Am I being over sensitive?

[Clareybeary]

Well, DH's sister and her boyfriend have been winding us up about our baby -saying joking but horrible things about how it's going to look like Shrek when it comes out and winding me up talking about horrible birth stories etc. Am I sensitive to be upset about this?

 

[Sonyalouise]

There is a joke and there is taking it too far Hunni

You have every right to be upset about it xx

 

[Clareybeary]

Thanks hon. I think pregnancy hormones and emotions and the protection I feel for my baby is taking over. To be honest, we only see them once a month so I'll try and ignore it but if they continue, I'm going to ask DH to have words. I know that they think they're just having harmless fun but it really upsets me that my baby is going to be subjected to ridicule (even though I know it won't look like Shrek of course!!!!) by it's own auntie!!!! To be honest I feel a bit bullied. Will talk to DH if it continues for sure.

 

[toddlerandpip]

Why would your baby look like shreck? If she says it again say hopefully that gene only went to her, not your oh.

 

[Clareybeary]

DH has always been joked about as having a big head!!!! They just do it to wind me up but when an innocent baby is involved I think it's unfair.

 

[Clareybeary]

By the way, I have a tiny head so I hope for my sake that the baby's head size evens out or it could be painful!!! Fair enough her joking that the baby might have a big head but to go as far as to say it'll come out looking like Shrek is very rude.

 

[Clareybeary]

Do you know what? I think they're actually jealous!!!! SIL is jealous because she wants a baby and her boyfriend is jealous because of DH and I's close relationship and that we are going to start a family that excludes him in some way. It has to be that! I think the best thing for me to do is ignore any comments they have to give or take SIL to one side and explain to her that comments she is making about the baby are hurtful to me. I'm sure she'll realise and feel really bad. Her OH however, tends to say hurtful things all the time unfortunately. Tonight he decided to tell me that my sister's boyfriend was fat and that he hates fat people and left his previous girfriend because she grew from a size 8 to a 10!!!! Sorry, just have to get this off my chest!

 

[Wallflower]

Definitely jealousy hun! God it does nasty things to people! I would be upset too, it's just plain cruel to joke about looks!! I don't know about you but I worry about the health of my baby and then I worry about looks..you just want all to be ok don't you..
Tell them to P off if they say anything else or ask OH to say something to put a stop to it

xx

 

[crazylilth1ng]

Sounds like my ex... he NEVER has ANYTHING nice to say about me... always calling me skinny body lollipop head when I am thin and commenting on my fat thighs, too small in comparison boobs and large backside when I am bigger, but then he has never said that my baby will be ugly... you see HE is living proof himself that ugly blokes can produce lovely looking children lol

Just ignore them, they are obviously jealous and a pair of tits.

 

[FM_DJ]

I'd be upset about that, too. There's a co-worker of mine who keeps calling my baby a "tape worm" or a "mongoloid" (spelling?) and tells me he could throw me down the stairs and rid me of it. It really makes me angry, so I can understand your frustration. Tell them that you don't appreciate their comments and you'd prefer them to keep the snarky comments to themselves.

 

[Bunnipowder]

I'd be upset about that, too. There's a co-worker of mine who keeps calling my baby a "tape worm" or a "mongoloid" (spelling?) and tells me he could throw me down the stairs and rid me of it. It really makes me angry, so I can understand your frustration. Tell them that you don't appreciate their comments and you'd prefer them to keep the snarky comments to themselves.

Thats f***in discusting!!! You should of reported that to your boss

 

[disney doll]

How old r they!! Does sound like jealousy . Don't let them get a response from you otherwise they will carry on. U have every right to be upset but don't let them see it!

 

[dragonneyes]

I think comments about horrible birth stories, how awful it is to have a kid, etc. come from folks who are jealous. It's one thing to decide not to have children because of personal reasons, but it's another to slam everyone else who decides to have children. I've had several girls comment in a similar manner to this and they are all in less-than-stellar domestic/personal situations.

 

[Clareybeary]

Thanks girls! The strange thing is, DH is bloody gorgeous! Well, obviously I AM biased but my mate told me he's the best looking guy in our group of friends. I am not ugly either! I know they just think they are being funny but it makes me really protective of my little baby who's going to be gorgeous! DH's best man ran off with his sister last year and his relationship has definitely changed with my DH. I think he is scared that everything will change after our baby is born and he won't be able to go on lads holidays anymore with my DH (which is true!!!!). I prob won't want DH leaving me for the weekend until baby is at least 6 months old!!!