think about stuff but for sure there was an emotional eating/drinking component to it and I've put on weight, feel crappy and sluggish so I'm ready to get back to being healthy again and it's time to start prepping myself for IVF.

Incidentally, I was supposed to meet with my doc to get the IVF lowdown tomorrow. But got a call from the clinic today - my doctor had a family emergency so she is going to be out for the next 2 weeks. It sounds quite serious so I'm a bit concerned about her. But since I'm due to start AF anytime now and I would have to go on Clomid in a few days that leaves this cycle up in the air... Plus there was a lot of anticipation about this appt with her. My DH was going to come and I'm quite eager to get the IVF show on the road.

Ok sorry ladies -- I'm having one of *those* days. Hate feeling like everything's up in the air, frustrated with the waiting game. It's like a Kafka novel at this point. I have no ill feelings toward my doc btw. Just had to get that off my chest.

That sucks! I'm sorry this has happened.

 

[StayHopeful]

Bma, I do have PCOS. I got pregnant and had an early mc the first month we started trying, then found out I have PCOS. I did 5 rounds of Clomid, but my body didn't respond very well to it. The last round of Clomid we started seeing an FS and did an IUI. We did 2 more IUIs with other meds, all bfn. IVF is our next step but it wasn't a financial option so I started Metformin to hopefully regulate my cycles while we saved up. I'm not insulin resistant, but the doctor thought it might help.

 

[Bma11]

Awe- I'm sorry to hear that. Well research pregnitude and see what you think about it. It also helps with egg quality and like I said to regulate periods and ovulation!

I have a form of PCOS. But not the typical PCOS. Also a lot of women on that fb page use vitex.

Also, I was looking up non profit organizations for infertility... And found this.
https://www.babyquestfoundation.org/
Hope you can use this and maybe do some more research and find another foundation to maybe help as well!!!

 

[Bma11]

Awe- I'm sorry to hear that. Well research pregnitude and see what you think about it. It also helps with egg quality and like I said to regulate periods and ovulation!

I have a form of PCOS. But not the typical PCOS. Also a lot of women on that fb page use vitex.

Also, I was looking up non profit organizations for infertility... And found this.
https://www.babyquestfoundation.org/
Hope you can use this and maybe do some more research and find another foundation to maybe help as well!!!

Ahhh... Just read that you saved up! Awesome. And your a Texan too!!! Awesome. Lol I love Texas!