AGGGGGHHH!! Age!!

[Honeypot]

I'm tired of people telling me that I'm still young, and all this other blah blah blah. Shut up already.

When you really think about it, 24 is not THAT young. I'm almost 25 (next month). Five years and you're 30. Everyone knows the older you get the less fertility that you have. So why tell me that I'm still young and I got plenty of time? When I calculate how my cycles are doing and what all it might take to fix that...no, 24 is not still young.

 

[MrsPOP]

Yup...know whatcha mean. Makes you want to smack them doesnt it? Im 27 and worried Ive left it too late!

 

[ceciliab01]

I get what you are saying, but I suppose women in their late 30's and early 40's trying to conceive think to themselves "try being in my boat". The reality is that no matter what our age, finding it difficult to conceive is super frustrating and we should all support each other.

 

[angelgirl86]

I know exactly what you mean. People keep telling me I'm too young too but I'm 23, almost 24 in oct. and I've always been told I'm more mature than my age. We are ready to have kids and we're financially stable and on our own so therefore thats all that counts. Some of my family might be disappointed when we get PG but I dont care, its my body and its our lives. Lots of to you!!

 

[Honeypot]

I get what you are saying, but I suppose women in their late 30's and early 40's trying to conceive think to themselves "try being in my boat". The reality is that no matter what our age, finding it difficult to conceive is super frustrating and we should all support each other.

Oh yeah, no doubt. I'm not downing them or nothing like that. I was just saying.

 

[Honeypot]

Yup...know whatcha mean. Makes you want to smack them doesnt it? Im 27 and worried Ive left it too late!

I think we should be able to slap them lol. I've heard of people being rude to other women who have a hard time getting pregnant or can't get pregnant at all and they threw it up in their face. I'm afraid I'm going to be one of those women who come unglued on them and wind up spending the night in jail for punching them.

 

[Born2BeAMommy]

I'm with ya! I'm 24 and have had ppl say the same thing to me...and I look at them and think...um...your kids are kinda young to have a mom as old as you and I don't want ppl to say that to my kids about me!! lol

 

[lisaf]

I was 28 when I started TTC... my first GYN I saw told me I was young and had time enough to have 10 kids... um... yeah... 10 kids? Only if there was nothing wrong with me and I got pregnant first try every time!!! (he was saying this as a reason why he wasn't going to run any tests and wasn't worried or anything)
I know I wasn't over 30, but I felt time breathing down my neck.. especially as this is my first and I wanted more than one!

24 is young as long as everything is working right... when you see women on here who have been TTC for 3 years, you know it could be you in a few etc...

 

[Born2BeAMommy]

I'm 24 and have been TTC 2 years...since I got married...and I don't feel too young at all...despite my PCOS issues...I feel like if you want to have 3 or 4 kids and you wait til your 30...that's too long to wait....no offense to anyone in that situation...but I had a young mom & dad and it was AWESOME! they had the energy the time and the get up and go with my brother and I...I have 2 sister that were born (same parents) 10 and 12 years later...when my mom was in her 30's...and they are now teens and my mom has no patience to deal with them like she did with my brother and me.....it's much better to have kids in your 20's....especially if you're ready and mature like most ladies genuinely TTC on here.

 

[lisaf]

I felt my parents were 'old' parents and swore I'd have kids younger.
Did the math the other day and my mom was only 2 years older when she had me... she had my brother a year before I'll have this LO so much for planning!

 

[MrsPOP]

Yup...know whatcha mean. Makes you want to smack them doesnt it? Im 27 and worried Ive left it too late!

I think we should be able to slap them lol. I've heard of people being rude to other women who have a hard time getting pregnant or can't get pregnant at all and they threw it up in their face. I'm afraid I'm going to be one of those women who come unglued on them and wind up spending the night in jail for punching them.

Lol, please dont end up in jail!!!! When I get the dismissive 'oh you'll be FIIIINE' I try to move the subject on and remain calm when in my head Im piledriving them to the floor! Normally, the people who say I will be fine are my friends who have gotten preggy by just glancing at their OHs...lucky moos! Aw, I sound so bitter. I am happy for them honestly...but would like them to stop patting me on the head and dismissing my fears.

My mum still thinks Im too young to TTC even though Im 27 and have been married for 2 years...but I think she wants me to remain her virginial little princess forever...yeah mum that shipped sailed YEARS ago

 

[lintu]

i know what you mean, i'm 30 and have been at this for nearly 12 mths!!! really starting to worry i have left it too late

but have you noticed how its always the super fertile people who say it? you know the one's who get prego just becuase someone in the room sneezed!!

 

[Puma36]

hi i don't think 24 is too young, i had my eldest when i as 23yrs, 2nd at 26 then 3rd at 34, i found it easier to conceive in my 20's than my 30's x

 

[Sooz]

I'm 24 and remember thinking that was ancient a few years ago.

My DH is 29 though and he is really worried about his age, he doesn't want to be an old dad, so he is the one we're really feeling the pressure of time for.

 

[nicb26]

My hubby keeps saying 'don't worry, it'll happen, we've still got at least 10 fertile years left!'. Drives me mad when we've been trying 11 cycles. I am 26 and he is 32 next month, and I am already getting paranoid we've left it too late as i'm the only woman in my whole family who hasn't had kids in early 20s!!

 

[strawberry19]

people forget that age doesnt define the type of parent you are either you can be 35 and be a complete mess and a 20 year old be a perfect mum.. so really do ignore them end of the day it is none of their business and you are right its always the people who sneezed and got pregnant or got pregnant by accident they also say oh no you dont want kids just yet!!... just ignore them and look forward to having a lil beany

 

[schnoodle]

im so with you hunny x

 

[pinkbubbles]

I'm feelin this thread!! I can't tell my family that me nd OH r TTC coz they will judge coz I'm 21 but I walk down my street and I'll bump in 2 girls that look around 12 pushin a pram paying no attention to their baby and no 1 walking by is judging them so I fink y shuld I worry! I just don't want the stigma! But I defo think its better to ave children early, I'll be 22 at least by the time I give brith....I don't think that's to young?! Xx

 

[NOMORENUMBERS]

i have only told two friends that i am ttcing because people do judge, i am 24 married and already have a son, but i still expect people to say oh god why! i have spoken to my mum saying im broody to kind of drop the hint but she said oh no no no it is so hard having 2 babies a newborn and a 2 year od (she would know she had me and an 18month old) but now we have been ttcing fo 6 months now my ds will be 2.5 and hoping to get him into a play group a little early as his social skills are a bit behind so am thinking well when is the right time? yes i am youngish but if i leave it until he is in school and then the next one is in school that will mean i would potentially run out of time!

i do think though that there is not much people can say to us ttcing ladies that is actually of help, even if one of my non ttcing friends (inc the ones who sneezed and got preggers) came out with are you charting, opks, vits etc i would react as if they are patronizing me and thinking i was some sort of dumb*ss so really is there anything that anyone can say that would help? no prob not, unless i ask for some comfort/advice (such as from bnb ladies) then it is not welcome and when faced with that its no wonder that a lot of people do just go there there it will happen

just a thought xkx

 

[Honeypot]

I'm 24 and have been TTC 2 years...since I got married...and I don't feel too young at all...despite my PCOS issues...I feel like if you want to have 3 or 4 kids and you wait til your 30...that's too long to wait....no offense to anyone in that situation...but I had a young mom & dad and it was AWESOME! they had the energy the time and the get up and go with my brother and I...I have 2 sister that were born (same parents) 10 and 12 years later...when my mom was in her 30's...and they are now teens and my mom has no patience to deal with them like she did with my brother and me.....it's much better to have kids in your 20's....especially if you're ready and mature like most ladies genuinely TTC on here.

Oh gah, yeah. This morning I started cycle day one... After a fifty day cycle. Last cycle went to a fourty day cycle when I had been having 32-34 day cycles. I'm afraid something might be wrong