FOB left me 2 weeks before xmas,im now 28 weeks pregnant,alots gone on with me and FOB,we won't be getting back together.
in time i've decided to give LO my last name much to the anger of FOB,he's said alot of very horrible things,it seems he just plays dad when he wants and loves playing the hard done by dad lately.
long story short,FOB goes out every weekend and takes drugs every weekend,hes 25 going on 15 and has a 5 year old daughter he hardly sees.
he reckons hes calming down on taking drugs but won't stop,he also sells them,hes not a big time dealer but still-he sells drugs.
recently its come to light that a girl he was "just mates with" i think him and her have something going on after finding some very hurtful messages to each other and he's been staying,i'm fuming,he's been wanting to meet me to "bond with bump" and i gave him the chance cause i felt bad for him and he choose to fuck me off last min to go see her!im also mad he can't afford to help towards LO but can afford to put petrol in his car to drive 40 mins there 40 mins back to see this girl!!!
i believed he wanted to make effort to be a dad and this and that but now i'm realising he just wants be a dad when it suits him but still go out weekends and see this girl
i just think no more chances,not when he'd rather be with this girl or off his head on drugs
i look at his 5 year old and now i just think i dnt want that for my son,i dont want my son to know his dad-get attached- then get fucked about,he doesn't pay for his daughter so i doubt he's guna treat his son any different to his daughter
my heads a mess on one hand i don't want to be seen as "the spiteful bitch" and let him play the hard done by dad but at same time i look at my ex and now ive realised he will never change i don't want my son to get hurt,my son will not be going FOBs house due to drugs and stuff and FOB will never help pay so im considering leaving him off the birth certificate,if LO wants to know who his dad is i think it might be best if he finds out when he's old enough to make judgement and hopefully when my ex is ready to be a dad
any imput?anyone agree?disagree or what would you do
in time i've decided to give LO my last name much to the anger of FOB,he's said alot of very horrible things,it seems he just plays dad when he wants and loves playing the hard done by dad lately.
long story short,FOB goes out every weekend and takes drugs every weekend,hes 25 going on 15 and has a 5 year old daughter he hardly sees.
he reckons hes calming down on taking drugs but won't stop,he also sells them,hes not a big time dealer but still-he sells drugs.
recently its come to light that a girl he was "just mates with" i think him and her have something going on after finding some very hurtful messages to each other and he's been staying,i'm fuming,he's been wanting to meet me to "bond with bump" and i gave him the chance cause i felt bad for him and he choose to fuck me off last min to go see her!im also mad he can't afford to help towards LO but can afford to put petrol in his car to drive 40 mins there 40 mins back to see this girl!!!
i believed he wanted to make effort to be a dad and this and that but now i'm realising he just wants be a dad when it suits him but still go out weekends and see this girl
i just think no more chances,not when he'd rather be with this girl or off his head on drugs
i look at his 5 year old and now i just think i dnt want that for my son,i dont want my son to know his dad-get attached- then get fucked about,he doesn't pay for his daughter so i doubt he's guna treat his son any different to his daughter
my heads a mess on one hand i don't want to be seen as "the spiteful bitch" and let him play the hard done by dad but at same time i look at my ex and now ive realised he will never change i don't want my son to get hurt,my son will not be going FOBs house due to drugs and stuff and FOB will never help pay so im considering leaving him off the birth certificate,if LO wants to know who his dad is i think it might be best if he finds out when he's old enough to make judgement and hopefully when my ex is ready to be a dad
any imput?anyone agree?disagree or what would you do