39 and trying to conceive:-(

[Bonnie1990]

welcome Kisment!
ill be 40 in October. TTC #3 since January with an 18 and 20 year old and a granddaughter too!

 

[Bonnie1990]

cd1

HSG on 7/23

SA when DB quits acting like a about it

 

[luckylecky]

Hi Ladies,

I should be saying my farewells now that I'm no longer 39. AF paid a visit on my birthday. Not only did my DH not bother with a gift (he rarely does) he couldn't even make the effort to get a crappy card. So that also means no card from my adorable 1yr old, although he's forgiven, my DH on the otherhand has a lot of making up to do. Having no friends and family around means it was one shit birthday..

Bonnie sorry you're out again too this month, it's not a very fruitful one is it? Next month with fingers crossed.

 

[Bonnie1990]

you do not have to say farewell to us here at all!
yeah-this has been a shitty month! sorry-no other way to say it!

 

[BabyBean14]

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[PositiveUs]

The witch got me with a vengence yesterday. TMI- I don't wear tampons for the fear of endometriosis which I already have but don't want to take the chance of getting worse, so I have to wear the regular pad on the underwear, but then to catch the overflow, I wear bicycle type pants that are really tight and I put a pad on each side of that. There is always overflow on day 1 and 2. So now at work wanting to just die. Took 2 tylenol and its working pretty good. I can't try this month because of surgery so that means I can take this new chinese herb that helps with endo which you can't take when ttc. I guess it's a good thing. A month of not trying really makes me feel like I'm lagging behind though. Just want to be in bed with the dogs today. Maybe in a few hours I will tell them I need to leave!!! Maybe...

 

[BabyBean14]

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[PositiveUs]

I am having both laproscopy and hysteroscopy on the same day to check everything out before my next round of ivf. The doc and I agree it's a good idea given my age and history of adenomyosis and one blocked tube. They will try to unblock the tube, if they can't they will remove it because there is a risk for ectopic if they just leave it. They will try to take away any endo they see and do a biopsy of the uterus. I can't wait. I want to know how good or how bad my uterus really is.

 

[BabyBean14]

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[Bonnie1990]

im sure it will go well-when are you scheduled for?

 

[SunflowerMama]

I am having both laproscopy and hysteroscopy on the same day to check everything out before my next round of ivf. The doc and I agree it's a good idea given my age and history of adenomyosis and one blocked tube. They will try to unblock the tube, if they can't they will remove it because there is a risk for ectopic if they just leave it. They will try to take away any endo they see and do a biopsy of the uterus. I can't wait. I want to know how good or how bad my uterus really is.

Hey Positive,
Wish you all the very best! Be brave, girl! Lots of love and prayers coming your way!

 

[PositiveUs]

Thanks for everybody's support . I am scheduled for next friday, 7/27. I just have to come to peace with the fact that I can't BD this month. I will O like 2 days before the procedure and you can't ttc before the procedure. This sucks cuz I feel I'm wasting a precious month. But on the upside, I will know what's going on and if there is something they can do to repair something then they can. I am reeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeaaaaaaallllllyyy depressed. Come to tears with any remotely sad music, at work, in the grocery store, at the pharmacy, anywhere. I don't want to take an antidepressant though because I think it's pretty normal to feel this way while going through these life obstacles. I just have to make sure that I don't make those around me miserable. I am still thankful for what I do have and for the ability to even have these procedures done; I realize that I am lucky for that chance.
Well, good luck to everyone else who gets to BD this month! I am not going to even chart. There's no point.

 

[PositiveUs]

The problem with ttc, especially when you don't already have a child, is that it becomes all consuming and the only thing in the world that matters. Without the possibility of a child, life seems to have an underlying sadness and life does not progress the way you thought it was supposed to. The smart thing to do is to have a plan for when ttc is over. At this point all I have to look forward to is working the same job, for little money, little status, and growing old. Sounds pretty bleek. But that's how it looks right now. I know it may change with age and learning acceptance. I bet it gets really hard when your parents die. Then you have no special bond with a parent or a child. Then lonliness must really set in.

 

[BabyBean14]

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[PositiveUs]

You are totally right Kismet, I have my artwork that I need to focus waaaaaaaaaaaaaay more on. When I am making art, I am creating and I think creating is what we want to do. So at least I can create my little works of art, they are living things in my eyes and they are my children that I praise and am proud of. I will really try to stay positive. I think that hormones from the ivf are also at play here with my emotions being so tender. Plus my two girlfriends are pregnant.

 

[BabyBean14]

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[Evve0314]

Hi, im 39 and my fiance and I *just* decided to start TTC as of June. I am prepared for a LOOONG road ahead. But miracles do happen: earlier in the year, one of my classmates from H.S. (same age as me) announced that she is pregnant with her first child -- she had been unsuccessful in TTC during her midthirties for three STRAIGHT years..and this time it was wholly by accident. Now she is a healthy 24wks pregnant! So go figure! We never know what fate has in store for us

So that makes me hopeful. Well wishes to all of you!

 

[PositiveUs]

Ok. Is it just me or do you see that it seems like 75% of the women on here have had a mc? or they have had several mc? What the hell is going on? I am just blown away at everyone's signature that indicates mc and how many. After being on this site for almost a year or so, I just can't believe how many there are!!!! This is obviously scary because I don't want this to happen to me after all the time and effort and now money! How completely devastating!!! I don't know how anyone survives any of this!

 

[drsquid]

i think a lot of it (mc that is ) is that when you are trying to conceive you are paying a lot more attention. mc is pretty darn common but... when you arent trying, you just figure you had a heavier period than usual etc. if you are trying you likely noted your period was a few days late, got a pos test etc. lots of embryos are nonviable but fertilize anyway. the body figures it out and takes care of it. very few are viable pregnancies that are lost for other reasons (ie low progesterone etc).

 

[Just_married]

So today we went to the specialist and she said evrything still looked " fine" but she said I'm running out of time and it wasnt on my side. I'm going to try clomid for the next few months and then last option is ivf. I'm hoping we do it naturally and not pay 10,000 but will do if it means having a baby. Scary thing is nothing is 100%. Left appt feeling not so optimistic.

I starts TTC my first with my new hub last year at age 39. Hsg showed blOcked tube, but everything else perfect. Wouldn't give me clomid as I already ovulate. I specifically asked if I could get it to mature my eggs and was told no.

Hope Clomid is successful for you. My aunty tried it at 42 and it worked 2nd month for her.