weve just had our 3rd baby after a 6yr gap, he is our 3rd boy. We’re considering a 4th so that the 3rd has a sibling close in age. We’re worried about him feeling alone or left out when the others get a bit bigger, they have a 3yr gap & are 9&6. My view is a little clouded as I never wanted a big gap between children as I grew up with 7yrs diff between myself & brother (me been the eldest) and even tho were good friends now it was far from that growing up, felt there was a lot if expectation from me & been relied on a lot to help with him & he wasn’t an easy child! Although has grown up very well with a good job & family of his own. I always wished I’d had a closer sibling growing up. My perspective is from been the older child too, I’m not sure what it would be like for the younger child growing up with a gap, maybe not as bad. Part of me thinks our youngest will have the best of both worlds- 2 older brothers but also kinda a feeling of been an only child when they get older & are out more etc. From our point of view I think having 1 little child is easier , not bringing up a baby with a toddler/pre-schooler & no one for him to fight or argue with! But also no one to play with . The older ones are only going to want to do things with him for a certain amount of time before they’re off doing their own thing I’d of thought. They already spend a lot of time on their computers in their room. And due to my childhood I would deffo not force them to play with him or do things for him (the occasional thing is ok) although would encourage a sibling relationship & ensure we all spend time together. So I don’t know whether to have another so he can have the relationship our elder 2 have or leave it as it is. We’re older now at 34&35 too so if we had another I would get preg next yr when I’m 35. Never really wanted to still be having children at this stage but it took us a long time to go for number 3 & I do wish we had sooner. But indecision & big life events (getting married/return to uni) delayed it. I guess I’d just like to know peoples experience with big age gaps &/or 3-4 children. It feels like it would be 2 sets of children really. Part of me feels why put ourselves through it again, sleepless nights, toddler tantrums, juggling toddler & baby etc but another feels a tiny bit sad to be done but maybe I’d always feel that & the sibling got our youngest. I mean our baby is only 3 months old! On the other hand it would be nice to move on & be done but I feel I could maybe do 1 more soon and then be done too. Sorry it turned out so long!