Absolutely Petrified

[impatientmumm]

Hello Ladies

I'm sorry to post on here about something that is not so positive, but I have a horrible feeling I am going through a second missed miscarriage in a row!
I called my midwife last night as for the past few days I have been getting a heavy feeling in my lower abdomen and mild lower back ache, I only really suffer with back ache when me af is due, however I suppose this could be pregnancy related also.
My symptons have been a little more intense this time round and the nausea I have been getting has been slowly dying off and even my tiredness levels are easing.

I have an emergency scan booked for tomorrow at 11.20am so I am asking for all your positive thoughts and prayers and also any reassurance there is out there.

Thank You Ladies xxxxx

 

[Hayley_Shaw]

Hello, you sound the same as me. I had a mmc on Halloween 2011 at my 12 week scan but baby turned out to be only 8 weeks which the doctors only found out when they had to assist me in a&e, as the pain was unbareable, just like labour pains. I know just how you feel. I am on edge but praying that everyday closer to my scan without any brown spotting I am a day closer to seeing a healthy baby on the scan.

I know it's hard to stay positive, especially after such a terrible experience that no-one should every have to experience, but trust me the stress is no good on either you or your baby. Just enjoy this time because it goes all too quick.

I should of been due on the 22nd May, the same due date as a friend of my husbands so what has been lost is definatly going to be on my mind but my 12 week scan is on the 8th May so praying this is a good sign. Life can't be so cruel again.

 

[impatientmumm]

It is so nerve wracking and also quite a shame really as me and oh havent allowed ourselves to bond with this little one yet or even accept that we are having a baby after the pain of last time.
I know I should try to stay positive, but sometimes you just know your body and when something is wrong, the pains I have been getting feel more than just stretching pains.
Saying this I would give anything to be wrong and to see a healthy baby tomorrow.

I didnt have any bleeding with my last miscarriage and nothing withthis one so far.

Good luck for your scan, my first scan was supposed to be on the 7th May and hopefully I will still be going to that to see little bean has grown but at the moment just waiting to get through tomorrow xxx

 

[Hayley_Shaw]

I know what you mean, I can't be positive either about this pregnancy but don't think it helps after last time. What does the pain feel like? I keep getting af type cramps and the midwife and doctors keep saying it's normal. They make you feel as if your paranoid, which cant be help with your past. It's hard to get people to stop and listen to you.

I've not been offered an earlier scan no matter how many times I've asked or voiced my concerns so I guess for me it's just a matter of waiting it out for the next 2 weeks.

I just had brown spotting along with the cramps, so just praying that stays away otherwise I'll drive myself totally insane.

 

[impatientmumm]

Well the only way to describe the pain is like a heavy feeling in my abdomen life af is about to come on any minute, along with lower back ache that just will not go away.
The midwife initially thought it could be a water infection, but as I have no pain whilst going to the loo she ruled that out. Also the fact my symptons are disappearing she didn't think was a good sign at all.
I hope I am paranoid and everything is ok.

I'm sure you are going to be absolutely fine, I will keep thinking positive thoughts for you xxxx

 

[Justkeeptryin]

Hi Impatientmum, Im sorry yoru going through this stress. Its terrible what pregnancy after a loss is like. Im an anxious wreck too, I have a second scan on Thursday when I'll be 8 weeks and keep thinking I'll be doomed.
Best of luck for your scan tomorrow, I hope your proved wrong.
I had my 6 week scan a couple of weeks ago and cried several times beforehand thinking it was going to be bad news again but we seen the heartbeat so you just never know xx

 

[impatientmumm]

Just wanted to say a huge thank you for the support ladies - went for the scan today and it turned out very well - nice strong heartbeat, wriggling around and measuring almost spot on just 2 days out, I had myself as 9w but little bean measured 8w+5 so not far out at all.

So pleased but looking forward to my next scan in a couple of weeks!

xxxxx

 

[livinginhope]

So glad to hear that! Wonderful news! And it's nice to hear a positive story, gives a bit of hope to those of us freaking out about similar things!

XXX

 

[Justkeeptryin]

Yeah thats brilliant news about your scan. Its absolutely awful this freaking out. I go for my 8 week scan in a couple of hours and am a nervous wreck, couldnt sleep last night. I seen the heartbeat two weeks ago at my 6 week scan so I hope its still the case x

 

[impatientmumm]

I will keep thinking positive thoughts for both of you - I think a previous loss is a double edged sword it makes you petrified in any future pregnancy but on the flip side when I did see the heartbest and the movements of my little bean it made me appreciate the joys of pregnancy so much!
I am looking forward to the next scan in a couple of weeks, if we still see a heartbeat then I think I will allow myself to relax and enjoy the pregnancy xxxxxx

 

[impatientmumm]

Good luck justkeeptryin and make sure you let us know straight away!!!
xxxx

 

[Hayley_Shaw]

Hi sorry I've not been on soon, had a strange couple of days since. Started with a spot of bleeding on the tuesday night, not a lot but still was in tears as I was sure the worst was going to happen again. Had an emergency scan yesterday morning and everything was fine, heartbeat could be seen and got another little picture. I even measured 3 days ahead so nearer to 12 weeks than I thought

I am so glad your scan went well as well. The pain you was talking about was spot on to mine, was told it's all a good sign

 

[Justkeeptryin]

Hi ladies, well my 8 week scan went great, the baby is measuring bang on and has a great heartbeat. I m sooo relieved, I was a nervous wreck before going in. It is the most nerve wracking thing in the world, dont think any of us will fully relax until our babies are in our arms! So glad that everyones scans have went well x

 

[horseypants]

gahhhh! ladies, im going in for my next scan on may 15th and i am impatient and worried too often. reading your posts made me feel soo much better hugs, thanks and wishing you the best!!!

 

[Justkeeptryin]

Good luck for your scan. More often than not its always good news despite being worried x

 

[impatientmumm]

Brilliant news ladies - I'm so glad both scans went well!!

Try not to worry too much horseypants I'll keep everything crossed for you, I don't want to jinx anything but so far this seems to be a bit of a lucky thread so hopefully your scan will be perfect!

xxxxx

 

[Cheska]

Congrats on your babes strong heartbeat ladies.

Can I just ask you at 8 weeks do they just do a normal ultrasound or internal? X

 

[amjon]

Hope everything goes good for you! I'm also nervous but haven't had any signs yet. My first hcg was only 41.6 though at 4+1 which seems to be very low.

 

[impatientmumm]

I had a normal ultrasound, baby was quite high up though I was shocked!

I'm sorry amjon I know nothing about hcg levels, its a lot easier said than done but try to stay positive (I never take my own advice lol) I'll keep thinking positive thoughts for you.

xxx

 

[amjon]

Just got a call from the doctor and the second hcg was over 100 so looking good