Advice on a friend having difficulties

[proudmummy]

My sister-in-law and best friend has endometriosis and polycystic overies, she had a lap today and it has come back that she has to have both tubes removed in a few weeks due to blockages and so has to go down the IVF route.
I feel so terrible for her, I have a 7 week old son and I know she loves him to bits but it must tear her up especially as our other sister-in-law has a 6 week old baby girl.
She is desperate for twins (she is a twin herself) and hopes the IVF will help her achieve this, shes only 28 and I really wish there was something I could do to make her feel better.

What are the realistic chances of her concieving through IVF? I dont know anything about it and I know she has read most things about it already but I just want to be able to give her some comfort.

Kayleigh

 

[zeezee]

hi there - what her chances are like depends on her ovarian reserves and egg quality, but at 28 there is a great chance that she will be fine

sorry to not be more help, but didn't want to read and run.

Z
xx

 

[Aphrodite]

I agree, it all depends on her egg quality but age is on her side. Does she get 3 goes or one? Im sure she'll be holding those babies soon x

 

[proudmummy]

She gets 3 try's on the NHS, and I believe they are saving just incase they need to fund further treatment themselves, so I have everything crossed for her.

Thank you for your replies x

 

[fluffosaur]

She'll get 3 tries on the NHS for free, possibly more due to her age. IVF can be heart-wrenching so she's brave for considering it in the first place.

I think IVF costs around £6000 per go through a private clinic after that.

In adoption one of the things we see are couples who exhausted their free goes on the NHS & they didn't work then paid for private treatment. They then come to adoption absolutely desperate to be parents & we have to turn them away if they are in a lot of debt due to the failed attempts. It's so sad but eventually they all make it through the process.

SOMEHOW she will become a mum. There are many different ways to become a mum nowadays and not all of them involve personally carrying a baby.

Would you consider being a surrogate for an embryo for her? If your body is able to carry a baby then there is a much higher likelihood of the pregnancy resulting in a live birth. Just a thought, lots of things to consider at the moment.

 

[proudmummy]

I would definatly be a surrogate for her and we did discuss it in the past however there has been a huge break up of the family and my husband has cut ties with her. its a long awful story but I'm trying to be here for her as much as I can.

 

[spacegirl]

I would definatly be a surrogate for her and we did discuss it in the past however there has been a huge break up of the family and my husband has cut ties with her. its a long awful story but I'm trying to be here for her as much as I can.

What a wonderful friend you are to even consider doing this for her. She is very lucky. I hope she is ok and finds a way to be a mother.

CX