Adult party games at LO's 1st B'day party?! Am i being bratty?

[sandilion]

So it's my LO's 1st B'day party this Saturday and I am just organising something small with just the grandparents and a couple friends who also have babies.

My mother called me up today and told me to organise some games us adults can play. Not 'adult' as in rude games! but yeah, games to keep us all occupied.... so they don't all just talk about 'baby stuff' she said.

Now, i feel incredibly annoyed with her for suggesting this. The party is only going for 2 hours so surely they can all be 'adults' and sit and enjoy LO and have some food and make it about him on his birthday..... yeah? Or am i the selfish one here?

On top of it my mum also asked me to not have the party at our house, but to have it at a certain park 30 mins away from where we live so she can include his birthday party in with her Saturday afternoon bike ride.

I feel like just calling the whole thing off and taking LO to the zoo or something. But if i did that the inlaws would be devastated i think. And also i know he'd love to see his grandparents all at the same time again like he did on Xmas, so ill persevere.

My mum just seems to be trying to make this all about her and i don't understand why she can't spare 2 hours on LO's birthday and let it be about him .... everything always has to be about her. Story of my life really.

Am i being bratty by getting annoyed with this?

Oh and i have already told her no and no. That i want his b'day at home and that it's his birthday so if he can't play any of the games yet (she suggested 'darts' and table tennis. All while LO will be crawling around, or gliding around in his walker.. yea no thanks. Doesn't sound too safe to me)

Am i being a bit emotional with this or would this peeve you off too?

 

[Dragonfly]

Tell her, you should be able to sit and enjoy each other and baby for a party. I never had things organised apart from tea, food and cake and the rest you just did. Not games. Maybe older kids find games and stuff. Not sure why you have to have adult games.

 

[sandilion]

yeah i agree- if there were gonna be some older kids there, then definitely there will be games organised and played. But my mum is expecting me to have some games for us adults to play so we're having 'fun' instead of sitting and talking.... I just find it so strange and really rude of her. Its really bugging me. Probably the fact she sabotaged my wedding day and made it all about her and those ill feelings are starting to flood back. I just wish she'd come along and butt out of how it's run ya know.

If she ruins LO's birthday - then ill be finished with her for good i think. Its one thing to fuck me over, but I have zero tolerance when it comes to my LO.

 

[Dragonfly]

if there are older kids there then why are they going to have to sit through adult games at a kids party. I would cater for the kids at a kids party, have something for them, Adults can join if they wish. In my day poeple used to drop the kids off and collect them after parties, the older ones not attend. Do poeple still do that with older ones? I know in my house the parties I had to have 2 as so many adults came. So my livingroom was cramed.

 

[sandilion]

I have no idea love! But i think that's how it was when i was a kid and i went to friends birthday parties.

 

[mamaduke]

Stick to your "no"s! It's only a couple hours, and after all, why wouldn't your LO's party be all about LO? The only brat I see in this case is your mom. Why does everything have to be about her? If you cater to her demands now, I bet she'd continue making it about her in the future. Stand your ground! Keep up the "no"s!

 

[AC1987]

It bugs me how some people can't entertain themselves just by enjoying other peoples company and talking. There doesn't always hafta be games.
Anyways I wish you luck

 

[sandilion]

Yeah agreed. But now i feel like people are going to be bored... this is so not nice to have to be thinking like this when it's meant to be about LO.

 

[popat]

I think your mum is being really bratty, not you. I think it's normal for a few adults to be able to pass a couple of hours together without needing games. I find it really odd that she wants you to organise games. Tell her she can watch tv or read if SHE gets bored because you think the other adults will be fine.

 

[erikab922]

Good for you for saying no and no - I would find those really weird requests, especially the adult party games thing. Can they really not self-entertain for two hours? Isn't that kind of the hallmark of being an adult, that you don't need someone else to constantly entertain you? Maybe your mom needs to go to daycare.

You have the party YOU want - end of.

If she insists on the darts make sure Devin isn't wearing this (or possibly get one for your mom):

https://rlv.zcache.co.uk/3d_darts_bullseye_onesey_tshirts-r6ae677340bf2491aae1c2c0b91f27027_f0c6y_216.jpg?max_dim=328

 

[Hunbun]

Games could be quite fun, but not darts or table tennis. If there was older kids going as well then it might be fun to have a game that adults and kids can play. I know my LO thinks its hilarious when everyones laughing and therefore the games would be really fun for him to watch.

As for rearranging the party to a park, so she can include it in her other plans... Eh no!

Stick to your choices and have a fanstastic day for you and more importantly your LO.

 

[.Mrs.B.]

Sorry but my mum and mil would be fighting (not literally) over entertaining LO. They wouldn't even think about themselves on his birthday. I think your mum should grow up and be a good nanny for a day.
xXxXx

 

[LisaL79]

That would piss me off to no end. How selfish is she to even suggest that you move the party just to on convenience her.

You have every right to be annoyed. Have the party YOU want to throw for your LO.

 

[sandilion]

Good for you for saying no and no - I would find those really weird requests, especially the adult party games thing. Can they really not self-entertain for two hours? Isn't that kind of the hallmark of being an adult, that you don't need someone else to constantly entertain you? Maybe your mom needs to go to daycare.

You have the party YOU want - end of.

If she insists on the darts make sure Devin isn't wearing this (or possibly get one for your mom):

https://rlv.zcache.co.uk/3d_darts_bullseye_onesey_tshirts-r6ae677340bf2491aae1c2c0b91f27027_f0c6y_216.jpg?max_dim=328

Hahahaha this whole post made me seriously LOL!

 

[special_kala]

Just ignore her.

I've thrown a party for my girls every year and have never done adult party games. It would be chaos doing that swells as entertains the kids

 

[Dk1234]

Tell her that you'll stick to the party planning.

 

[robyn1990]

How rude of her.
Its your LO's birthday party, not hers!
When I was younger and even now I've never been to a childrens party, where they has been adult games aswell, seriously what the hell?
There's going to be enough going on for you with clearing up/organising childrens games without having to set up adult games aswell.

And as for changing it to a park, just no.

Hope it works out for you!
Xxx

 

[ShelbyLC]

Do what's best for you and your LO, not your mother! She can have adult games at her own birthday party. Don't worry about the party being "boring" - my niece's first birthday party was simple - just family/friends and food, no games or activities. Everyone just stood around talking and playing with the kids. Everyone had a fab time.

Good luck

 

[Rachel_C]

The idea of a group of adults jumping around playing table tennis at a baby's birthday party really made me laugh!

I would agree to do some games for the adults and then arrange a few special ones just for her. How about a nice game of Butt Head? https://www.stupid.com/butthead-game-set.html Or "Guess the age of the granny"?

 

[CandyDay]

Just do the party how you want to for your LO. THis is about your LO not your mother so do what you want and ignore her. Tell if she isn't happy about how you are doing it then tell her she doesn't have to come.
I don't think you need to organize games for the adults to play....the party is only 2 hours and if the adults want to play a game then they will organize that themselves when they are there. i mean how hard would it be for them to say "do you have a deck of cards?" And then play if they really wanted to. i think that all they will want to do is hang out and talk. Watch your LO open gifts and enjoy the food.
I know I have never organized games for adults to play when having an LO b-day party and neither have any of my family and I have 7 nieces and nephews so I have gone to a few ) And the ones that I went to that my son was invited too there were no games organized for the parents.
Your mom is just being ridiculous. Do what you want.