Advice

[loulou2409]

i will apoligise first if this sounds rude.

i just wanted to say that people should think before they give out advice on here about pains aches movements.people can reassure you but everyone is different and each pregnancy is different so if it is normal for your baby not to move lots does not mean the next person baby is the same. i hate to sound like a cow. sometimes i read messages and think how can you tell someone not to worry . if you are worried go to the hospital ring your doctor. its lovely to hear peoples experiences and to go through the same stages with other people but midwives doctors etc are paid to give the advice and let you know everything s ok. not us

again this is not me being a cow just think sometimes its wrong to give advice.

 

[debbie7155]

maybe we say "dont worry" cos we dont want to stress people out, but i dont recall hearing ANYONE say "Dont" go get proffesional advice on here?
I know alot of people have kept me sane on here & ive learnt alot too through the wonderful ladies on here, if it wasnt for them then i think id be calling my dr up every 5 mins, but of course when ive had spotting etc ive been the first to call the hospital etc, but its so re-assuring other ladies telling their stories to which it does help to calm me down a little & even in the best books it gives other peoples stories too to help you not stress as much if things happen to you, it says yes things can happen but it doesnt mean something bad is going to happen to you, all they want you to do is get checked out by a professional as well.. i love this forum for all its help it keeps giving me x

 

[austinsmom]

i will apoligise first if this sounds rude.

i just wanted to say that people should think before they give out advice on here about pains aches movements.people can reassure you but everyone is different and each pregnancy is different so if it is normal for your baby not to move lots does not mean the next person baby is the same. i hate to sound like a cow. sometimes i read messages and think how can you tell someone not to worry . if you are worried go to the hospital ring your doctor. its lovely to hear peoples experiences and to go through the same stages with other people but midwives doctors etc are paid to give the advice and let you know everything s ok. not us

again this is not me being a cow just think sometimes its wrong to give advice.

Rude? Not at all.

I try to give advice about problems I myself have gone through, but always advise people to get a professional opinion (even for what I would consider minor issues)

Some of the stories I read........ I wonder, 'what on earth are you thinking?!?!?!?!'

So yes hun, I'm sure alot of women on here can relate to what you're saying.

 

[brunette&bubs]

I am hoping that before a person makes a post regarding medical issues that they know none of us are doctors and they should call their midwife/ob if something serious is happening.

My OB/GYN basically told me not to go on the internet at all or listen to any of the advice given on the internet about pregnancy because half of it is baloney.
It was made clear to me that if I experience bleeding, severe pain, or lack of movement I should give her a call. And I've also called plenty of times with "stupid" questions but according to my doc, no question is stupid and she always is able to help me out.

I think most women on here give the "don't worry" or "i'm sure you're fine" approach just to be reassuring. Obviously no one should be giving medical advice unless you are trained to do so.

 

[justthestart]

I think that I like to hear other peoples experiences, if I was extremely worried or in extreme pain of course I would call my doctor or midwife, I would never just take advice alone from the internet. I think most of the people on here would be the same, I think this forum is good for reassurance or just to think that other people have possibly been through the similar aches and pains you have. I personally am a bit of a worrier and sometimes in a way wish i had never seen this forum, but it's fantastic for when you have a question that doesn't involve ringing the midwife every 2 minutes. I think learning from other peoples experiences is the best way to learn, but like I said, I and I am sure every other person if they had a real worry would go to the hospital or midwife, at the end of the day this is just an Internet forum.
Personally I think this website is great to share experiences but I would always take the advice on here with a pinch of salt.

 

[Ju_bubbs]

I've never seen some one say "that happened to me and everything was fine so dont worry, no need to call your midwife"

Yes, a lot of people do say not to worry, simply because its not good for mother or baby to be stressing out over things.. but they are always told by ladies on here to call their midwife if they are concerened as far as I see!?

 

[beccybobeccy]

what I love about this site is that I can share all my weird insecurities about the pregnancy with the lovely ladies (and gents) on here and not worry that my family/friends will think I'm mad. what I love even more is the reassurance I get that other people have the same insecurities as me and that we are all going through similar thought processes/experiences.

I get medical advice from my midwife/gp. I know that if I REALLY felt something was wrong I would go to one of them immediately. I would expect that most other people on the boards would do the same thing and that any friendly reassurance of "try not to worry", was purely based on compassion and not on medical guidance...

 

[Cheryl xx]

I am one of the ladies that has had concerns with bleeding and pain in this pregnancy and the advice i got off the others was wonderfully reasuring. Of course i contacted the midwife and was seen, but it's the support and experiences of others that help you through. I have never been advised by anyone on here to do/not do something instead of seeing a professional, infact the usual advice from the ladies on here is to seek medical help if your worried xx

 

[AP]

I've never seen some one say "that happened to me and everything was fine so dont worry, no need to call your midwife"

Im vice versa, i wanna say "that happened to me and look who popped out" but i dont want to scare anyone

 

[EmzyJA]

i would like to think we'd all be sensible enough to go and seek professional help if we needed to and realise that the opinions and advice given on here is not medical advice, it is other peoples experiences.

i do think it helps to hear that someone else has or is going through the same and what ur feeling is 'normal'. i think the words ''not to worry' are just to reassure people that it may not be anything to worry about and stressing out about it could make things worse. i've never seen on here anyone advising anyone else not to seek proffessional help. but i can see where ur coming from. if i had a problem that i thought could affect my baby i wouldnt hesitate to contact my doctor or midwife and i'd like to think everyone else would do the same x