SydneyB
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Don't want to go into too much detail but after trying to not have a baby for 20 years and then deciding the time was right I got pregnant after a year of not taking the pill (age 36). We decided when I came off the pill that if I got pregnant great but if it didn't happen then so be it. This seemed fine at the time. When I got pregnant it was perfect - I was scared - but about having a baby not that I might loose it!! Last September at my first scan I was told I had had a silent miscarriage. A WHAT????? What's that and why on earth did I not know my baby had died - I felt fine and was being sick and had sore boobs and a small tummy - Devastated !!!!! Since then things have been bad to say the least. My partner works away ALOT and I don't live near my family or friends so I've felt so lonely. Reading forums like this has helped but I thought by now I would be feeling better but some days it just seems worse than ever. Mostly because what has happened has set my biological clock ticking - I'm running out of time !!! From thinking if it happens it happens I now think oh my god what if I can't have a baby!!! My husbands works away from home abroad for months at a time - so realistically all timings considered I could possibly conceive about twice a year if timings were right - what chance have we of having a baby! I am seemingly OK to everyone - only my husband knows now I feel and even he doesn't know really how desperate I am becoming. And from recent experience putting pressure on him doesn't help when you are trying to conceive if you know what I mean!! Family and friends have hidden news of recent pregnancy's from me which hurts even more when I find out yet nobody asks me how I am coping?! Am I supposed to tell everyone "YES I know its 8 months ago since I was pregnant and my baby should have been due next month BUT I'M NOT OK I'M STILL HEARTBROKEN!!!
I know I need to see someone to talk to but I need some advice from someone who has possibly had some counseling - will it make me feel better? I know it won't help me have a baby and that's all I want but I know a baby won't come if I'm feeling like this either!!!! HELP
I know I need to see someone to talk to but I need some advice from someone who has possibly had some counseling - will it make me feel better? I know it won't help me have a baby and that's all I want but I know a baby won't come if I'm feeling like this either!!!! HELP