Advice anyone who has had a clingy baby? at 6 months

[dawnrise]

My 6 month old is fine with other people, but when he crys, and this can be a few times in a day he is fine when I comfort him, but when someone else picks him up he screams as much as poss, even when there is nothing obvious wrong. I am leaving him with the in-laws for around 5 hours this week and obviously I need to leave him at some point, but can't help feeling guilty if he crys and crys and cannot be comforted. I just wandered if anyone else has experienced this and has any comments, I guess I just need reassurance it will be easier as I am going back to work in December. Thanks

 

[dawnrise]

anyone

 

[Cat Louise]

Hi,

My LO is the same, she is such a content little baby most of the time but not when she's tired. She'll go to anyone quite happily, but if she is tired she will scream until she is handed over to me. She's my first baby and breast fed so not sure if this has added to her clingyness?

Things are getting better though, she has only recently started going to her her daddy without crying too, and we did this by sort of letting her cry it out. I couldn't bear it at first, which is why I think she cries for me, because if she's with anyone else and she starts crying I usually take her back straight away to stop her crying. I thought it'd never work but it only took one go of letting her cry with her daddy with me by her side saying sshhhh and after 15 minutes she was fine and has been since. I tried it yesterday with her nana, doing the same thing, she started getting tired and crying while on her nanas knee, she was looking at me for comfort so rather than taking her frome her nana I just kept saying shhhh and again after a few minutes she settled and went to sleep on her. This is a major improvement for us!

I think letting her see that I'm ok with her being comforted by someone else has given her reassurance to let other people hold her while she's upset. Hope this makes sense?

Every baby is different but hope you find something that works for you too. I love me LO, but it was getting me down a bit that I wasn't even able to leave her with her daddy without her screaming for me. I didn't realise how much guilt comes with being a parent (so worth it though)!

Good luck x

 

[Divinebeauty]

Hey hun,

I have a really clingy baby I just got back from a mini vaca and left Ava with grandma, she was so put off by it, everytime I called she was crying and like you I felt like shit over it. She is the same when anyone other than me or DH picks her up she will scream and scream like she is scared...

Ava is 7 months now, but this has been going on since 6 ish months, she is getting better with people but does not want to be picked up at all by anyone other than DH and I..

I haven't really found anything helpful other than when people come over, to just let them talk to her first explain that she is going through a separation anxiety phase and I would prefer if they didn't try to hold her.

Just remember its a phase, as to when it ends... I have NO idea!

 

[dawnrise]

Thank you for your responses, well i left him for 5 hours and to be honest it seemed like he was really well behaved, had a few crys but soon got over them. This has put my mind at ease before i go back to work too and a good chance for grandparents to get some practice so i think i built it up to be much worse than it was., He still wanted me to hold him when i got home but i think its worse when i am there, i think when im gone he is fine, Its because i have never left him for a long time but i think it has done us both good, so thank you all... x