I apologize in advance if this is the wrong forum.
So....my fiance and I have been engaged since January of 2018 (been together 7 years). We are finally approaching our wedding date! I'm excited, he's excited and I thought we had made a plan toward our future but he's now changing his position.
Several months ago we discussed at least trying for our first child in July. He and I are both 38. To add to our situation, I had a surgery to remove fibroids that impeded my ovulation last August 2018, specifically to prepare for a family. At my follow up appointment, my doctor reminded us that we needed to consider having a child sooner rather than later because the fibroids could come back, which would equal ANOTHER surgery for me.
With all of this in mind, my fiance has been really irritable lately. Yesterday he told me that he wants to wait longer (additional 6 months) to try to conceive. I'm so frustrated and angry with him. He said he is overwhelmed right now with the wedding, a possible move and baby talk. I don't know what else to do. How can I approach him about this? I don't feel like the issue is resolved because he is completely changing our family plan because of his temporary feelings. He isn't the sole provider (I make more than him) and I share all of the household responsibilities with him so frankly I'm offended that he is so overwhelmed when I'm in the same situation he is in.
On the other hand, should I simply leave it alone. I am super frustrated. Looking for advice from others over 35 TTC. Will the road be hard? I don't want to wake up and decided to try several months from now and find out it won't happen OR will take years.
So....my fiance and I have been engaged since January of 2018 (been together 7 years). We are finally approaching our wedding date! I'm excited, he's excited and I thought we had made a plan toward our future but he's now changing his position.
Several months ago we discussed at least trying for our first child in July. He and I are both 38. To add to our situation, I had a surgery to remove fibroids that impeded my ovulation last August 2018, specifically to prepare for a family. At my follow up appointment, my doctor reminded us that we needed to consider having a child sooner rather than later because the fibroids could come back, which would equal ANOTHER surgery for me.
With all of this in mind, my fiance has been really irritable lately. Yesterday he told me that he wants to wait longer (additional 6 months) to try to conceive. I'm so frustrated and angry with him. He said he is overwhelmed right now with the wedding, a possible move and baby talk. I don't know what else to do. How can I approach him about this? I don't feel like the issue is resolved because he is completely changing our family plan because of his temporary feelings. He isn't the sole provider (I make more than him) and I share all of the household responsibilities with him so frankly I'm offended that he is so overwhelmed when I'm in the same situation he is in.
On the other hand, should I simply leave it alone. I am super frustrated. Looking for advice from others over 35 TTC. Will the road be hard? I don't want to wake up and decided to try several months from now and find out it won't happen OR will take years.
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