I need to find a way to correct my DD, She's gone into this mode where everything she does is 'my' fault.... Unfortunately, my grandmother has been re-enforcing this behavior... she says she's not but she is -_- Maybe she's subconsciously thinking she's not doing it... I don't know... Anyway, she stole Pop cans again this morning, I was awake at 7:30am (and NORMALLY, Aeris and Alex are still asleep lol but they were up -_- ) When I caught her with the pop and seen she'd already drank it, I told her she was in time out, she then said to me "You should have woken up earlier, if you had, I wouldn't have stole it!" I am now the source of blame for every action, even when she acted up in school, she said "If you would have been watching me, I wouldn't have done it!" and she says that about her acting up IN school. I've tried to have a sit down about her behavior and attitude, but then my grandmother comes around and tells me all the things I 'should' do to correct it, IN FRONT OF HER. I say all the time, "She's listening to you and she's hearing what you're saying" and she says "No she's not" and then when I say something she says "She can hear you" It's like, omg Please stop! I don't want to go into a screaming match with my grandmother but half the time, that's exactly what happens because she thinks she's the almighty parent and it drives me nuts, and now it's having a huge effect on Aeris and her behavior! I can't have her act this way and if my grandmother would pay attention to Alex and Aeris's behavior separately, I think she'd see what she's doing wrong, but she doesn't! The reason I say separately is because she spends an immense amount of time with Aeris and has since she was little, like 2 years old. She has her over for the night every Saturday so she can take her to church Sunday and she picks her up to take her to a Missionette meeting at the church every Wednesday night. I am a firm Christian believer, however, I have a little bit of a side view of it... where I am a busy busy parent and although I believe, I don't feel right going into a church and pretending that I'm happy to be there, because I'm not and it just doesn't sit right in my heart. My daughter's God parents were in agreements with me that we would work something out but then they ran into their own issues and ended up splitting up... and although I tried to teach my daughter here at home, that wasn't good enough for my grandmother, so I agreed she could take her to church... but on the other hand, she NEVER spends much time with my son, so he is strictly learning his behaviors from me and DH which although he has his moments, he listens and does what he's told very well. However, my grandmother, she seems to criticize Alex for half the things Aeris does! She tells me that Alex is the aggressive one, ''because Aeris says so", that he doesn't share, (Yes he does, you just have to ask him too, I've told Aeris this so many times, but she thinks it's acceptable to just go over and rip things out of his hand and tell him he can't have them). Even my sister has tried to tell my grandmother about how Aeris's behavior is and my grandmother always comes back with "That's not how she acts at my house." You know what, of course not! Because she's put herself as the dominant parent, over me and Mike! I feel like at some point I might have to show Aeris that her GG doesn't dictate what goes on in this house and throw her out in front of her if she starts her "Aeris does nothing wrong" speech. I'm at my edge and frankly, I don't know what to do anymore, even my Dad, HER son, used to tell her to stop doing her criticism, before he passed away, about what 'I' should do, that if I 'Just did what she says, Aeris would change and be better' in front of Aeris but she never would even listen to her own son gah!