42.3 and trying for #4

[TryingAgain10]

Hi All -

I'm new to this group, but have read a few posts where there were moms over 40 that were trying for #4 or #5. It seems I might not be alone in that category? I have 4 beautiful children, but we always wanted 5, so I am always feeling like there is one missing. I was very fertile, it seemed. But now (almost 4-5 years later), I am having major issues TTC again. I wonder if my time has just run out. We have tried 3 IUIs (failed) and 1 IVF actually with only 5 eggs retrieved, 3 mature and all 3 fertilized, but none of them grew enough for transfer. I'm wondering if I should just give up and let it be, but interested in hearing other people's stories. Is it worth trying to go back to IUI and take a more aggressive approach??

 

[2plus1more]

Hi All -

I'm new to this group, but have read a few posts where there were moms over 40 that were trying for #4 or #5. It seems I might not be alone in that category? I have 4 beautiful children, but we always wanted 5, so I am always feeling like there is one missing. I was very fertile, it seemed. But now (almost 4-5 years later), I am having major issues TTC again. I wonder if my time has just run out. We have tried 3 IUIs (failed) and 1 IVF actually with only 5 eggs retrieved, 3 mature and all 3 fertilized, but none of them grew enough for transfer. I'm wondering if I should just give up and let it be, but interested in hearing other people's stories. Is it worth trying to go back to IUI and take a more aggressive approach??

Welcome! Have you tried to improve egg quality with supplements? I know a few of us take CoQ10. Some women try DHEA. I've been seeing an acupuncturist for three months. Don't know if it'll help yet, but it can't hurt. Some people swear by acupuncture. It seems to give a boost to my follicles during the follicular stage (seen on ultrasound) and my lining has been good. At any rate, it's been great for my anxiety related to TTC.

 

[2plus1more]

Sunshine, beta is today. You know I hate testing;-) at any rate, the progesterone kept me from spotting so it's worth it.

 

[2plus1more]

Hi ladies! I'm excited and a little stunned. My beta came back at 432. I'm 15 dpo. I don't think reality has hit yet! Thank you all the well wishes over the past few months. Just hoping for a healthy baby now.

 

[Sunshine14]

Hi ladies! I'm excited and a little stunned. My beta came back at 432. I'm 15 dpo. I don't think reality has hit yet! Thank you all the well wishes over the past few months. Just hoping for a healthy baby now.

2plus!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Yipeee!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
that is such fab news hun! Wishing you a happy and healthy 9 months hun xx that beta level is fab as well (my beta was 819 at 7 weeks! v bad!) so to have half that at 15dpo shows it is a good solid pg -- now fingers crossed for that sticky bean hun -- we need some good news on here babe - congratulations xxxxxx

 

[Sunshine14]

Hi All -

I'm new to this group, but have read a few posts where there were moms over 40 that were trying for #4 or #5. It seems I might not be alone in that category? I have 4 beautiful children, but we always wanted 5, so I am always feeling like there is one missing. I was very fertile, it seemed. But now (almost 4-5 years later), I am having major issues TTC again. I wonder if my time has just run out. We have tried 3 IUIs (failed) and 1 IVF actually with only 5 eggs retrieved, 3 mature and all 3 fertilized, but none of them grew enough for transfer. I'm wondering if I should just give up and let it be, but interested in hearing other people's stories. Is it worth trying to go back to IUI and take a more aggressive approach??

Welcome Trying - I know how you feel, I have 3 children but just feel my family would be complete with a 4th but it's hard at 43 - I have had 3 cp's, 1 missed mc and an ectopic in the last year so my body is trying & I do think I just need that one good egg but it is proving elusive lol ..... it sounds like you have been through the mill a bit but like 2plus says you could try coq10 which might improve egg quality - after my ectopic I have just started taking it again at 600mg a day but its bloody expensive! Ultimately it is up to you really if you want to keep going though as it is such an emotional rollercoaster and only you know if you can cope with the ups and downs x good luck anyways xx

 

[charlie15]

Yey congratulations first plus that's wonderful news! Here's hoping for a healthy sticky bean.

Welcome trying again 10! My situation is slightly different, I have just turned 42, had my inky daughter at 39, fell straight away, easy peasy pregnancy. Now tye quest for number 2 is a proving very horrible. I fall pregnant very easily which is great but I had 1 MMC in April and now I am 22 weeks pregnant with a girl with Trisomy 18. Think my eggs are past their best

My recent news with Zoe from my scan last week is not good. Zoe has developed hydrops with fluid in her lungs and abdominal cavity, it's a pretty fatal situation, so we are expecting her to pass away over the next couple of weeks. It's the final kick in this horrible situation and I am just about holding it together.

I still really want another baby. But I am looking at other options now, DE possibly. I just don't think I could cope risking another pregnancy like this one. If I knew that a poor egg would result in an early miscarriage I may well give it another go. No disrespect to those that have recurrent mc's I know it can be traumatic, but for me having had both experiences, I just could not face this again. But it's obviously only a thought at the moment, but one a road I would be happy to go down when we are ready.

How is everyone else doing?

 

[maxxiandniko]

Hi to everyone one new and good to hear that people are on the mend.
Charlie - still thinking and praying for you
2 plus 1 - I told you! Congrats! I wonder if it's twins...my first beta was 510
As for me I got more clarification. After I surge I start injections 7 days later. It's CD 8 for me now so hopefully I'll even surge this month.

 

[Sunshine14]

Hey ladies how are you all doing?

2plus how are things going? Hope its a very sticky bean for you hun? Have you had many symptoms kick in?

Mgirl - how are you hun? Haven't seen you on here for a while - hope you are ok. I know its tough to pick yourself up again after yet another mc and it can feel abit hopeless - I hope ur ok hun x

Charlie sorry to hear your news about baby Zoe. Sending you big hugs hun xx I hope whatever you decide that you get to complete your family xx

Maxxi - where's the surge hun? Did you get one? Have the injections started sweetie/ Fingers xd for you hun this month xx

Afm - got a + OPK last Wednesday so in 2 week wait now and just waiting for the witch next week. We were ntnp since the ectopic sorry for tmi but had some green tinged cm and I think thats a sign of high progesterone - I had that with the ectopic too so will see what happens ..... at least if I get af next week I will be back on track again!

 

[2plus1more]

Charlie, so sorry to hear the recent news about Zoe. Hoping for peace for both you and your family.

Sunshine, good news about your cycle. Looking forward to your next BFP! Especially since you started up your supplements again

Maaxi, I've wondered about the idea of twins. I guess it's a possibility since I had 2 follicles. Everything crossed for you!!!!!!!!

Had a repeat beta on 19dpo and it was 2307. Happy to have good numbers. Scan is scheduled for 2/11. I know that my bloating and fatigued is due to progesterone since those symptoms started right after ovulation. Sore boobs started 12dpo and they have increased in size in the last week. Only 5 weeks today.

 

[Sunshine14]

So happy for you 2plus xx I have a really good feeling about ur pregnancy - that beta is amazing!!! Cant wait to hear about the scan when you should see a hb right?

Afm - waiting for af - green tinged cm everyday so might be a sign of pg or else just high progesterone after mc ....... time will tell .....

 

[fandabby]

2plus. many congratulations on your pregnancy and as sunshine said amazing numbers. Really pleased for you. Sending you lots of positive vibes for a healthy bundle snuggling deep and will stay until cooked and ready to meet mama in 9 months.

Sunshine, glad you came through your ectopic and now back on board in your 2ww. Let's hope your symptoms suggest pregnancy! I caught straight after my mc so this could be it for you too. Let's hope so.

Charlie, so sorry to read you had more bad news with the scan showing hydrops. Thinking about you, Zoe and your family. You are so strong but remember to lean on people and let it all out when you are ready. Have the team said it will result in an ending? Is there any way that the hydrops will lessen and disappear? Take care of yourself.

Maxxi, good luck this cycle and hope to read you got your surge.

Welcome new ladies joining group.

Sorry just a quick catchup.

Sending you all lots of baby dust.

 

[maxxiandniko]

2 plus 1 - it's twins. My second beta was 14something.

As for me I start Lupron injections tomorrow. I don't know what the protocol is yet. It sounds like I'll start with some days of Lupron and then start stims. I guess I'll know tomorrow

 

[Sunshine14]

Good luck Maxxi the time is finally here! Hope the injections go ok xx fingers xd it all goes to plan and it works for you babe xx how many days of injections before they implant the embryo?

2plus how are things progressing with u hun? How long til your scan? Hope all is good and the little bean is nice and snug and growing well xx

Fandabby good to hear from u - Mistique must be getting big now ...... hugs to u both xx

Charlie - hope u r ok hun - big hugs to u whatever is going on xxxxxx -- we are all here for u & thinking of u hun xx

Mgirl hope ur ok hun? Are u trying again now?

Afm - had a 11/12 day LP & got the witch today. Happy enough with that as was told to wait until my first af (which this is) before ttc. Although the whole ectopic thing was very very stressful I know I'm very lucky that it reabsorbed so I'm hoping that because my body dealt with it there will be no long term impact on ttc so all systems go next month. Like u say 2plus hopefully my next pregnancy will be a sticky strong bean - the elusive golden egg ........

Anyway hugs to u all ladies xx

 

[maxxiandniko]

Good luck Maxxi the time is finally here! Hope the injections go ok xx fingers xd it all goes to plan and it works for you babe xx how many days of injections before they implant the embryo?

2plus how are things progressing with u hun? How long til your scan? Hope all is good and the little bean is nice and snug and growing well xx

Fandabby good to hear from u - Mistique must be getting big now ...... hugs to u both xx

Charlie - hope u r ok hun - big hugs to u whatever is going on xxxxxx -- we are all here for u & thinking of u hun xx

Mgirl hope ur ok hun? Are u trying again now?

Afm - had a 11/12 day LP & got the witch today. Happy enough with that as was told to wait until my first af (which this is) before ttc. Although the whole ectopic thing was very very stressful I know I'm very lucky that it reabsorbed so I'm hoping that because my body dealt with it there will be no long term impact on ttc so all systems go next month. Like u say 2plus hopefully my next pregnancy will be a sticky strong bean - the elusive golden egg ........

Anyway hugs to u all ladies xx

The elusive golden egg is right. I don't know anything about my protocol. So for right now I'm just doing Lupron. I may have to do it for a couple of weeks total until I can even start stims so it's going to take awhile for me.

 

[2plus1more]

Thank you Fandabby for your encouragement and starting the thread! I learned so much in the past few months while talking with everyone.

Thanks Sunshine for your never ending enthusiasm. Your excitement helps me get through the times when I'm nervous about this pregnancy. How are you? Gearing up for ovulation?

Maaxi, hope you are doing well and gearing up for your cycle. I'll admit, you had me convinced it was twins;-) good luck with the IVF, we're all hoping for the best for you.

Charlie, thinking about you and your sweet baby. Wishing and hoping for strength during this difficult time.

AFM, we heard the heartbeat today. Relieved now after a tense ultrasound. I've never had such an early scan, but it made me nervous initially since you can't see much. The doctor said everything looks good though (seven weeks yesterday) and I'll have a repeat scan 8 days from now.

 

[Serenjay]

Just want to say I am 42 and almost 7 weeks pregnant.. HB seen last monday 6+2 so 40's are good years

H&H 9 months to all that are pregnant and So much to all TTC xx

I have had 7 chemical pregnancies in 16 months and this is the furthest we have got (Myself and Partner have been together over 3 yrs I have 3 grown ups from previous)

 

[fandabby]

Thank you Fandabby for your encouragement and starting the thread! I learned so much in the past few months while talking with everyone.

Thanks Sunshine for your never ending enthusiasm. Your excitement helps me get through the times when I'm nervous about this pregnancy. How are you? Gearing up for ovulation?

Maaxi, hope you are doing well and gearing up for your cycle. I'll admit, you had me convinced it was twins;-) good luck with the IVF, we're all hoping for the best for you.

Charlie, thinking about you and your sweet baby. Wishing and hoping for strength during this difficult time.

AFM, we heard the heartbeat today. Relieved now after a tense ultrasound. I've never had such an early scan, but it made me nervous initially since you can't see much. The doctor said everything looks good though (seven weeks yesterday) and I'll have a repeat scan 8 days from now.

So happy you saw babe's heartbeat. Take a breathe, relax, you ARE PREGNANT AND WILL HAVE A LOVELY HEALTHY BABY......

Enjoy before you know it we'll be talking about when you'll be delivering.

 

[fandabby]

Just want to say I am 42 and almost 7 weeks pregnant.. HB seen last monday 6+2 so 40's are good years

H&H 9 months to all that are pregnant and So much to all TTC xx

I have had 7 chemical pregnancies in 16 months and this is the furthest we have got (Myself and Partner have been together over 3 yrs I have 3 grown ups from previous)

Congratulations H&H 9 months to you n babes, enjoy your pregnancy, you scored your golden egg.

 

[marathongirl]

2plus1- congrats!! That's great news. So pleased for you. It looks like we are going to have another rainbow baby on our thread!!!
AFM- cd 27 and no sign of the witch. Tbh I'm scared to be pregnant again because of all the losses. I will test later today and let you all know