Advice needed - old flame!

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Hey ladies,

Just wanted a bit of advice on something because i'm very confused!

When I was 14, I met a guy, who I was completely head over heels for, there was lots of flirting, texting, few cheeky snogs etc, but nothing serious because he was 17 and wouldn't commit to me with me being so young, so we went our seperate ways.

There has always been something there, always had him in the back of my mind, but we lost touch.

A couple of years ago, when I was with my horrible, abusive ex, he got back in touch via facebook, and we met up for a catch up. He'd split up with his girlfriend and was newly single, but had just met someone else. I hinted at him how bad my relationship was and hinted at the fact that there was still feelings there and that if he asked me to leave my partner, i'd do it in a shot.

The hints didn't work and he became serious with the new girl, and we lost touch again. About 6 months ago he got back in touch with me, and we've been chatting etc, he's still with the girl, and i'm obviously with my wonderful OH.

I've been and met him for catch ups etc, and there's still something about him that's makes me feel weird :/ Anyways, one night we went to the pub, and had a few drinks, and he tried to kiss me. I know it's no excuse, but because I was drunk I kissed him back for all of 2 seconds, then realised what was happening and pulled away. I told my PH what happened, but didn't tell him who with, and he forgave me, but now this other guy is saying he has feelings for me etc and is always asking to meet me. He's a good friend, good company etc, but I don't want to lead him on. He doesn't want to leave his girlfriend or anything to be with me, just wants to meet up. Do I tell him to leave me alone? Do I meet him? Do I just carry on chatting to him as friends but not meet him?

HELP?!?!?!
 
Be careful that he doesn't want the best of both worlds hun, GF at home and you for meet ups, he may be thinking that something will eventually happen if you continue to meet.

I'd say to him that your not interested in leaving OH so therefore won't be meeting him anymore, as you've already had a kiss, theres clearly feelings on both sides, so maybe you should avoid anything else happening.

Would you and OH be comfortable in meeting as a double date? If you want to remain friends and enjoy talking to him then maybe you can include your partners?
 

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