...could some kindly second-time+ mummies please reassure me that it doesn't have to be the scream-fest that seemed to be?? It seems all my good work of reading, researching, hypnobirthing and calm preparation has been completely undone by 12 minutes of that programme! ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~ Edit: I think I need to modify my OP..... It's not the screaming in itself that bothered me at all. That's just what works for some people. What disturbed me was how much she was spiralling out of control. If her screaming had been her way of coping, if she was actually coping, then that's fine.....no problem there! But she wasn't coping.... My biggest concern is not remaining relaxed. I couldn't give a monkey's how much I scream or swear, whether I'm the picture of serenity or red-faced and grunting. What concerns me is not being able to bear it, not remaining calm and the whole thing going haywire.