A bit of encouragement for you lovelies

[Feisty Fidget]

I WILL BE BETTER by Unknown
There are women that become mothers without effort, without thought, without patience or loss and though they are good mothers and love their children, I know that I will be better. I will be better not because of genetics, or money or that I have read more books but because I have struggled and toiled for this child.
I have longed and waited. I have cried and prayed. I have endured and planned over and over again. Like most things in life, the people who truly have appreciation are those who have struggled to attain their dreams. I will notice everything about my child. I will take time to watch my child sleep, explore and discover. I will marvel at this miracle every day for the rest of my life. I will be happy when I wake in the middle of the night to the sound of my child, knowing that I can comfort, hold and feed him and that I am not waking to take another temperature, pop another pill, take another shot or cry tears of a broken dream.
My dream will be crying for me.
I count myself lucky in this sense; that God has given me this insight, this special vision with which I will look upon my child that my friends will not see. Whether I parent a child I actually give birth to or a child that God leads me to, I will not be careless with my love. I will be a better mother for all that I have endured.
I am a better wife, a better aunt, a better daughter, neighbor, friend and sister because I have known pain. I know disillusionment as my own body has betrayed me. I have been tried by fire and hell many never face, yet given time, I stood tall. I have prevailed. I have succeeded. I have won.
So now, when others hurt around me, I do not run from their pain in order to save myself discomfort. I see it, mourn it, and join them in theirs. I listen. And even though I cannot make it better, I can make it less lonely. I have learned the immense power of another hand holding tight to mine, of other eyes that moisten as they learn to accept the harsh truth and when life is beyond hard.
I have learned a compassion that only comes with walking in those shoes.
I have learned to appreciate life.
And yes I will be a wonderful mother.

I stole this from pinkydinky over in ttc - I thought it would be very apt for us ladies in here as we can truly appreciate the sentiment.

to you all! xx

 

[icantdecide]

aww that was lovely, made me cry.

Thought i was past crying at the drop of a hat!

Very nice of you to post it here!

x

 

[Feisty Fidget]

I cried when I read it to! I am still not past crying at the drop of a hat, did it yesterday watching TV and today just thinking about our sprout! XX

 

[ninamama]

That is beautiful & so true!! Thanks for posting it.

 

[grandbleu]

Lovely post Feisty - I agree will all be wonderful mothers when we get the chance.

 

[Feisty Fidget]

I suggest all you lovelies focus on being 100% certain you will have a baby in your arms before the end of 2011! That is my lovely thought for the day and certainly helping to perk up the old PMA!!!

xx

 

[zelda]

thanks for posting

 

[Chilli]

So true - I have changed completely as a result of the pain I've suffered and I know that I am a better, more compassionate person now and I treasure the child I have already much more than I did before. I guess there's always a positive even in the darkest of experiences

 

[Feisty Fidget]

Aww chilli, it is so lovely that something positive has come out of this horrible time. I do find I am more positive, I think it is an active change that I am pursuing to try and keep the stress levels lower, it seems to be working at the moment

 

[Blondie007]

That is lovely and I can totally agree with that. Thanks for posting it x

 

[Rowan75]

thank you x