Not sure whether to post it in here but couldnt find anywhere else really suitable for this topic. Im 19 with a 6 month old baby. I split up with thw babys father when i was 6 weeks pregnant as i was really unhappy but i wont go into that. He wasnt there at all through the majority of my pregnancy but i asked him to be at the birth as he had a right to see his 1st child being born no matter how much aggro he had caused me over the past 9 months. Jayden lee is now 6 months old and his 'dad' has seen him about 10 times altogether. He has never had him overnight, never has jayden ewgularly (sees him once or twice a fortnight for 4 hours each time) and i just genuinely feel that he doesnt want to chip in. I know we are both young as hes 19 aswell, but i think no matter how much we hate eachother, we have a baby together and we have to stay civil for jaydens sake.. He seems to think diff. He refuses to come down to mine to see jayden cos 'im gonna be in the house and it will be awkward' but personally that riles me even more as we both have to put OUR feelings to one side for jaydens sake so he isnt missing out. When his dad did have him, cos he hardly sees him i let him have him from 1pm till 7pm as i gathered he would want to spend as much time as poss with him. How wrong was i? 3-4 hours into having him i would get a text asking to pick him up cos jayden was cryin, cos he had other plans, and to top it off this is what did it for me, he gave him back after 2 hours saying he had 'a headache'!! I had been badly for 3 weeks with the flu yet i didnt fob him off to someone else! Anyway, he is genuinely unreliable, useless and doesnt seem to care in my opinion. I feel he doesnt put jaydens needs 1st like he should so i have changed his visitin hours to 4 hours each visit so then i know where we stand. Ive also decided he cant have him at his house anymore cos each time he has he has said he cba to get him to sleep etc. His parents and my parents keep saying to me its cos he just doesnt think.. If thats the case i dont want him with our child in a flat on his own if he 'doesnt think'! Anything could happen. Am i being a bad mum limiting his visiting times and as to where he can see jayden? Sorry about the long thread but wanted to give the majority of the story as its really making me depressed.