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[Trying4first1]

Hi Tesh!
Huge congratulations! Glad all went well
Such a blessing. He looks perfect! Such a handsome little man! Glad he is behaving hehe.
Bet it is the best feeling in the whole wide world. Can't believe 5.5 weeks already! Your whole pregnancy seemed to fly by its crazy.

No news here yet but we are ok, just plodding along and have hope it will happen one day. Just been keeping so busy with work. Have less and less time to think about TTC which in a way is a huge blessing &#128522;

Ps all awesome people are born on 17th May

 

[psychochick]

Tesh: huge congratulations! Beautiful photos and your son has such beautiful eyes and smile. I'm glad you've pushed through the bf difficulties, I hear all women have had some trouble with breastfeeding. Some at first, some a little later. Question about your new-born shoot: was this done in a photo studio or was it a special thing? I just think it looks so sweet.

Trying: Hehehe good to hear about the BD I actually miss the BD. I'm so uncomfortable these days and always a little tired so almost never in the mood. DH is also more interested in having me rest up so he doesn't bring it up either. Good luck in this TWW, always waiting to hear the good news. Hope you're enjoying the summer otherwise.

 

[Trying4first1]

Psychochick I will swap with you anyday all that BD was so exhausting and I'm so bored of ttc sex. I feel like I am still recovering even now! Never slept so much! I think we took SMEP too far though.... Whoops!
Anyway next cycle we said that we won't BD until CD10 as last month was CD6! (DHs fault)
10dpo today and AF is definitely on the way. Had horrible achey cramps all day and my normal pre AF bowel movements (sorry for TMI) . So annoying as we tried so hard. But as I said to DH SMEP is no guarantee. Next cycle I am trying soy as this might give my body the kickstart it needs as its being so damn lazy! I seem to take ages to conceive after a loss, so frustrating. It's like my womb is on strike all of a sudden. Crazy.
It's lovely that your DH is taking such good care of you. So sweet &#128522; Men get it so easy so we should be treated like princesses in pregnancy. It's only fair hehe
I can't wait for the summer. Work has been so hectic. Be great to have some time off and to be able to relax. Seriously can't wait. Hope you are having a good summer? Weather here not been fab. Praying for sunshine!

 

[psychochick]

Trying yeah ttc sex is not ideal either. Isn't it funny how BD is more enjoyable when you're not trying to accomplish anything? I don't think there's anything wrong with starting CD6 if the mood hits you but you could certainly space it out a bit more until CD10. I think that's what we did. Like before CD10, it was actually more spontaneous and fun, kind of a nice break from TTC. I'm glad you're starting soy, try something different. It worked for Tesh, hope it will help for you too.

My summer's really been really hot. I mean it's like 90F here which is not that hot compared to other places, and it's dry and not humid, but something about the pregnancy just makes me very heat-intolerant. So I can't stand even a little bit of heat for long. Hopefully you get your BFP this summer, then you can avoid the heat altogether cuz it's not comfortable for pregnancy at all.

 

[Tesh23]

Hi Tesh!
Huge congratulations! Glad all went well
Such a blessing. He looks perfect! Such a handsome little man! Glad he is behaving hehe.
Bet it is the best feeling in the whole wide world. Can't believe 5.5 weeks already! Your whole pregnancy seemed to fly by its crazy.

No news here yet but we are ok, just plodding along and have hope it will happen one day. Just been keeping so busy with work. Have less and less time to think about TTC which in a way is a huge blessing &#128522;

Ps all awesome people are born on 17th May

Thanks trying It did seem To just fly by I hardly remember what it feels like To be pregnant anymore esp with the weight almost all gone! Time is just flying And he is going for his shots tomorrow, feels like he is growing up To quickly!

I think it's better To have the distraction at this point trying. How is your dh with everything?

Oh wait is your birthday on 17th may?? I vaguely remember u saying.. I def know u are a may Baby! And yes I agree all awesome people are born on 17th May! &#128521;

 

[Tesh23]

Tesh: huge congratulations! Beautiful photos and your son has such beautiful eyes and smile. I'm glad you've pushed through the bf difficulties, I hear all women have had some trouble with breastfeeding. Some at first, some a little later. Question about your new-born shoot: was this done in a photo studio or was it a special thing? I just think it looks so sweet.

Trying: Hehehe good to hear about the BD I actually miss the BD. I'm so uncomfortable these days and always a little tired so almost never in the mood. DH is also more interested in having me rest up so he doesn't bring it up either. Good luck in this TWW, always waiting to hear the good news. Hope you're enjoying the summer otherwise.

Thanks psychochic Yep it was done in a studio - attached a photo of him.

How are u getting on? Have u decided on a natural or planned delivery? It's great your dh is taking care of u it really makes a difference To your overall experience of being pregnant! Esp when Baby comes u will really miss the pampering! Have u thought of any names for your little guy yet?

 

[Trying4first1]

Trying yeah ttc sex is not ideal either. Isn't it funny how BD is more enjoyable when you're not trying to accomplish anything? I don't think there's anything wrong with starting CD6 if the mood hits you but you could certainly space it out a bit more until CD10. I think that's what we did. Like before CD10, it was actually more spontaneous and fun, kind of a nice break from TTC. I'm glad you're starting soy, try something different. It worked for Tesh, hope it will help for you too.

My summer's really been really hot. I mean it's like 90F here which is not that hot compared to other places, and it's dry and not humid, but something about the pregnancy just makes me very heat-intolerant. So I can't stand even a little bit of heat for long. Hopefully you get your BFP this summer, then you can avoid the heat altogether cuz it's not comfortable for pregnancy at all.

Hi Psychochick
TTC sex is def no fun at all. Its CD11 here and still haven't BD yet. Really not in the mood this cycle. Kind of taking a step back.
I decided not to try the soy as my cycle is the best it has ever been. But I have it incase I do change my mind :thumb:
I am going to be starting acupuncture soon to see if that helps. I am so stressed and low most of the time over everything. Anything is worth a shot.
Wow you get good summers! here it has been awful again. Really hope in August things pick up

 

[Trying4first1]

Hi Tesh!
Huge congratulations! Glad all went well
Such a blessing. He looks perfect! Such a handsome little man! Glad he is behaving hehe.
Bet it is the best feeling in the whole wide world. Can't believe 5.5 weeks already! Your whole pregnancy seemed to fly by its crazy.

No news here yet but we are ok, just plodding along and have hope it will happen one day. Just been keeping so busy with work. Have less and less time to think about TTC which in a way is a huge blessing &#128522;

Ps all awesome people are born on 17th May

Thanks trying It did seem To just fly by I hardly remember what it feels like To be pregnant anymore esp with the weight almost all gone! Time is just flying And he is going for his shots tomorrow, feels like he is growing up To quickly!

I think it's better To have the distraction at this point trying. How is your dh with everything?

Oh wait is your birthday on 17th may?? I vaguely remember u saying.. I def know u are a may Baby! And yes I agree all awesome people are born on 17th May! &#128521;

Hi Tesh

Pregnancy must feel like it was ages ago for you now. How is little man coming along?

My DH is ok i guess. Just feeling the pressure as loads of our friends are now pregnant and we started tying way before everyone. It sucks big time. Anyhow other than that all is well. Looking forward to starting acupuncture soon. She specialises in infertility. Worth a shot to help with stress levels if anything

Yeah I am a 17th May birthday

 

[psychochick]

Trying: oo acupuncture, let us know how that goes. I've heard some success stories on this forum from acupuncture.

Hm it sucks that your DH is feeling the pressure also. Certainly all of my friends are falling pregnant left and right, but somehow my DHs friends are still single. There are actually a lot of single guys in my area (silicon valley). Probably cuz all the eligible women are all shacking up and having children haha. In fact some of my friends are starting on #2! @_@. My facebook feed is also full of birth announcements all of a sudden, even from people I don't really know. When did this become so trendy?

Tesh: Were the outfits for the baby provided by you or the studio? That's just a really cute wrap and I don't think we have any of that yet hahaha. For birth, I'll do whatever the doctor recommends, so natural birth as long as everything looks normal. I haven't had a scan since my 20 week scan, next is 36 weeks which is like 6 weeks away. But I'm pretty sure the baby is already head down cuz I feel his little feet kicking my stomach -_- Thanks baby, as if the heartburn isn't enough

Yeah we are thinking of Gordon, named after a dive site called Gordon Rocks that DH and I went to during our honeymoon. After that dive I decided I was ready to have kids so thought the name was appropriate. We don't know anyone or any kids near us with that name so we should be safe

How are you getting along with your son? Hope you're getting enough rest and getting well taken care of.

 

[Trying4first1]

Hi psychochick
Sorry I haven't been around.
I had my first acupunture session. I am not sure what to think if I am honest. I didn't feel overly relaxed. Just seems like so much money to be laying in a room with needles stuck in me. I will keep at it though as it may take. A few sessions to get into it.
What was weird though is when I got home I cried so much. It was a real pitty party. I think it was because I was overwhelmed by everything and it was the realisation of our situation. I was lying there thinking oh my goodness I am actually having treatment for infertility why me etc? I went online when I got home and apparently crying after can be common as its a release that was needed. So maybe the crying was a positive thing after all?

My AF is due in two days and she is def coming so not been feeling too happy about that. I wasn't expecting this cycle to work despite perfectly timed BD but it is still so hard to swallow even after all of this time.

Anyway. I love the name Gordon! Also the fact it means something &#128522; My grandad was called Gordon.
Also I know about the FB announcements, jeez! I think we are just at that age now. Getting on

 

[psychochick]

Trying: ah no problems, I'm also not great about logging on nowadays. So lazy and bloated haha.

Hm yeah crying actually sounds like not a bad thing. Also I would say all of us here sort of had fertility "treatments". Like soy for Tesh, for me it was royal jelly. It's good for health anyways except we're doing it at a time where health is particularly important. I mean at some point during TTC I definitely wondered the same thing, like is it supposed to be this hard? What's wrong with us? I mean royal jelly aside, the O sticks, temperature charts, soft cups, preseed, like, really?? I think it's healthy to have that pity party. But you know you're definitely not alone and we're all rooting for you.

I also don't imagine acupuncture would be relaxing. I've never done acu but my parents sometimes do other "alternative" medicine massages on each other and they're not really "enjoying" it during the massage. And it's not meant to treat something instantly, supposed to be done regularly to have effect. I also wouldn't trust my parents to do that stuff correctly hahaha I think they just read or watch youtube videos or something.

Ooh that's cool your granddad is Gordon too. I was also thinking Jordan for our second one if our first one is Gordon. I guess Gordon and Jordan seems to match, but might be confusing cuz it sounds so similar. Also Jordan is relatively unisex so could work for either boy or girl. Getting too far ahead of myself though. One at a time.

Hope AF stays away but if not, hope the acu helps with next cycle.

 

[Trying4first1]

Hi psychochick
Sorry for the mega late reply. I dont go on here much now as try to put ttc aside.

Nothing to report. Another AF is about to arrive so sadly no BFP before my due date, so onto cycle 8 now...... I really feel like having the D&Cs has taken away my fertility. I know it's still in normal time and up to a year is normal but I just feel like I need to be given a break. Why is my body making me wait so long again? Seriously someone needs to have words with my lazy reproduce organs

We all have had our issues and have used all of the various methods to help with TTC. Whether they work or whether it's just coincidence I'm sure we will never know. I used to think that taking anti b's helped me get pregnant last time. But now I think that was a coincidence. Same as the time I used pre seed. But I guess they help us feel better.
Accunpunture has been very relaxing if anything. I feel like my urge to have a baby is still there but I am more accepting of the fact that there is nothing I can do to make it happen. So I have been putting my energy into other things eh throwing myself into work. Not the path I want to take but if getting busy and feeling relaxed helps then that would be a bonus.
U musnt have long to go now!? 5 weeks or so!?

 

[psychochick]

Trying: heheh glad to see you're still being positive. I totally understand though, you've been through so much. I also have my theories on what allowed me to finally conceive, I think it was the cold during O time hehe. But honestly I think the whole thing is a mystery. I don't know why it didn't work for a while and why that time it did... I suppose that's just how we're built. Glad to hear that acupuncture is working out! How often do you go?

I'm at 35 weeks yes! But it's funny I've also been working a lot since this is my last week at work and I wanted to make sure I got things done before I leave for months. When I'm not working I've actually been playing a lot of video games because let's face it, won't have that time when the baby comes. I would try to do more active things but I'm just so physically drained by the end of the day. I'm definitely waking up a lot every night. I also have a bit of carpal tunnel from the water retention, my hands get inexplicably sore. Guess it's normal for someone this far along I guess. Now whenever I see people TTC, I'm like o man, don't focus on TTC, go out and have as much fun as possible cuz the moment you fall pregnant, your body will change in so many ways and it just won't be the same for a long time.

I'm ever so hopeful of good news from you Trying. I think you're doing amazing after everything.

 

[HungryM3]

Hi all, how have you been doing???

Psychochick, 35 weeks?? Time flies. Your son is almost here!! Are you prepared and ready? Have you decided if you're going natural or c sec?

Tesh, how are you settling in? Adjusted well? How's your boy?

Trying, I hope you're enjoying yourself and not stressing. Sometimes things just happen when you least expect it. Don't give up hope. Stay positive!

I've been so busy and so tired that I don't have time for much leisure stuff. By the time my daughter falls asleep, I want to sleep too and more so because I know I'd better sleep as well. I don't know how we manage to do this! It's kinda amazing how I haven't had a proper sleep in so many months and I'm ok. Haha. She's turning 4 months next week already. Can't believe it!

 

[psychochick]

Hungry: so good to hear from you again! 4 months :O that's quick. I forget, is your DH helping you or do you have other family/nanny? I'm also afraid I'll be overwhelmed eventually, I really like sleep too so I'm afraid I'll be super grumpy. But maybe we just eventually adjust to the little sleep we can get. Is your daughter getting better at sleeping and starting to interact with you more?

I'm def doing natural as long as everything looks normal. I am ok with C-sec although now I'm a lot more educated on the risks. Just had a quick U/S last week and gyno said the baby is already head down and she said he's likely to stay that way if he's already there. So we're at least good there. I haven't packed my labor bag fully yet and the nursery's still kind of a mess but this week's my last week of work so I'll have lots of free time soon to take care of everything.

 

[HungryM3]

Hi psychochick,

To be honest, for me, it was definitely overwhelming at first. We had a confinement nanny for 3 months. When I took over after she left, it was definitely trying. And at 3 months they are already easier in the sense, they aren't as fragile. Plus and minuses. I think for people without nannies, it is tough immediately but you would adjust quickly as well. Newborns feed more often. Now I'm trying to get my daughter into a feeding schedule as she's already almost 4 months. I also have a helper now to do mainly housework and care for my daughter if I have to run out of the house. Don't live with family, so that's a bit tough - to get them to help.

Sleep deprivation is for sure! Just tonight. My daughter slept at 830pm. She woke up at 1am to feed and again at 445am. So basically I've slept from 10pm to 1am. Feed and pump. Then slept from 230am to 445am. And now 515am and I'm trying to go back to sleep till 6am when I usually pump again. I do a mixture of breastfeeding and pump / bottle feed. And this is a decent night. Some nights she doesn't wake at 1am so I pump. Then by the time I'm done and about to sleep, She's up. Hahaa

But don't worry too much. You'll somehow just get through it. Are you intending to breastfeed? Or bottle feed? I think at the end of the day you've just got to learn to relax and go with what they want. Don't be too hard on yourself.

 

[psychochick]

I'm intending to breastfeed. Even if the nipple latch doesn't work, I'll pump and just bottle feed but hopefully still using breast milk. Heheh yeah I've heard that advice elsewhere too. Like we'll have all these expectations of how things should work and reality is never the same. Just gotta roll with the punches.

Yea I hear breastfeeding is not only hard but also very time consuming. Just takes a long time and that's the only thing you can do. I'm thinking of getting some wireless earphones to listen to music or shows or something to keep myself stimulated.

 

[Trying4first1]

Trying: heheh glad to see you're still being positive. I totally understand though, you've been through so much. I also have my theories on what allowed me to finally conceive, I think it was the cold during O time hehe. But honestly I think the whole thing is a mystery. I don't know why it didn't work for a while and why that time it did... I suppose that's just how we're built. Glad to hear that acupuncture is working out! How often do you go?

I'm at 35 weeks yes! But it's funny I've also been working a lot since this is my last week at work and I wanted to make sure I got things done before I leave for months. When I'm not working I've actually been playing a lot of video games because let's face it, won't have that time when the baby comes. I would try to do more active things but I'm just so physically drained by the end of the day. I'm definitely waking up a lot every night. I also have a bit of carpal tunnel from the water retention, my hands get inexplicably sore. Guess it's normal for someone this far along I guess. Now whenever I see people TTC, I'm like o man, don't focus on TTC, go out and have as much fun as possible cuz the moment you fall pregnant, your body will change in so many ways and it just won't be the same for a long time.

I'm ever so hopeful of good news from you Trying. I think you're doing amazing after everything.

Hey psychochick!
Funny you say about the cold thing. I've heard about that. Warmth is meant to help with implantation. We have had a warm ish summer here so you never know it may help I am doing accunpunture once a week. It definatley helps. I am also now going to be getting a refferal to a charity run recurrent miscarriage clinic in London. They do more tests that the NHS don't cover and I can take part in research trials. The refferal will prob take quite a while but something to look forward too. Just wish I Knew I could have been a part of it ages ago. Never mind.

I am 3 days late for AF today. I am never late. But I have had a negative test today at 16dpo on an IC. I don't think I'm pregnant and if so I think it's a chemical so I'm not going out to get a better test unless AF doesn't arrive by Monday when I am 5 days late. I have no pregnancy signs and don't feel pregnant. All PMS went a week ago and I've just had some headaches and I'm constipated this eve wit a sore tummy. But that could be down to anything.

Wow! 35 weeks!! That's flown!!! My little one would have been due today so I guess that makes sense! Seriously wow!
The end of pregnancy doesn't sound very pleasant at all. Sounds like a good plan to get the video games in while you can
Me and DH are trying to take our minds off ttc and we are only DTD every other day now. It's hard not to focus on it though after so much heartache and after trying for so long. But we do our best to put it at the back of ours minds.
At the moment I am enjoying buying new clothes to suit my new frame and am enjoying time with friends
Please let us know when you have little man. I will update you on AF and my refferal

 

[Trying4first1]

Hi all, how have you been doing???

Psychochick, 35 weeks?? Time flies. Your son is almost here!! Are you prepared and ready? Have you decided if you're going natural or c sec?

Tesh, how are you settling in? Adjusted well? How's your boy?

Trying, I hope you're enjoying yourself and not stressing. Sometimes things just happen when you least expect it. Don't give up hope. Stay positive!

I've been so busy and so tired that I don't have time for much leisure stuff. By the time my daughter falls asleep, I want to sleep too and more so because I know I'd better sleep as well. I don't know how we manage to do this! It's kinda amazing how I haven't had a proper sleep in so many months and I'm ok. Haha. She's turning 4 months next week already. Can't believe it!

Hey Hungry
Can't believe your little one is 4 months now. It doesn't seem possible! Time is flying so much. It's great to hear from you

Me and DH are trying our best to stay chilled but that alone doenst make a baby as we are all aware. But it defiantly helps to keep us sane. We have been enjoying going away and having days out etc. It's lovely as we seem to appreciate each other much more.

As you may see above my AF is currently late but negatibe test on HPT (Internet cheapy). Don't get it. I'm never ever late. I'm guessing a chemical or just one of those things!

 

[psychochick]

Trying: Ooo recurrent miscarriage clinic sounds interesting. I'm definitely curious as to the types of tests they do. And 3 days late is promising. Let's hope it's just late implanter. But if not, I would also wonder if it's chemical. =\ I hate it when our bodies confuse us like that. It's the worst part of the month. Like either it worked or let's get on with it.

Aw it sounds like you're having a good time with your DH. Actually my DH told me he's been avoiding sex with me because he's afraid of causing labor to start early! I'm also feeling clumsy and unattractive so I'm not often in the mood but I had no idea he was so concerned about inducing labor. I'm trying to convince him that 1. I'm not that fragile 2. he's not that powerful I mean they pump women with quite a bit of drugs to induce labor, so I don't think it's that easy.