Abit hard for me to post :S

[MummyNash]

Well...

I was just wondering if anyone elses OH is like this?
My OH hates sex, unless he is drunk, he just says it bores him and it isnt just with me he was like it with his ex's aswell, its just something he doesnt enjoy, i just find this abit odd, the whole of my sexual life i find that guys simply cant get enough?! but not this one, not that im complaining but i do miss the itimacy of it... other than that our relationship is amazing we always kiss and cuddle and he is so happy for LO's arrival but i was just wondering if anyone else's OH is like this or is it just mine who is odd haa.

 

[jessicatunnel]

Hmm.. that is a bit odd. If it was up to my DH we'd be DTD twenty four hours a day seven days a week. Haha. Does he feel it? I'm not really sure how to word what I'm thinking... Maybe he isn't able to fully feel the sensation of it?

 

[annanouska]

it is a bit odd to say it bores him? ive only ever found it boring if i wasnt enjoying it or it was too long! maybe he hasnt yet found a position or something tat he does find very fun? (thats not meant ot sound bad to your or anything). Maybe he is insecure about it and doesnt feel it pleases you?

I have a higher sex drive than my hubby and we have talked about it and he does enjoy it and we do have fun but a lot of the time he is so tired as he works so much and a very physical job so we do have more when of on holiday or works not as bad

 

[babydustfairy]

Well my partner isn't mad for it but he certainly enjoys it. Perhaps his testosterone levels are a bit off? Not sure to be honest or maybe it's more of an emotional problem he has with sex? Or maybe this is just him. As long as it doesn't bother u. I think I would feel a bit insecure as I hate it if oh doesn't want to have sex when I do lol!!! XxX

 

[NuKe]

i dont think its odd. perhaps his penis just isnt very sensitive? my DH's isn't hence why he doesn't enjoy BJ's. i dont really know what to advise hun

 

[MummyNash]

oh honestly i think we have tried every position under the sun tbh haaa, when he is drunk he cant get enough, i just think its really weird, and it scares me because not that i have ever thought about it but what if in years time i cheat on him because i just "need" it or something?! I dont think i ever would because i just love him way too much lol but was just thinking... i also thought about what you said jessicatunnel and then thought what if its like a medical thing and he hasnt got a nerve in his winky or something lol.. so it could just be my man then =(

 

[MyButterflies]

oh honestly i think we have tried every position under the sun tbh haaa, when he is drunk he cant get enough, i just think its really weird, and it scares me because not that i have ever thought about it but what if in years time i cheat on him because i just "need" it or something?! I dont think i ever would because i just love him way too much lol but was just thinking... i also thought about what you said jessicatunnel and then thought what if its like a medical thing and he hasnt got a nerve in his winky or something lol.. so it could just be my man then =(

maybe he just has a low sex drive... that might explain why he's ok when he's been drinking. research low libido in men then talk to him. see if he'll be willing to talk to a doc about it. good luck hun

 

[MummyNash]

i dont think he will talk to a doc, just spoke to him bout it and now i feel bad had a right cry and everything lol. Im away atm im visiting my mum in england and we live in scotland, was on the phone to him and he just seemed to get off the phone dead quick i just feel bad now =( think im being an idiot tbh lol

 

[cliqmo]

Could it just be that he is so worried about putting in a "good performance" that the pressure takes the fun out for him?

If previous partners have been demanding or critical it might have given him some emotional baggage about the whole deed? ...it would certainly explain why he likes it more when he's drunk, as his personal concerns and inhibitions would be reduced

 

[MummyNash]

hmm that would make sense but im not sure we havent ever spoke about that tbh, if you knew him you wouldnt think it he is the most layed back guy ever, nothing ever seems to bother him so i would be rather surprised if that was it but it could be lol.

 

[albs]

my dh has never said that it bores him, but most of the time he says he just doesn't feel like it. before i was pregnant it often caused tension as like you said, i've only ever met guys who want it all the time, and even when we first got together we were at it like rabbits, but then he just seemed to go off it. now it's changed a bit though, as between morning sickness, reflux, tiredness and headaches i never feel like it at the mo! so for the first time in a long time his sex drive is higher than mine, and he has the cheek to say pregnancy kills your sex life!
men are v confusing. that's the only conclusion i can come to.

 

[Gitlost80]

I think some guys are just born without much Libido, but maybe he isnt that sensitive,or maybe he has some unknown intimacy issues that go out the window when he drinks alcohol. I know I dont worry about my shyness level when Im drunk. I lose all inhibition and are way more sexually open and wild. Have you both tried sex toys? That may bring something new and exciting to your sex life? At least that way you will get what you need if hes unavailable at the moment. It may sound too personal,but maybe you can get him to try some prostate play,lol? Some men really enjoy it and makes them pretty sensitive. maybe just tell him how gorgeous he is and how much you desire him to boost his confidence to see if thats an issue.Then again if his sexual activity level doesnt bother you,then I wouldnt even worry about it. Doctors can do stuff to help people in these situations,but I would be worried that If you brought it up to him he might feel like he doesnt please you enough. My OT is shy about sex talk,so i talk less and try a more "hands on" approach.

 

[notmommyyet]

How did you get pregnant? lol J/K. Dont really know what to advise but I do agree with what one of the other posters said maybe low testosterone? you could just talk to him and say you would like sex more often and would like to talk to a doctor about it. if there was a way to make him enjoy it then he should be happy cause then hed know you were happy.

 

[babymama86]

This could be a similar problem to me hun, when im drunk i cant get enough but otherwise it doesnt do anything for me. Its only really in the last year that we have realised its an inhibition thing (hence why alcohol helps lol) and that i couldnt fully "let go" and enjoy it because i got in my own way, my husband is great in bed and i am now able to start properly enjoying sex because ive learned to let go and let things flow!
Hope this helped a bit hun!

 

[MummyNash]

haa well the whole time we were trying for a baby was a funny time lol i wont go into details but am happy to say it worked lol!!!

i just want to say thanks to all of you i was abit worried about posting this but yous have actually made me feel abit better about it!!! Thanks ladies, i can always talk to yous if i need to ^_^