cabaretmum2b
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Hi everyone
I hope you don't mind me posting here - technically, I'm not a parent (yet!), but I am very close to my 8 year old brother and involved with his schooling etc, and I was hoping to get some advice regarding this!
My brother (Lochie) has anxiety issues, which he has received counselling for several times. It can make him extremely anxious about going to school, to the point where he will end up staying awake all night or sat on the toilet all morning out of pure nerves! As a result of this, his attendance hasn't been so great, and we were recently issued a fine to pay as a result of his poor attendance. This has made him worry more about school, as he already worries about money etc enough as it is!
We have had several talks with the school, and they are fully aware of his situation. His teacher has already said to us that if we get him in to school then that's good enough, even if he's late.
Consequently, his attendance has been improving, but he has been late a lot more, as it can sometimes take hours to coax him into going to school. Yesterday, we received a phone call from the school saying that every time he's been late, he's been marked absent for the whole morning, and that we will probably have to pay another fine. I think this is ridiculous, as many mornings he's just missed his morning assembly or has only been a little late. I also feel that this is really unsafe, considering that if there was a fire alarm and he was marked as absent, nobody would come looking for him if he was left in the building!
Am I being silly for feeling so angry about this? I just feel that, considering the school know how difficult it is to get Lochie into school, they're not making it any easier for him, and this is just making him more anxious.
Has anyone been through anything like this, and how did you manage to solve the issue?
Thanks
Meg
I hope you don't mind me posting here - technically, I'm not a parent (yet!), but I am very close to my 8 year old brother and involved with his schooling etc, and I was hoping to get some advice regarding this!
My brother (Lochie) has anxiety issues, which he has received counselling for several times. It can make him extremely anxious about going to school, to the point where he will end up staying awake all night or sat on the toilet all morning out of pure nerves! As a result of this, his attendance hasn't been so great, and we were recently issued a fine to pay as a result of his poor attendance. This has made him worry more about school, as he already worries about money etc enough as it is!
We have had several talks with the school, and they are fully aware of his situation. His teacher has already said to us that if we get him in to school then that's good enough, even if he's late.
Consequently, his attendance has been improving, but he has been late a lot more, as it can sometimes take hours to coax him into going to school. Yesterday, we received a phone call from the school saying that every time he's been late, he's been marked absent for the whole morning, and that we will probably have to pay another fine. I think this is ridiculous, as many mornings he's just missed his morning assembly or has only been a little late. I also feel that this is really unsafe, considering that if there was a fire alarm and he was marked as absent, nobody would come looking for him if he was left in the building!
Am I being silly for feeling so angry about this? I just feel that, considering the school know how difficult it is to get Lochie into school, they're not making it any easier for him, and this is just making him more anxious.
Has anyone been through anything like this, and how did you manage to solve the issue?
Thanks
Meg