Aagh! Aagh! Aghh! (sorry, that's better, I just had to get that out).
I knew that when my daughter reached her adolescence that she would:-
1) Avoid being seen with me
2) Think all my opinions laughable
3) Find me a walking embarrassment
4) Say she had the worst parents in the world.
That's all happened; fine, I expected it.
But - there is an awful atmosphere these days between my daughter and her father of late. She is sullen, he becomes authoritarian, they can't get on at all.
She's working hard at school and isn't drinking, or taking drugs, or whatever, but they can't get on. Probably they are too alike, very strong minded and opinionated. I have to say that patience has never been his strong point.
A lot of psychologists say, of course, that you should let other family members sort out their relationship difficulties or you get into a triangle that increases the conflict between the warring two - you end up being seen as siding with one of them.
I tried getting to get them to talk and things are never resolved, so I'm doing the non-intervention at the moment, but it's hard!
Anyone else experiencing this?
Sorry for rant
Lucinda XXX
I knew that when my daughter reached her adolescence that she would:-
1) Avoid being seen with me
2) Think all my opinions laughable
3) Find me a walking embarrassment
4) Say she had the worst parents in the world.
That's all happened; fine, I expected it.
But - there is an awful atmosphere these days between my daughter and her father of late. She is sullen, he becomes authoritarian, they can't get on at all.
She's working hard at school and isn't drinking, or taking drugs, or whatever, but they can't get on. Probably they are too alike, very strong minded and opinionated. I have to say that patience has never been his strong point.
A lot of psychologists say, of course, that you should let other family members sort out their relationship difficulties or you get into a triangle that increases the conflict between the warring two - you end up being seen as siding with one of them.
I tried getting to get them to talk and things are never resolved, so I'm doing the non-intervention at the moment, but it's hard!
Anyone else experiencing this?
Sorry for rant
Lucinda XXX