39 weeks today! - feeling lost and lonely

[Bladesgirl]

I should be excited but I feel like I have just hit a wall over the last few days! My excitement has completely disappeared and has been replaced by fear or labour, fear of been a bad mother, fear of not been able to do anything I want to do with my life and finally a fear me and the OH are already seeing cracks and baby isn't even here yet!

Does anyone else feel like this and does it get better

 

[mrsparoline]

I can relate! DH was talking about when we're going to start ttc our third (it took until ds was almost 5 before I was ready to have another!) and I'm like "ummm can't I just get an iud?" lol! I have had to put my life on hold for my husband's career in the military, which he just got out of a few months ago, so I'm ready to finish getting my degree and feel like a person again! And I went from being anxious for baby to just come already to wanting just one more day of sleep and peace and not being a walking milk machine!

I know when our babies come we'll forget about most of our concerns for a little bit and get ourselves back on track, but being huge and uncomfortable and hormonal doesn't help right now!

 

[meandmrb2011]

These are normal fears lovey , I have days where I am horrified about giving birth again , can't believe I'm going through the crazy baby years AGAIN, being a milking machine, dirty nappies , sleepless nights , (my others children will be 6 & 11 when babe is born) how will I cope !! but then I think of this sweet little babe that will need me so much and the love that is pouring out of my entire family for this new little person !!! All my fears just melt away !!!

 

[Kte]

It's very natural to have these worries and you being worried you will be a bad mother already shows that you aren't going to be - because you are worrying about it already!

Your life won't stop, it will just change slightly and you will still get to do lots of things you have done before, or would like to do, it just sometimes needs a bit more planning

 

[xdxxtx]

It does get better. I promise. I had my first baby 13 months ago, and I felt similarly... My partner and I started arguing a LOT in the last weeks... My moods were everywhere... I was so scared yet so excited... so nervous, no idea when labor would happen or if I'd even go into labor (my sister and mom are both unable). But it's all normal... and when labor does happen, you'll be so full of love and excitement... It will be amazing, and although things with your partner may still be tense for a while with all the changes and the lack of sleep, that will get better, too.

 

[Doodlebug.]

 

[Bladesgirl]

Thanks everyone all the words of advice have helped today

 

[Miwi]

I'm so glad I read this thread! I'm being induced on Monday and honestly thought I was the only one having these fears! I so hope it will all melt away whenever labour starts and I meet my LO

 

[twobecome3]

I feel pretty wayward as well. im quite scared of labor so that's my main worry atm, i cant even think about what lies beyond that at this point
so i don't want it to happen anytime soon, but at the same time my body feels like its had quite enough. was all excited to get out and do some shopping yesterday and honestly after about 5 mins in the shop i almost burst into tears as i just wanted to be back home layed up on the couch im 41 weeks and will likely be induced by tues or wed, which makes me even more nervous as the midwives have said it brings labor on quicker and stronger than going naturally. since coming up on my due date i feel extra nervous when H goes to work, even tho hes just a quick call and 10 min drive away i don't want him away at all trying my best to just be calm and enjoy the last few days and not think about too much

 

[Bladesgirl]

Awww I'm glad I'm not the only one scared! I'm sure we will all be fine I guess it must be the end creeping up on us! Even more so the ladies going over due! I have heard that been induced can be more painful I'm scared of pain already never mind extra pain :/

Hope everyone feels better