30 something and TTC #1 for a year

[mk8]

I'm loving these heartbeat stories!

Good luck brasserie. This is a fertile year! I'm sure of it!

 

[aleja]

MrsG when is your due date? That's lovely news about the heartbeat

Brassy good luck xxxxxxx

 

[MrsG2010]

Oct 9

 

[aleja]

Hi dear ladies hoe you are all well. I am bumping up the thread to see how everyone is going !

Broody and MrsP how are the new babies going along? Broody, is Fia still in hospital or have you brought her home already?
MrsP how are you settling into your new mummy role. So very exciting

Cupcake and MrsG hope your pregnancies are going well. Are you passed 12 weeks now?

Mk8, brassy, truly and all the other ladies I missed wishing you lots of baby dust in your cycles..xx

Me: I am doing well I've hit 6 mths and feeling rather large already. I have to start organising baby stuff as so far I've bought nothing!

 

[GettingBroody]

Hi girls!!

All is good here! Fia is still in hospital but getting on very well! Moved into the intermediate care room on Friday! Nearly ready to move to a cot too Just under 4lbs 3oz today! (1.89 kg) She's been switched from her cpap mask to a less intensive nasal cannula. She's mostly on room air with no added oxygen but she likes the little bit of air pressure the machine gives her! Hopefully as her lungs grow bigger she'll need less and less support (and then no support!) Physio saw her yesterday and was pleased with her... Wearing her own clothes since the end of last week too which was very exciting!

Hope you are all well!

MrsP - how is babyP?

Aleja - I need to get lots of last minute bits. I have a feeling the next few weeks will fly by and suddenly she'll be ready to come home and we won't be a bit ready for her!

Cupcake & MrsG - how are ye feeling?

Mk8, Truly, Brassy - sending buckets of your way! Can't wait for the next bfp!

Anyone I've forgotten - so sorry!!!!

 

[aleja]

Hi broody,
So lovely to hear Fia is doing well. She really is a little miracle. In the end did you find out why she came early? Wow she is wearing her own clothes ! What size is she? I am still thinking of her and hoping the time will come when you take your lil gal home x

 

[MrsPTTC]

Aleja we need bump pics!

Broody, soooo pleased Fia is doing well thats excellent news.

Penny is doing ok though is either a rather difficult baby or has a reflux - I'm going to talk about it at her 6 week check on tuesday. She's so unsettled & is sick a lot, and wow what a temper! Only getting a few hours sleep in total a night, its exhausting!

Here are some pics...

How are the ttc ladies??

x

 

[aleja]

Hi MrsP,
She may have a little temper but she looks like an angel in the photos. She is very cute- and I love her t- shirt!
I dont Know anything about babies but eVeryone says the first 3 months is extremely hard. However hopefully the check up will give you piece of mind.

Yes I will put up a bump photo... Ill try take one later today x

 

[mk8]

So good to come on and see happy photos and hear happy stories!

Will message properly later as phone battery about to go!

Xxx

 

[MrsG2010]

Hi girls. I'm 16 weeks and moving along. You might remember we are moving this month - so that's been keeping me very busy.

Hope you all are well !

Mrs p - thanks for sharing!
Broody - glad to hear baby is progressing well!

 

[cupcakesarah]

Lovely pics MrsP and glad to hear Fia is doing well Broody.

I'm now 13 weeks. Had my nuchal fold test last week which came back at 1.4mm, however combined with the blood test it's put our risk of a baby with down's at 1:150. I found this out yesterday and have been really upset ever since. This puts us literally on the borderline of high risk/low risk (150 is the cut off). So they've offered us further testing, either CVS or an amnio. I'm just so scared, after seeing the nuchal fold I was convinced everything was fine, I know the clinic told me the blood test results can be skewed because of the hormones. I won't consider a CVS but am considering the amnio. I'm terrified though, not so much about the procedure but about it causing a miscarriage after and then we find out the results were all clear. I've struggled too much for this baby to let it go, but can I really cope for the next 26 weeks not knowing anything? In my heart I think baby is fine, but then would I be able to cope with a baby that has down's? We have to consider it's life not just it as a baby. I mean I'm thinking about such horrible stuff and I don't even know the result. As my husband said 1:150 means that 149 babies are fine? I'm going to call some more people today to find out more but I'm just so upset. I have this awful stress headache, I constantly feel like I'm going to be sick and it's all I can think of.

Would you ladies have the amnio, with a 1:100 risk of miscarriage?

 

[GettingBroody]

Hi Cupcake,

I'm so sorry you are having to go through this. Personally, I wouldn't do the amnio because no matter what the result I would still continue with the pregnancy and I would be afraid to risk it just to have peace of mind. However, it is totally your decision and only you and dh can decide what is best for ye. Some girls on another thread I'm in have had amnios with no problems. Another girl on the same thread was given a 1:100 risk of Downs for her twins based on the nuchal fold (I think) - they were born a few weeks ago and are both fine. Sending loads of I'm know it's hard but try to stay positive...

 

[aleja]

Hi cupcake,
Thanks for updating and I am so sorry you are going through this. I can totally understand the stress and worry especially given the journey you have been on to get your bfp.
Your DH is right - the risk is less than 1% which is good odds.
But if it were me personally I would have the amnio as I don't think I could handle the 'not knowing' for sure part. I am a planner and worrier by nature. I couldn't imagine not knowing for sure but it probably wouldn't change the outcome for me as we would likely have the baby.
If you do go ahead with it I would go to a place where they have a good reputation for doing the procedure. Some doctors are better than others at this.
My cousin was recently faced with this dilemma.. She had the amnio and was completely fine and so was the baby. But of course this is such an individual and personal choice - I hope you and DH can find a way to decide xx

MrsG its all happening for you! How lovely that all this has happened .. New pregnancy new home new life x

 

[MrsG2010]

Cupcake, so sorry you are having worries. I don't know what a nuchal fold test is ...

I personally would not do further testing. However, I know it's a decision for you and DH to make. Please keep us posted and I'll be thinking of you.

 

[MrsPTTC]

Aww cupcake sending you massive I honestly don't know what we'd have done, probably have the amino but I don't think you can say for sure until put in that position. We had the NT test & my DH said all along he would want an amnio & awful to say but he wouldn't want me to continue with the pregnancy if it came back as downs. I'm not sure myself. What does your dh think? X

 

[mk8]

Hi cupcake, sorry to hear you're going through this. I don't know what I'd do to be honest. The risk of miscarriage is higher than the probability of downs so I can imagine how torn you and your other half must be feeling. An option could be to wait until the 20 wk scan to see if there are additional markers but that obviously depends on what you and your dh feel
Comfortable with. Did they note you had assistance as I understand that can dramatically affect the risk levels. Good luck and wishing you happy thoughts and a healthy bump. X

 

[mk8]

Hi cupcake

A friend of mine mentioned an alternative to the amnio. She went to a clinic in Harley st, London, where they took her blood and sent it to a lab in the states to review. 99% certainty. This might be an option for you. Good luck.

 

[cupcakesarah]

Hi mk8 that's what we've done as an in-between at a private hospital I found near us, if the results from this test come back 99% positive that baby has downs then hubby wants me to have amnio to confirm for definite. It's called the Harmony test, I did it on Friday, two massive vials of my blood are on their way to California at the moment, they look in my blood for fragments of babies DNA, how amazing is that. Results back in about 2 weeks. Nervous but actually feeling better about the whole situation at the moment because we've done something. Yes £600 would definitely have helped with setting up for baby but to be honest this is why we have savings and if it gives me more information without risk of miscarriage then it was worth every penny! I just hope we get the results we want back to kind of put all this behind us. I'm putting it down to unlucky week 13 which is the stage I was at last week. Anyway it wouldn't be me without a little bit more difficulty than most people ( like all of us on here) en route to having baby, I think 2 1/2 years of trying, more tests than i remember, virtually getting over my fear of blood tests, 2 IUI's, 1 IVF and OHSS was just for starters. I'm obviously not the coasting through life type of person, life throws me rubbish to show I can cope!!! Maybe it's prep for motherhood. I am so hopeful and praying that our little miracle is ok, every time I see a scan I just think how can anything possibly be wrong with my beautiful little baby.

X

 

[mk8]

Best of luck with the results cupcake. Given everything you have been through, this baby is going to be a healthy one and here to stay! I can feel it! We are all going to be mummies to happy and healthy little ones very soon!

 

[GettingBroody]

I'm glad you were able to get that blood test Cupcake. How long will you have to wait for the results?