A little something for 2nd time mummies ....

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Hi girls....a friend of mine posted this on another site i belong too, thought i'd share....

Loving Two


I walk along holding your 3-year-old hand, basking in the glow of our magical relationship. Suddenly I feel a kick from within, as if to remind me that our time alone is limited.
And I wonder: how could I ever love another child as I love you?

Then she is born, and I watch you. I watch the pain you feel at having to share me as you've never shared me before.


I hear you telling me in your own way, Please love only me. And I hear myself telling you in mine, I cant, knowing, in fact, that I never can again.


You cry. I cry with you. I almost see our new baby as an intruder on the precious relationship we once shared. A relationship we can never quite have again.


But then, barely noticing, I find myself attached to that new being, and feeling almost guilty. I'm afraid to let you see me enjoying her as though I am betraying you.


But then I notice your resentment change, first to curiosity, then to protectiveness, finally to genuine affection.


More days pass, and we are settling into a new routine. The memory of days with just the two of us is fading fast.


But something else is replacing those wonderful times we shared, just we two. There are new times only now, we are three. I watch the love between you grow, the way you look at each other, touch each other.


I watch how she adores you as I have for so long. I see how excited you are by each of her new accomplishments. And I begin to realize that I haven't taken something from you, Ive given something to you. I notice that I am no longer afraid to share my love openly with both of you. I find that my love for each of you is as different as you are, but equally strong. And my question is finally answered, to my amazement. Yes, I can love another child as much as I love you only differently.


And although I realize that you may have to share my time, I now know youll never share my love. There is enough of that for both of you .you each have your own supply.


I love you-both. And I thank you both for blessing my life.
 
Thanks so much for posting this!! Truly beautiful, it has me crying now! Made me feel better about my post regarding this same thing :)
 
The tears are rolling down my cheeks!!Hormone hilda here!!
That is exactly how I felt when I was pregnant with my 2nd.Its absolutely spot on how I felt afterwards too,my 2 are the best buddies ever,looking forward to their new bro or sis nxt april.x
 
Thanks for this post I've been feeling guilty about being pregnant with number 2 and whether it means I'm gonna,love my son less x
 
oh my goodness, this just brought a tear to my eye....it made me realise how odd and different it will be to have more than one.....I only got my :bfp: today and hadn't really thought about it! All I know is that I HATED being an only child...........and thats what I will tell him was my reason when he is old enough to understand x
 
Omg I'm crying!! Thanks for posting!! X
 
Bloody hormones, I'm blubbing too and I'm not usually sentimental! :cry: But I do feel sad about how it will be. Whilst I know it will be amazing, just like it was with Byron, I'll be sad not to be able to give each if them the attention that Byron has had. :cry:
 
Aww that was lovely, thats all i have been thinking about snce getting my bfp, wondering how K will feel and how i am going to make the most of me and her time :) x
 
Haha, we were just talking with hubby last night - this pregnancy is a highly unexpected blessing. He said he was afraid that he won't be capable to love the new baby as he loves our daughter (he adores her) and that he's disappointed how little time we get to enjoy _just_ her.

I'm on the other hand pretty excited about the prospect of giving her a sibling, so close in age. They have every chance to be close to each other.
 
That was lovely and so true, I love watching my daughter and how she protects her little brother.
 
Thanks for that, it is something I have been worrying about but that makes me so much more optimistic :D xx
 
bought tears to my eyes. exactly what i am thinking. x
 
lol that was both touching and horrible at the same time. Damn hormones as now I am alternating between crying and feeling terribly guilty about the impending #2
 

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