Alone.

[Melissa.Feb12]

Have any of you felt sooo ... alone

Since getting pregnant ive been out twice maybe... i dont expect my friends to change what they are doing so i can join, like they have girls nights in hottubs and wine, and i cant be in a hottub or drink wine, so they dont invite me, and i understand that. They dont ask to see me anymore, or text or see how im doing, except wonderful BNB girls, if i ask to see one of them they say there busy and maybe another time.. and i n ever hear from them. If i see them in the grocerie store, they kinda just smile and walk off.
I know alot of us have lost our friends since getting pregnant, but today was my baby shower. and dozens promised to come.... and one of my friends showed, ONE. i talked to them this week confirming them coming, as its been planned for over a month, they all said yes. except two couldnt anymore. so i expected quite alot of ppl to come, we made muffins, cupcakes we had fruit and chesse platers ect.
and my mom, two of her friends. and my grandmother...also showed up
Nobody called, texted or messaged me saying they couldnt come, or something came up, juts dozens of them bailed... when everyne left i broke out in tears. i feel like everyone has left me

 

[x__amour]

Oh sweetheart, you poor, poor thing. Hugs, love.
I'm sorry but what ungrateful, inconsiderate friends! And just down right rude! But unfortunately, it happens I'm sorry to say. But you know what, Melissa? Just know that you are better than them. They are missing out on a wonderful friend, an amazing girl and they should be ashamed of themselves. You will find friends that treat you better and you will always have us BnB girls! Just know that, 'kay? I'm so sorry that this has happened to you but things'll start looking up soon, especially with your sweet baby boy coming any day now! You'll be okay, you're strong. PM me if you ever want to talk, hon.

 

[Melissa.Feb12]

Oh sweetheart, you poor, poor thing. Hugs, love.
I'm sorry but what ungrateful, inconsiderate friends! And just down right rude! But unfortunately, it happens I'm sorry to say. But you know what, Melissa? Just know that you are better than them. They are missing out on a wonderful friend, an amazing girl and they should be ashamed of themselves. You will find friends that treat you better and you will always have us BnB girls! Just know that, 'kay? I'm so sorry that this has happened to you but things'll start looking up soon, especially with your sweet baby boy coming any day now! You'll be okay, you're strong. PM me if you ever want to talk, hon.

Thank you your such a sweetie, and your words mean alot to me .
I just miss them

 

[joanneNbabyx]

im sorry to hear and know what you mean, whenever i thought bout how so many of my friends all of a sudden snob me, and how no friends that were invited came to my baby shower.it i got real depressed.but now ,i just try to be thankful for who i do have.

 

[Melissa.Feb12]

im sorry to hear and know what you mean, whenever i thought bout how so many of my friends all of a sudden snob me, and how no friends that were invited came to my baby shower.it i got real depressed.but now ,i just try to be thankful for who i do have.

I try to be thankful for who i have too, but sometimes its really hard everyone seems to still at least pretend to be my friend and everything falls apart, somedays it seems like all i have is BNB ladies.

 

[x__amour]

Thank you your such a sweetie, and your words mean alot to me .
I just miss them

I know you do, it's totally natural. I've lost friends throughout my pregnancy or they met Tori and it freaked them out that I was a mom or that I am "different" now. Of course I'm different, I live for my child. But you will be a better and stronger person because of them. You will have new friends that'll come around and support you and be with you every step of your life. If your friends act like this, they sure as hell do not deserve to be in your life. That's how I try to think of it, anyways. Just don't even think about them, it'll get better over time, promise.

 

[sarahjane10]

ahh i am sorry that your friends are like that hun.. we are her if you need to talk any time chin up xxxxx

 

[youngmummytob]

last week when i found out i was pregnant my friends have been there for me, just hope that does not change, sorry to hear about your baby shower hun, hope your ok thoo, you willl make new friends that are mothers or mothers to be, that understand you more.

 

[lilgemsy]

:/
They dont sound like proper friends at all hun... it might seem crap now but in the long run you'll meet new people with more in common who will more than likely become better friends than any of the assholes who didnt turn up to your shower! You dont need people who are going to build your hopes up only to let you down again - especially now that you're pregnant.
Why not try and see what local groups there is to meet some people who are in a similar situation as yourself?
I know that by mine there is a young mums group every Tuesday which Im looking into joining. (Im in a similar situation to you - all of my "friends" are moving on with thier lives in education and partying and whatnot and leaving me behind.)
If you ever need a chat, feel free to PM because I know just how you're feeling and I know its not nice.
-hug-

 

[amygwen]

Oh sweetheart, you poor, poor thing. Hugs, love.
I'm sorry but what ungrateful, inconsiderate friends! And just down right rude! But unfortunately, it happens I'm sorry to say. But you know what, Melissa? Just know that you are better than them. They are missing out on a wonderful friend, an amazing girl and they should be ashamed of themselves. You will find friends that treat you better and you will always have us BnB girls! Just know that, 'kay? I'm so sorry that this has happened to you but things'll start looking up soon, especially with your sweet baby boy coming any day now! You'll be okay, you're strong. PM me if you ever want to talk, hon.

Awwwwww you are so sweet haha!

 

[IrishGirl]

Hey hun just dropping in with some Hugs and support for you xoxoxoxThere not true friends hun.Its hard enough going through a pregnancy with all of the emotions that go with it,without having that to deal with too.Massive Hugs xoxoxox

 

[Melissa.Feb12]

:/
They dont sound like proper friends at all hun... it might seem crap now but in the long run you'll meet new people with more in common who will more than likely become better friends than any of the assholes who didnt turn up to your shower! You dont need people who are going to build your hopes up only to let you down again - especially now that you're pregnant.
Why not try and see what local groups there is to meet some people who are in a similar situation as yourself?
I know that by mine there is a young mums group every Tuesday which Im looking into joining. (Im in a similar situation to you - all of my "friends" are moving on with thier lives in education and partying and whatnot and leaving me behind.)
If you ever need a chat, feel free to PM because I know just how you're feeling and I know its not nice.
-hug-

Thank you for your words
there is no group i can join, ive looked. i live in a tiny town and they dont offer anything like that. the closest group is 3 hours away and i cannot drive.

 

[lilgemsy]

:/
They dont sound like proper friends at all hun... it might seem crap now but in the long run you'll meet new people with more in common who will more than likely become better friends than any of the assholes who didnt turn up to your shower! You dont need people who are going to build your hopes up only to let you down again - especially now that you're pregnant.
Why not try and see what local groups there is to meet some people who are in a similar situation as yourself?
I know that by mine there is a young mums group every Tuesday which Im looking into joining. (Im in a similar situation to you - all of my "friends" are moving on with thier lives in education and partying and whatnot and leaving me behind.)
If you ever need a chat, feel free to PM because I know just how you're feeling and I know its not nice.
-hug-

Thank you for your words
there is no group i can join, ive looked. i live in a tiny town and they dont offer anything like that. the closest group is 3 hours away and i cannot drive.

That sucks :/
Well fingers crossed for you that you meet some mums along the way of your pregnancy and that then! Once you start antenatal classes and what not then Im sure youll meet people there
Never know, you might even meet people when you go in to have your little one!

 

[newmommy23]

sadly it happened to most of us. people are straight mean

 

[Melissa.Feb12]

Im not my classes, and no body talked to me there as i was 16 and they were much older