am i over reacting?

[moomin_troll]

Well when zane was 6 months old i found out my sisters mate was having a baby boy, so i invited her round to mine and gave her loads of zanes old newborn stuff aswel as things hed never even worn. i also gave her a baby bath, moses basket and a £300 pram and carseat, all for free but she gave me chocs to say thanks which i enjoyed lol

she was then also invited to zanes 1st bday but her baby was late so she couldnt make it which i totaly understood. over the past yr ive given her loads of support and advice as shes had a hard time.

yeterday i found out over fb that she was having a 1st bday party for her son n me and zane werent even invited! ive known this girl for 18 yrs and gave her so much for nothing and i didnt even get a invite to his party and its really upset me.

would this upset u or am i over reacting?

 

[Vickie]

I think I'd be upset as well It depends really on what kind of party she's having maybe she's just doing something with family?

 

[moomin_troll]

from what i read it wasnt just family, id of understood if it was tho.

i just feel so mad i gave her all that stuff n have known her for so long.
wish i never gave her anything now lol

 

[sophie c]

id be peed off hun!!

xx

 

[Christine33]

no, you most certainly aren't over reacting. i would have been very, very hurt too. i mean, going by everything you have done/gave her, you would have thought you would have been one of the first on her invite list. I am hoping there is a simple explanation/misunderstanding.

 

[xolily]

i'd be pissed off but maybe she just hasn't gotten round to inviting u yet? i arrange dinner with friends and before i've gotten to invite everyone it's been put on facebook.. ! x

 

[moomin_troll]

i made a comment saying i hope hes had a good day which i do and i havent got a reply off her yet.
think ive learnt the hard way not to give someone so much for nothing

 

[moomin_troll]

i'd be pissed off but maybe she just hasn't gotten round to inviting u yet? i arrange dinner with friends and before i've gotten to invite everyone it's been put on facebook.. ! x

the party was today

 

[special_kala]

how rude off her!

 

[netty]

i would be pee'd off too

how rude!!!!!

 

[MotherBeth]

I'd be annoyed too! In fact, even if all I'd ever done was invite her to my baby's birthday party -- I'd expect to be invited to hers!

There's nothing you can really do, I guess.

But if you just wanted to let her know that you're hurt, you could send her a little gift with a note saying you're sorry you missed the birthday party.

But it won't change anything. Just might make you feel better! That at least you let her know.

 

[moomin_troll]

shes had enough off me already lol
i no theres nothing i can do about it but oh didnt really seem bothered when i told him she had a party n we werent invited so i thought i was over reacting.

 

[Racheldigger]

Well, it depends on the party: it's generally recommended that you invite no more than one other child for every year of your child's age, so a first birthday party is likely to be extremely limited: if she was considering this at all, she couldn't possibly have invited everyone she was beholden to.

 

[moomin_troll]

well she invited my sister who is always slagging her off n bitching about her, so thats really got to me

 

[moomin_troll]

Well, it depends on the party: it's generally recommended that you invite no more than one other child for every year of your child's age, so a first birthday party is likely to be extremely limited: if she was considering this at all, she couldn't possibly have invited everyone she was beholden to.

ive never heard of this, so i doubt very much she would of thought about it like this

 

[mandy81]

I would be well pissed of to hun xx

 

[Baby France]

Thats just rude, ungrateful and wrong. I would be deeply offended and hurt also. I agree with what someone else mentioned though about sending a card and present (cheap!!) saying sorry you missed the party. I don't think you're overreacting!

 

[moomin_troll]

shes posted again on fb how great her sons party was, i feel like having a right go at her n asking for all my things back but doubt theyd be in any condition for me to want them.

i hate ungreatful people and this just takes the biscuit

 

[whitelilly]

Hmm, I can see why you are upset and annoyed and given that you gave her so much too. However, you did say that she was your sister's friend, so that's mabe why she was invited? I also know thatwhen I was planning my son's 1st bday I wanted to kep it small. By inviting you, other people ay have wondered why such and such a person wasn't invited.

I do think it is important that you let her know that you expected some of the "borrowed" items back from her though. I know folk who have been given items and then sold them on ebay and kept the £!!!! xx

 

[moomin_troll]

i no her because she was my sisters mate first but i counted her as a friend also as we used to hang out just me and her too lots of times, and also when she was pregnant and after having her lo i gave her so much support when no one else was bothering with her, including my sister.

i didnt expect the stuff back but i just felt like asking for it back (which i wouldnt do) because im angery.
it also wasnt a small party, i would of understood if it was family but she invited loads of her druggie mates aswel as others with children.