Am I being a bitch? Honest opinions LOL x

[nicolefx]

Okay so atm I have an infection in my nose and a bad kidney infection. I feel terrible and i'm in alot of pain, but i'm still cleaning up etc. The problem is my OH - he was out literally all day on Sunday (working till 12 noon, then went to his mates to watch the football and came home at 1am). I didn't complain even though it meant i didn't have anything to eat because he was supposed to make dinner as i'm not in a fit state to make it. Yesterday I had to go to the doctors, which was a two bus journey and I felt like I was going to spew/pass out the whole time - he was supposed to come with me but couldn't get away from work which was fair enough. Then just before I went in he phoned me and said his friend and him would come and pick me up and he would call me back in half an hour. He didn't, I waited then went and got the bus home - he had fell asleep. He was working this morning, came home fell asleep, went to the game shop and is now going to his friends house. Tomorrow morning he has his friend's mums funeral at 10 am, will be out all day for it then probably going out at night after it. Which means tomorrow he will be hungover/in bed all day. On Thursday he has football and he is going out on Friday again.He makes about 800 a month so I don't see how he can afford it. 150 comes off of that for a debt management plan and he has his phone bill plus bank charges to pay. I wanted him to give me some money/pay for some baby stuff on friday too. Plus his dad has just went and asked him for 600 quid . Which he will apparently pay back, but can't give a time when - he can only say 'you'll get it back'. He isn't working, barely looking for a job so I don't see how he can pay it back. I'm due on the 22nd of december and we have basically nothing bought in at all. I get paid on tuesday so I will be able to get something in. I'm just really disappointed and annoyed right now - I don't see why he has to go out so much or why he is incapable of cleaning up or why no one seems to be paying any attention to the fact im ill and stressed . Am I being unreasonable here? xxx

 

[pitterpatter1]

firstly you are not being unreasonable whatsoever. it sounds like he needs to step up to the mark and take responsibility for this baby. unfortunately with some men they never change and i hope this wont be the case for him. they say women feel like a mum when they are pregnant but men dont feel like dads until the baby is born, its harder for guys to get there head round because i guess they arent carrying the baby. but in my opinion you need to make your feelings clear. you need him to bring in money for both of you, and you need him home to look after you if this is how you feel. yes its good to have time with mates but it sounds like he is putting his social life first. the best thing is always to share how you are feeling, in a mature way (ie not screaming and shouting lol) because you are both going to be parents and he needs to accept its time to grow up very quickly. i wish you the very best. dont feel like a bitch, any girl in your position would have concerns.

 

[Amber4]

No, you aren't being a bitch
I think your OH is being unfair. I think your OH should be able to go out, but not as much as you have mentioned. He should have things of a higher priority now. I think you should defo have a talk with him about this otherwise it probably won't get much better and you'll ended up feeling more stressed out (which isn't gonna help with you getting better)
I also think it's very unfair of his Dad to ask to borrow that sort of money!! Maybe 100 or something, but he should know you NEED that money for LO. I know it's hard sometimes but you defo need to let your OH know how you feel because I know i'm worrying about buying things already and can certainly imagine how you feel being further along. Maybe you could write a list of what you need and how much it will cost and point it out to your OH? It may help him realise things aren't gonna buy themselves and the money he makes is very much needed. That way perhaps you could agree when you can afford to buy things? Like each week buy one thing and then something the next?
I hope you sort it out soon lovely. xx

 

[xAmiixLouisex]

Deffo not. Your partners being really out of line. But, as usual with men he probably doesn't realise. I'd have a talk with him. I'm sure he'll understand

 

[x__amour]

No hon, you aren't being a bitch.

 

[amygwen]

Not at all

 

[prettymomtobe]

No your not being a bitch. If I was in your shoes I would be bitching at my OH for going out so much and not taking care of me when I was sick. I would also bitch about money and how we were ever gonna get anything for the baby. Your far from a bitch honey. I would have chewed my OH out by now