A unique situation?

[moomoo]

When I found out I was pregnant in fact the exact same day I found out, my friend confided in me that she was pregnant!! We are pretty much exactly the same... She's nearly 9 weeks and I'm just over 9 weeks!!

She told me that she completely trusted me and hoped I could do the same with her if I was in the same situation!!

Truth is, I haven't told her. We've not told anyone apart from my mum (and you ladies) I suffered a mmc before my little boy, and I don't feel comfortable telling anyone.. We won't tell anyone untill at least 16 weeks (we will have an anomaly scan then) she fell pregnant her first month trying, We took a little longer, she's never suffered any losses, her lo slept through the night since he was born ect ect and if I'm honest I don't share anything in common with her and don't really want to share my news with her.

Also we are in the situation that if anything was to go wrong with either of us, the other one is going to be completely heartbroken...

Does anyone understand where I'm coming from? Anyone else been in a similar situ?

I'm just worried she's going to hate me for not telling her!!

 

[PeanutBean]

If when you do tell her you explain your reasons she'll have no reason to feel badly s out it and if she does it's her problem. Loads of people choose to not tell others, you're under no obligation and a friend will understand.

 

[lindblum]

Firstly congratulations on your pg!

I've not been in your situation, but i think if you don't want to tell her just yet, then don't.
I don't think she'll hate you for not telling her(maybe a tiny bit upset that you didnt want to share your fantastic news), if she is a friend i'm sure she'll understand your reasons and where you are coming from. And it's not like you wronged her by not telling.

good luck, hope you have a healthy remaining 7 months xx

 

[AP]

Moomoo i totally understand hunny. If shes a real friend, she will too.

 

[NewMom2be5]

Hi

Well since your friend did not know about the mmc, I am sure if you reach the level where you can tell her about what happened, she will understand, or either way.....You are fully justified for maybe not immediately telling everyone your good news....I doubt she will hate you for not telling her immediately..Do you feel like you might be able to tell her about it down the road? She sounds like a true friend to you and eitherway I am sure she will be just as happy about your news and, not hate you, either way you choose.

I know she mentioned instilling trust in you, and hopes you will do the same with her, but you having gone through a hard time with the mmc is a good enough reason, to not readily discuss it to everyone. Don't worry, sweetie she will understand in time when yo u are ready to talk about it....

 

[moomoo]

Thanks for replying ladies. I'm sure she will understand although she's never had any losses so it doesn't phase her telling the world when she's so early! Unfortunately I lost that innocence a long time ago.

Hope she does understand!!