42.3 and trying for #4

[Shannon30]

So sorry for your news Charlie. I have also had a missed mc and they stink!! Same thing..stopped feeling pregnant. I always get ms so when I didn't get it..I knew. Mine was taking too long to go naturally so I had a d&c and it was a painless procedure. Sending you hugs. Feel better!!!

 

[fandabby]

Hi ladies, not a happy update from me. I have had a missed miscarriage. Scan today showed no HB and a much smaller size than should be. I can't say I am surprised as I just stopped feeling pregnant and thought something may have happened. But obviously I am sad and now just want to miscarry naturally and try and move on.

Fandabby I know you had a horrible mc, do you mind if I ask you how long did you wait to TTC after? Not sure how I feel now, I think I just want to be emotionally and mentally ready to TTC, but would love to know from others experiences with this.

Massive hugs Charlie, so sorry you have had a mmc and now your emotional rollercoaster begins.

I don't mind you asking about mine but please bear in mind mine was unusual. Here goes:

I was told at my 9 wk scan had mmc, no hb. Had to return week later for confirmation. My bleeding started 4 Oct, extremely heavy and labour like pains. I couldnt take painkillers cause I was diagnosed last yr with duodenitis and ulcers. I bled constantly for 7 weeks. My body would go into a medium flow then gush and I yo yo d like this the whole time. I passed last pregnancy material as they call it 14th Nov and bleeding started to ease up and stopped 23rd. We did't wait watched for ovulation and caught straight away. I was on iron for 3 months as all the bleeding cause anaemia. Women dont normally bleed no where near as long as me I think the typical is 3-4 weeks.

I had enough by 7 weeks and it was tough to get through spent most of it crying and in evening sinking a bottle on wine to numb myself. Everyone is different handling it. As we waited so long for mc to finish and my age going on 43 we started dtd after bleeding stopped every other day until got positive for ovulation then stopped. Caught this little one.

If you have any questions please just ask.

Really feel for you right now, take care and day at a time.

 

[charlie15]

Thanks Shannon and fandabby. Fandabby your mc sounds awful, poor you, I am so sorry you went through that. Did they say when the baby had stopped growing? I will probably go down the medicated route if I don't miscarry naturally. Your experience makes me think about just getting on with trying straight away after rather than waiting until my next AF.

Tbh I am ok, yesterday I was very sad but not in the slightest surprised. Both of my pregnancies I have expected to loose, and seen it as a bonus when I don't, my way of self preservation I guess. Also I had never really got attached to the pregnancy at all, at 8 weeks in my heart I knew something was wrong, which is why I got this scan done. But I fully expect ups and downs to come my way, luckily I now have no symptoms of pregnancy at all, so I am hoping something will start soon.

How are you doing though?when is your 20 wk scan?

ClaireCath how are things?

 

[fandabby]

Thanks Shannon and fandabby. Fandabby your mc sounds awful, poor you, I am so sorry you went through that. Did they say when the baby had stopped growing? I will probably go down the medicated route if I don't miscarry naturally. Your experience makes me think about just getting on with trying straight away after rather than waiting until my next AF.

Tbh I am ok, yesterday I was very sad but not in the slightest surprised. Both of my pregnancies I have expected to loose, and seen it as a bonus when I don't, my way of self preservation I guess. Also I had never really got attached to the pregnancy at all, at 8 weeks in my heart I knew something was wrong, which is why I got this scan done. But I fully expect ups and downs to come my way, luckily I now have no symptoms of pregnancy at all, so I am hoping something will start soon.

How are you doing though?when is your 20 wk scan?

ClaireCath how are things?

I started bleeding when I literally had no symptoms left, no bloat, no sickness and literally did not feel pregnant. It came on like a heavy period straight away.

I kept ringing EPU and they just said wait it out and come the 3 week mark still bleeding still testing positive they couldn't get me in for a scan until something crazy like 10 days, WTF. They said if I bleed out of pads every 20 mins for a couple of hours to go to A&E. I was changing every 30 minutes and double padded myself. I thought about medical route but in the end went on auto pilot and waited it out.

Let's hope yours is quick and painless.

When they scanned me the baby measured something like 5.5mm, they never told me gestation but when I googled I gather between 6-7 weeks.
I started to bleed week 10 so it took 3-4 weeks for bleeding to start from baby not progressing. I think maybe my fibroids had something to do with the amount of blood I was losing too so please don't freak out over my experience. I was just one of those anomalies.

I go to Bham fetal medicine next wednesday for MCA scans (because of my anti bodies) and then my proper 20 week anomaly scan is next Friday. Bit nervous as you really don't know what's going on do you until you get scanned. I'm sure it will be all fine.

Like you when I had MMC I couldn't connect to pregnancy and kept saying something is wrong and people just kept saying don't be silly. I think your own intuition is usually right.

You take care Charlie and if you need to rant and rave just PM me.

 

[Shannon30]

Thinking of you Charlie...and OMG Fandabby. What a HORRIBLE experience. I think that is why I wet the medical route to afraid of the unknown. Just dreadful. Glad you are feeling good fandabby and Charlie hope you are doing ok!!!

 

[ClaireCath]

Thanks Shannon and fandabby. Fandabby your mc sounds awful, poor you, I am so sorry you went through that. Did they say when the baby had stopped growing? I will probably go down the medicated route if I don't miscarry naturally. Your experience makes me think about just getting on with trying straight away after rather than waiting until my next AF.

Tbh I am ok, yesterday I was very sad but not in the slightest surprised. Both of my pregnancies I have expected to loose, and seen it as a bonus when I don't, my way of self preservation I guess. Also I had never really got attached to the pregnancy at all, at 8 weeks in my heart I knew something was wrong, which is why I got this scan done. But I fully expect ups and downs to come my way, luckily I now have no symptoms of pregnancy at all, so I am hoping something will start soon.

How are you doing though?when is your 20 wk scan?

ClaireCath how are things?

Oh Charlie, my heart goes out to you hun. Huge I'm sorry to say I don't have any advice at all since I have not been there, but like Fandaby said feel free to vent to me any time at all. Glad you are not feeling too badly about it now and please keep up that spirit!
Afm, I'm nearing the end of my injections..a couple more days and i will do the trigger shot i believe! Will know more by Sunday, But I think IUI will be Tuesday. Then the long wait....And yes Fandaby, I di cut out the Evening primrose already. Thanks hun.
Take good care ladies.

 

[Shannon30]

BFN today..but af isn't due till Friday. So we shall see. I have cramps. But I have gotton them when I was pregnant also..WHO KNOWS!!!!! Took a FRED 6 days sooner. So maybe it's too early. I am thinking ..on to next month(((

 

[fandabby]

Hang in there Shannon, not over yet. I had cramps leading up and it was all the implanting. Fingers crossed for you. Are you using those 10 miu tests? That's what I used and then backed it up with CB digital a few days later.
I was dreadful, testing all the time.

Upload you photo to canyouseealine.com and if you use the 'Show Invert' when you have uploaded, it changes the colour and the lines have a glow to them. Makes it easier to spot that squinter coming.

Here is an example of what I mean, mine at 10/11 days PO - definite squinter but inverted you can see the strong glow which tells you test has worked and just above the glows just visible where the positive line shows.

https://www.canyouseealine.com/view_home_pregnancy_test.php?method=invert&testID=41811

If you upload, post the link and I'll take a look.

good luck dear. Lots of baby dust.

 

[fandabby]

Charlie - how are you doing? Have you started to bleed now? Hope you're coping okay and have plenty of support. Am thinking about you. Take care honey.

ClaireCath - how are things with your progress? Are you getting close now to trying? Remember to think and feel Mia's spell and feel it working. Use imagery for sperm fertilising your egg and implanting, that's what I did and feel the excitement that will bring. Living the experience draws it to you remember.

Good luck and lots of baby dust.

Take care ladies.....

 

[ClaireCath]

Hi all....Shannon, hang in there! Like Fandaby says cramping could go either way! Rooting for you here! Charlie, hope you are feeling ok these days. Remember we are here for you!
AFM,My follies were up to 21 and 19 yesterday and doc wanted to give them one more day of growth so....TONIGHT WE TRIGGER! IUI WED. morning! I also have 2 more around 7 but he's saying those won't come into play. Numbers are all good and with DH totally quitting smoking his s should be excellent! I'm curious to see that result actually. His numbers were good even before he quit so....
I emailed Mia and let her know the date for IUI...It's Wednesday am at 10:30. I'm super excited and have been doing my meditation and visualization daily. My reiki master told me the same things, surround myself in the highest vibration and positive self talk. She feels things are on my side and sees wonderful things happening. She even wants to give me a treatment when I am in the early stages of labor. LOL
So we trigger tonight and Wed is the big day! Hope you are feeling well, and have someone tying your shoes for you my dear! Haha Thanks for your support!
Have a great day all!

 

[Shannon30]

Thanks ClaireCath...Still cramps and I thought I had a light BFP..but line eye. AF is due Friday we will see. I am so excited for you!!! I have such a wonderful feeling!!! Positive thoughts heading your way!!! I'll keep you all posted..thinking I am out this month..but never know. talk soon.

 

[Shannon30]

AF got me..OK though. At least it was a nice 28 day cycle. Onto next month!!!

 

[ClaireCath]

AF got me..OK though. At least it was a nice 28 day cycle. Onto next month!!!

Onward and upward my friend! Glad to see you are keeping the great attitude! Our IUI went really well. DH's Numbers were great and we are very hopeful! Now we just wait...going to be long couple weeks. lol

 

[Shannon30]

Wishing you tons of luck. I am hoping this is our month!!! I am now on cd 8...KEEPING everything crossed!!! Keep you posted.
Shannon

AF got me..OK though. At least it was a nice 28 day cycle. Onto next month!!!

Onward and upward my friend! Glad to see you are keeping the great attitude! Our IUI went really well. DH's Numbers were great and we are very hopeful! Now we just wait...going to be long couple weeks. lol

 

[charlie15]

Wishing lots of baby fairy dust to you clairecath and Shannon.

Fandabby, how were your scans? I hope all is going well with you hun.

I decided to go for a D&C and have just had it this morning. I had started bleeding 2 days ago, but not much. It was the right choice for me as I just hated the idea of actively miscarying while looking after my adorable but nutty 17 month old! Now onwards from this. I think I will be giving myself 2 months before we ttc again. So probably not until june. I just want my body to recover first.

 

[fandabby]

Wishing lots of baby fairy dust to you clairecath and Shannon.

Fandabby, how were your scans? I hope all is going well with you hun.

I decided to go for a D&C and have just had it this morning. I had started bleeding 2 days ago, but not much. It was the right choice for me as I just hated the idea of actively miscarying while looking after my adorable but nutty 17 month old! Now onwards from this. I think I will be giving myself 2 months before we ttc again. So probably not until june. I just want my body to recover first.

Hi Charlie, I have been thinking about you. Sending you hugs for your emotional and physical recovery.

You take it easy and take each day as it comes.

AFM, scans went well. Babe looks fine from what they can see but they still say they can't be 100% sure. MCA Doppler showed within range so things stable at this point. Just waiting on blood results to see if antibodies have raised which will then determine if next scan is next week or end of April.

Good luck to ClaireCath and Shannon on this cycle. ClaireCath when you going to start testing? Sending lots of babydust.....

 

[ClaireCath]

Thanks Girls. Charlie, I'm glad you are chilling a bit before trying again. It must be such a roller coaster of emotion for you hun. Still, like I said you seem to have a wonderful attitude. Take good care of yourself and thank you for the words of encouragement! Fandaby, glad scans look good..keep em coming! Will you post a pic of the ultrasound/ You so inspire me especially to keep my positive attitude and welcome this baby to my world. I put it out to the universe every day. At this moment i am of the mindset that I am NOT testing before my bloodwork is done. Since I took the HCG shot to induce ovulation I would not trust the POAS test anyway. If it turned out to be a false positive because of lingering HCG in my system I would be crushed I think. But as It gets closer and if i start feeling real symptoms who knows. A woman has a right to change her mind ALWAYS!!! Still eating well, going for acupuncture, meditating, gentle yoga. I am feeling a bit plumper and boobs are a wee bit sore at times. i am taking those as good signs, although the dimples on my bum are concerning. LOL!
I'm in the middle of the longest 2ww. LOL Taking the progesterone pills 3x day and estrace(not orally) sorry if tmi. Waiiiiiiiiiiiiiiting. I feel ok. a bit emotional/bitchy/tired but being pumped full of hormones will do that obviously. No spotting, which I was hoping for... maybe a sign of implantation, but I know not everyone gets that. Tomorrow is day 28 of this cycle , which in a normal cycle would be the day AF arrives( I don't feel she is coming) but being that this was all controlled and I didn't ovulate til day 18, will i go 2 weeks from there? Confusing...by the time I get my bloodtest next Thurs it will be Day 33.
Well, as always, I am trying to take it all in stride.
Have a great day all!! :HUGS:

 

[ClaireCath]

Sorry that was a rambling post! LOL

 

[charlie15]

Ah ClaireCath, it must feel like more of a 2 month wait that 2W one! Seriously hoping it's all happening in there for you.

I am doing ok thanks, I feel ok about this miscarriage but even though I am waiting a couple of months to TTC again I am already scared of it. Scared of having another miscarriage I guess. I am thinking that's probably natural and maybe it will feel easier over time. In the meantime I have started running again. Before my daughter I use to do a lot of sport, but since then it's all stopped. So have made a decision to get my fitness back, running is the only thing I can squeeze into life, I am so unfit at the moment, but slowly getting there

 

[charlie15]

Ah ClaireCath, it must feel like more of a 2 month wait that 2W one! Seriously hoping it's all happening in there for you.

I am doing ok thanks, I feel ok about this miscarriage but even though I am waiting a couple of months to TTC again I am already scared of it. Scared of having another miscarriage I guess. I am thinking that's probably natural and maybe it will feel easier over time. In the meantime I have started running again. Before my daughter I use to do a lot of sport, but since then it's all stopped. So have made a decision to get my fitness back, running is the only thing I can squeeze into life, I am so unfit at the moment, but slowly getting there