Today I had a scan which FINALLY showed my placenta had moved out of the way for a vaginal delivery and now I'm thinking about the type of birth I want.
I've spoken at length with consultants both at the midwife led unit (who won't accept me as I am 'high risk' due to multiple pregnancy) and the 'labour ward' who basically want me to have an elective.
I want a home birth.
I told them very early on that I wanted a homebirth and they just sort of laughed in my face and said they would never support this. Then I was diagnosed with placenta praevia anyway so it was out of the question. I also had a 3rd degree tear with my first daughter and haemorrhaged (only lost 800ml) all of which they've told me are reasons I need constant monitoring. Now they're citing my long standing mental health problems - I have even been referred to the safeguarding team within the hospital because requesting a homebirth is being seen as putting my babies at risk (and along with my mental health problems they have a case that there may be a 'risk' to the babies, even though there wasn't one before).
What would you do? I've been told once I am in labour I will be monitored pretty much constantly - they've said I can remain mobile but I'm not convinced I believe them. They said they will allow 30 minutes between twin 1 and twin 2 being delivered before they give me a c section regardless of whether twin 2 is in distress.
I'm so unhappy with this. I spent 9 hours labouring in water with my daughter before eventually birthing her in the water. Although I suffered complications (the pph and the tear) I have had NO long term complications. It was a fabulous experience and I want to relive that.
So wwyd? Honestly, at this point my only option is staying at home and birthing unassisted. I am a single parent and have zero money for an IMW (I did look in to this). I had G&A with my daughter so am unsure if I could cope with nothing at all pain relief wise, as well as the added complication on twin 2 flipping over once twin 1 is out.
Any words of advice would be appreciated. I feel horribly isolated and have no one to talk to. All my friends think I'm mad for not having an elective. Would you birth twins alone or go into hospital knowing you're 'advised' to have an epidural and HAVE to give birth in theatre on your back. The thought terrifies me.
I've spoken at length with consultants both at the midwife led unit (who won't accept me as I am 'high risk' due to multiple pregnancy) and the 'labour ward' who basically want me to have an elective.
I want a home birth.
I told them very early on that I wanted a homebirth and they just sort of laughed in my face and said they would never support this. Then I was diagnosed with placenta praevia anyway so it was out of the question. I also had a 3rd degree tear with my first daughter and haemorrhaged (only lost 800ml) all of which they've told me are reasons I need constant monitoring. Now they're citing my long standing mental health problems - I have even been referred to the safeguarding team within the hospital because requesting a homebirth is being seen as putting my babies at risk (and along with my mental health problems they have a case that there may be a 'risk' to the babies, even though there wasn't one before).
What would you do? I've been told once I am in labour I will be monitored pretty much constantly - they've said I can remain mobile but I'm not convinced I believe them. They said they will allow 30 minutes between twin 1 and twin 2 being delivered before they give me a c section regardless of whether twin 2 is in distress.
I'm so unhappy with this. I spent 9 hours labouring in water with my daughter before eventually birthing her in the water. Although I suffered complications (the pph and the tear) I have had NO long term complications. It was a fabulous experience and I want to relive that.
So wwyd? Honestly, at this point my only option is staying at home and birthing unassisted. I am a single parent and have zero money for an IMW (I did look in to this). I had G&A with my daughter so am unsure if I could cope with nothing at all pain relief wise, as well as the added complication on twin 2 flipping over once twin 1 is out.
Any words of advice would be appreciated. I feel horribly isolated and have no one to talk to. All my friends think I'm mad for not having an elective. Would you birth twins alone or go into hospital knowing you're 'advised' to have an epidural and HAVE to give birth in theatre on your back. The thought terrifies me.