3rd scan missed miscarriage suspected :(

[gemxgem]

Hi ladies, I had a scan done at 5 weeks to find an empty sac and 4mm. Scan a week later showed a sac and egg yolk measuring 7.7mm, scan this morning shows a sac still with egg yolk measuring 11.7mm no fetus. They said it doesn't look good and they think it's a missed miscarraige. Sac has had slow growth and measuring 5 weeks 6 days and I should be 7 half weeks now. Just wondered if anyone had anything similar and what to expect? Have to wait yet another week for another scan to confirm

 

[Chellxx]

Hi Hun, I don't really have an answer for you but just wanted to send you I'm in the same boat as you, I had a scan yesterday and there was only the sac, no fetal pole or anything, I have to go back on Tuesday for a second scan but I'm not sure how much things would of changed in just 5 days.

Limbo land sucks doesn't it! I hope everything turns out ok for you and that your bean catches up with the growth etc, and your next scan shows exactly what it should do xx

 

[gemxgem]

Hi Hun, I don't really have an answer for you but just wanted to send you I'm in the same boat as you, I had a scan yesterday and there was only the sac, no fetal pole or anything, I have to go back on Tuesday for a second scan but I'm not sure how much things would of changed in just 5 days.

Limbo land sucks doesn't it! I hope everything turns out ok for you and that your bean catches up with the growth etc, and your next scan shows exactly what it should do xx

Limbo land does suck!!! I think I've known for a while something wasnt quite right, hardly any symptoms low hcg cramping. It's just awful

 

[sapphire1]

I'm sorry you're going through this hunni. I was in a similar sitauation. Scan at 6 weeks showed an empty uterus, 7 weeks showed a 5mm empty sac, 8 weeks showed a 7mm empty sac and 9 weeks showed no change. It was only when there was no change that a missed miscarriage was diagnosed.

I know it's awful having to wait, by the time I had treatment for a MMC I was 10 weeks pregnant. Unfortunately there's not a lot they can do, it is better to wait than for them to diagnose a MMC too early. It may not necessarily be bad news, if you have a tilted uterus it can be difficult to see bubs.

Chell, I'm so sorry to hear you're going through this too. You probably don't know me, but I'm also a VR wag.

I hope everything is ok for you both x x

 

[gemxgem]

I'm sorry you're going through this hunni. I was in a similar sitauation. Scan at 6 weeks showed an empty uterus, 7 weeks showed a 5mm empty sac, 8 weeks showed a 7mm empty sac and 9 weeks showed no change. It was only when there was no change that a missed miscarriage was diagnosed.

I know it's awful having to wait, by the time I had treatment for a MMC I was 10 weeks pregnant. Unfortunately there's not a lot they can do, it is better to wait than for them to diagnose a MMC too early. It may not necessarily be bad news, if you have a tilted uterus it can be difficult to see bubs.

Chell, I'm so sorry to hear you're going through this too. You probably don't know me, but I'm also a VR wag.

I hope everything is ok for you both x x

I'm so sorry for both your losses it's a terrible awful time. I just wish I knew for sure being in limbo is terrible. I think I know what the outcome will be but because no bleeding my mind is playing tricks on me. My uterus was tipped today then when she got the nurse for a second opinion she said it had moved again! Was vaginal ultrasound too. Is so sad I feel for the ladies who have to go through it recurrently

 

[Chellxx]

I think I knew all along that something was different this time round, my symptoms all stopped weeks ago even the cramps that are so fearful, but perfectly normal in first tri, so now I'm just trying to move on whilst still hang on to the fact that beanie is still there are there is a slim chance everything could be ok, we could be them people who go for their last scan and see the flicker of a hb

Have you told many people? We only told parents and 2 sets of friends but dh tattooed a client today who goes to the Market where my parents have a stall apparently we are talk of the Market and everyone is congratulating us, I'm livid, now all these people are going to have to be told if the worst does happen grrrrr.

What date is your next scan?

Sapphire, sorry for your loss Hun how long ago was it? Was it post vr?

 

[gemxgem]

Hi chell, sorry you are going through this too. We told some family and I told the girls in my office as I had so many appointments it became obvious. I know my mum started telling people and I asked her to stop I guess they just get too exited. I have read a few miracle stories but don't want to get my hopes up. I didn't have any symptoms only boobs sore and tired but I had put a bit of weight on over Xmas so blamed the sore bbs on that. It's messing with my head as I'm not bleeding! My oh already had 2 kids and his ex had just had a little girl in January and although I'm happy for them I can't help feeling sad i can't have that too. Scan is on Thursday 8.15am. When is yours?

 

[gemxgem]

Sorry just read your scan on Tuesday, my scan is 6 days. They think as only the yolk sac is visable and it's growing slowly like 0.6mm a day that the baby died but the hormones are still in my body making the sac grow. Thing is it hasn't slowed down from last week it's still growing at exactly the same speed although it's making the pregnancy shorter as its only growing 4 days in a week! Every time I go I'm hoping to see a little bean but every time it's not there its horrible. She told me 15% of pregnancies don't present themself normally so there's always that little bit of hope but gut feeling is its not worked out this time. I hope u get some good news Tuesday keep everything x for u

 

[Chellxx]

I know exactly what you mean Hun, In someways I just wish I knew one way or the other, I keep thinking well if I start to bleed and miscarry naturally then at least I don't have to worry about making the tough decisions of d&c/ medical management.

I had pink cm earlier and thought this is it but that's stopped, then I had cramping and backache again I thought this is it but that went and now I have come to bed early as I'm so nauseous Im on the verge of throwing up and I'm thinking it's a good sign and might be ms?! It's so hard and emotional already I really do have so much respect for the people who do this over and over and still have the strength to go on with everything and not act like the world owes them, this whole thing has made me aware of other people's feelings.

Good luck on Thursday let me know how it goes xxxx

 

[sapphire1]

I agree with MC making you more aware of other people's feelings. For me, it was the only positive thing to come out of the experience. Quite a lot of people knew I was expecting, all of our family knew and a few of our friends. The experience makes you realise who your true friends are. Chell, the MC was post VR, it would have been my second VR baby - I already have a 1 year old.

I waited 4 weeks before my MMC was confirmed, and had to have medical management. It was a blighted ovum - no baby ever developed, and the sac was too small for me to have a d&c. I didn't want to wait for a natural MC as I'd already waited for so long and xmas was coming up.

If the worst does happen for you ladies, I'm happy to answer any questions about medical management.

 

[gemxgem]

Thank you, it is playing tricks with my mind as I have no bleeding and the sac is still growing at a continuos rate just no baby has turned up! I have hardly any symptoms either and never did through the whole time. Keep thinking about the fact I would be 8 weeks on Tuesday and he/she should have little fingers and toes
I'm not sure which I would go for d and c or medical. I guess I will have to think of that after Thursday.
I keep wondering if little bean will miraculously grow 2 weeks in 6 days but I know there's probably less than a 1% chance of that happening. With a mmc I thought that it stopped growing altogether I didn't realise the sac continued? I know with blighted ovums they do but I did have a yolk sac. Still 0.6mm a day is definitely abnormal.

 

[sapphire1]

Technically, a MMC is a non-viable pregnancy which your body hasn't recognised. If I hadn't have suspected something was up and booked myself into the EPAU for an early scan, I probably would have discovered it at my 12 week scan. My sac stopped growing somewhere between 8 and 9 weeks, so they were able to confirm miscarriage at that point. I think if it had continued to grow, they would have carried on scanning til it stopped. I did have spotting throughout the pregnancy, but it was always very light. I didn't have symptoms either, apart from sore boobies which carried on until way after I had the medical management

GL for Thursday

 

[gemxgem]

Thank you xxx

 

[Chellxx]

How are you feeling today? I had slight cramping last night and this morning but only the same as the week before I got my bfp so another confusing symptom my body has decided to throw at me

So will they now keep scanning you until the sac stops growing or starts developing properly (obviously hoping for it to develop)? I feel kinda drupe but I keep hoping that when I go tomorrow there is either the fetal pole with a hb to show a healthy pregnancy or the sac hasn't grown at all just so I know one way or another but then I feel sad and angry at myself and think even a little growth could be a good thing.

I know a few people who had mmc and found out at their 12 week scan, that's a long time to grow to love a baby then find out it's gone gosh nature is crule sometimes

 

[gemxgem]

I feel okay chell, I too have had slight cramping and my boobs are killing me!!! When I take my bra off its agony and it hurts to even lift my arms up! This morning I had nausea for the first time! (only had nausea at about 4am twice this is the first time I've woken up with it like proper morning sickness)
Had some advise from an online doctor who said that measurements can be out by a week and a growth of 4mm isn't necessarily bad. But because it's only growing 4mm a week it's now 10 days behind.
They said that they should definitely see something by Thursday due to the sac size I suppose and the fact it will have been 2 weeks since yolk sac seen so needs to be some change. She said gut feeling is its not good and I think I need to stop getting my hopes up. Thinking of asking my doc for hcg tests though.
How are u feeling about tomorrow? Sending you lots of

 

[gemxgem]

And don't feel bad about the way u feel, we've all gone through those feelings it's only natural

 

[sapphire1]

GL for tomorrow Chell

Don't lose hope yet gem, it's not automatically bad news when you're measuring behind.

I don't know if you ladies have seen this website, it has lots of stories about women who were told the worst but defied it. I found it quite comforting while I was waiting for my diagnosis. x x

https://www.misdiagnosedmiscarriage.com/

 

[Chellxx]

Sapphire thank you so much for that link, I read it before I went to my appt and it gave me some hope.

Gem I just want to give you some hope as today they found a perfect lil baby with a very strong heartbeat, how it happened I have no idea, but to go from an empty sac to an 8 week baby doesn't happen which means that dr DO get it wrong and your body can do amazing things. Please please keep positive, I am keeping everything crossed for you now and will be praying that you lil bean has had a lovely growth spurt and everything turns out ok on Thursday. Please let me know how you get on

 

[gemxgem]

that's fantastic news chell! yay! Did your sac measure small at your last appointment then? So it was completely empty at 7 weeks then 5 days later a baby turned up? Hehe!

Im not feeling very optimistic about me, still no bleeding but I believe baby stopped growing at a certain point but sac has carried on. Slow growth can't really be a good sign can it? I think it was the fact it was growing slowly that made me think something was wrong, then to measure 10 days behind after last time with no baby. It was the nurses who told me their gut feeling is its not worked out. My OH is telling me to listen to the nurses, I suppose that's how some men deal with it I don't know. Im just in limbo land, one minute i'm like yes there is definately a chance, forget what the medical professionals say. Then the next i'm thinking there has just been too many factors against it and I suppose they deal with this sort of think a lot! Still no bleeding!

Congratulations on your little bean, I bet it's a weight off your shoulders!

 

[Chellxx]

I think the dr that did my first scan was just a jumped up, too busy wally to really look. I saw a measurement on the screen that said 2.56cm but when I asked dr google there was jo way the sac could be that big with no fetal pole and still be a viable pregnancy so I either saw the size wrong or it was just an empty sac. Today my lovely obgyn took time and found the baby I measure at 3.6cm so either baby was hiding or there were 2 sacs but only one developed, the dr today didn't say anything about another sac tho so I think babay was hiding as no way would it grow in that time :/

I know you don't want to build your hopes up but there'd is still a chance huni