Miss_Quirky
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So OH came down this weekend to help me move furniture so we can setup the playpen/bassinet/crib thing we have for Devlin and move boxes under the house since I can't carry them, he asked me if a girl friend of his could come and help since I can't really help (the one I do NOT like, but told him I'd try to at least get along with her). I thought about it and said yes.
I asked mum if it was okay, and she asked why I don't like her and I said I don't have a reason, which I don't think is fair so I want to at least give us getting along a chance, and I trust OH would never cheat on me. She laughed in my face and told me he's probably already cheated on me with her anyway because men are "weak minded" -.-
She made me cry because I am insecure as it is and that doesn't help....over the weekend my stepdad told me four times that basically it seems like he doesn't want me and I should be jealous of her because she is a better "fit" for him anyway. Which made me cry pretty much all of Saturday and this morning. Then last night I went to ask if she could go to bed yet or if we should set up blankets in my room for her cause they had people over and she had been sleeping on the sofa. I got interrupted every time I tried to talk, so I shrugged and walked away. Stepdad flipped out and came in the house and called me a manipulative bitch and it's no wonder because I am just jealous of my boyfriend's "real girlfriend"...which isn't true and pissed me off.
I ended up crying all night, OH came in and held me for a little while and I told him what had been said to me and he got really hurt feelings, because he's tried really hard to help out around the house and he was insulted they think he'd cheat on me....It was just terrible. We talked....and I told him I trust him, but I am already fighting my insecurities and I needed a hug and to hear that he does wanna be with me...and he told me he doesn't want to be with ANYONE right now, because relationships are a pain in the ass....ultimately he said he wants to be with me when we can BE together and live together and he loves me a LOT but just doesn't want to be with anyone right now, there's too much stress (which I posted about a few weeks ago, not much has changed there).
He got a job with his stepdad flipping houses, he starts on tuesday. Which means we can afford to move sooner than later which is nice. They got offered a 4 bedroom house to rent if we can move in and split rent with them, only 300 a month for us. I think we can work through things.. Relationships have their whole own stress, especially since we are having a child and it's long distance right now. Things are always a lot better when we can see each other instead..On the same hand though, I don't know how to deal with any of this mentally. I still do trust him, and right now am trying to treat it like we arn't together for the next three weeks just so I can get it out of my damn head for a little while, I've done nothing but cry and bruise myself the last few days.
I think me and OH may be able to work things out, I do, but I just have not the slightest idea how to deal with any of it...
I asked mum if it was okay, and she asked why I don't like her and I said I don't have a reason, which I don't think is fair so I want to at least give us getting along a chance, and I trust OH would never cheat on me. She laughed in my face and told me he's probably already cheated on me with her anyway because men are "weak minded" -.-
She made me cry because I am insecure as it is and that doesn't help....over the weekend my stepdad told me four times that basically it seems like he doesn't want me and I should be jealous of her because she is a better "fit" for him anyway. Which made me cry pretty much all of Saturday and this morning. Then last night I went to ask if she could go to bed yet or if we should set up blankets in my room for her cause they had people over and she had been sleeping on the sofa. I got interrupted every time I tried to talk, so I shrugged and walked away. Stepdad flipped out and came in the house and called me a manipulative bitch and it's no wonder because I am just jealous of my boyfriend's "real girlfriend"...which isn't true and pissed me off.
I ended up crying all night, OH came in and held me for a little while and I told him what had been said to me and he got really hurt feelings, because he's tried really hard to help out around the house and he was insulted they think he'd cheat on me....It was just terrible. We talked....and I told him I trust him, but I am already fighting my insecurities and I needed a hug and to hear that he does wanna be with me...and he told me he doesn't want to be with ANYONE right now, because relationships are a pain in the ass....ultimately he said he wants to be with me when we can BE together and live together and he loves me a LOT but just doesn't want to be with anyone right now, there's too much stress (which I posted about a few weeks ago, not much has changed there).
He got a job with his stepdad flipping houses, he starts on tuesday. Which means we can afford to move sooner than later which is nice. They got offered a 4 bedroom house to rent if we can move in and split rent with them, only 300 a month for us. I think we can work through things.. Relationships have their whole own stress, especially since we are having a child and it's long distance right now. Things are always a lot better when we can see each other instead..On the same hand though, I don't know how to deal with any of this mentally. I still do trust him, and right now am trying to treat it like we arn't together for the next three weeks just so I can get it out of my damn head for a little while, I've done nothing but cry and bruise myself the last few days.
I think me and OH may be able to work things out, I do, but I just have not the slightest idea how to deal with any of it...