Am I the only one really hating looking in the mirror right now?

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  1. Nut_Shake

    Nut_Shake Well-Known Member

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    Ok, so before i get hounded, i am very very proud of my body for growing and nurturing 2 gorgeous babies, i wouldn't change it for ANYTHING in the world.

    But i'm human and i feel so gross and hate looking at myself in the mirror right now. I used to go to the gym 3/4 times a week and got to a stage where i finally felt comfortable in my clothes, but now i'm not even back to square 1, i am way behind that. I've been sitting here torturing myself looking at old pics of myself on holiday and really miss my body :( None of my friends have had babies so dont really understand, although to be honest im not comfortable talking to anyone about it because everyone seems to think im very happy and confident but i really dont feel it, not anymore anyway. I just want to hide away!!

    Does anyone else feel like this???? Please tell me its not just me being a vain asshole.

    Belly month before falling pregnant
    https://i51.tinypic.com/30rxr2b.jpg

    Last bump pic at 37 weeks
    https://i52.tinypic.com/25pn5oz.jpg

    Now
    https://i56.tinypic.com/34ngrrr.jpg

    I'm going to make a pact with myself; I will be (near enough) back to my old body shape by April (as i have a lot of weddings to go to and we are looking to go on our first holiday with the babies then).
    I really have to push myself because i'm so bloody down about it all right now :(
     
  2. gemma55250

    gemma55250 Well-Known Member

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    Hi, I know this won't penetrate because no matter what people say, your obviously feeling reallow low about your appearance but I wish I looked like you do now even before I was expecting!!! You look great and remember we analyse every inch of ourselves in bad lighting with no clothes. No one else sees us like that.

    I am sure most of your friends wish they had a great figure xx
     
  3. sophxx

    sophxx Well-Known Member

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    you still so soon after having a baby it will go down even though you look fab x
     
  4. sglascoe

    sglascoe Mum of 4, Soon 5

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    yes feel really down about my body at the min, i am a size 20 after 5 kids and right now i am sooo not happy..
     
  5. Lost_Plot

    Lost_Plot GADOING GADADOING DOING

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    For the love of chocolate!!! Lady you had twins. I had one baby and I still look like a marshmallow. You look amazing and by the looks of things it'll take next to no time to get back to original shape.

    For the record I am jealous :)
     
  6. lucy_x

    lucy_x Mummy To Two Stunners

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    I think you look great :thumbup:
     
  7. Nut_Shake

    Nut_Shake Well-Known Member

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    You're all so sweet xx But i do still feel like poo, lol! Thought id see if anyone else was feeling like this so we could all moan together, was thinking i may be the only vain eejit on BnB!
     
  8. Chantibug

    Chantibug (almost) mother of 3 !

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    you sound dedicated so it will work out for you :) Plus, you were in awesome shape before hand, which helps! also, remember you had two babies! :)
     
  9. Novemberbabe

    Novemberbabe Well-Known Member

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    You look amazing. I know you won't believe it but its just because you look different to what you're used to.

    I looked like you after I had my first son, now after the second one I'm not springing back into shape as quickly and I hate my 'jelly belly' (as my eldest son calls it!) x
     
  10. charlotte-xo

    charlotte-xo Alfie and Darcey's mummy

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    nut_shake --you look amazing :shock: honestly im not even lying lol!!
    i know what you mean though before i had alfie i just got to the point were i was starting to like myself..pre pregnancy i was size 8-10 now im a 14 i need to do some serious work.
    youll get there hun, kitty-ventura set up a baby club weight loss group theres a fab bunch of ladies on there, we all support eachother through our ups and downs and just have a general natter sometimes. click my blinkie check it out.

    <3
     
  11. ILoveShoes

    ILoveShoes Well-Known Member

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    Your stomach in the first pic is my new inspiration to lose weight!!!
    Intact, your stomach in the last pic is pretty bloody inspiring too!
    Good luck with your goal.
    And, to answer your question, I feel pretty minging too!!
    xx
     
  12. midwestbelle

    midwestbelle Well-Known Member

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    you really do look amazing.

    i have a jelly belly , which flops around, and a zillion stretch marks. i have 20 more lbs to go for pre pregnancy weight, but it looks like i have a ton more.
     
  13. Lara310809

    Lara310809 Mum of 3 girls

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    Let me just say;

    * You had a lovely body before you were pregnant.

    * You carried twins

    * Even with twins, you seem to have escaped the dreaded stretchmarks. My belly way totally covered by them, when I was 30 weeks, and they're still obvious now, and my LO is 9m old.

    * You gave birth to your babies in December, and it's January now. Your babies are less than 2 months old, and you look incredible for having just had them! You have a lovely body now!

    If you hate your body, mine would make you want to scream :blush: If you can't love your body (and you should because it's gorgeous), there's no hope for me :nope:
     
  14. kelly29

    kelly29 Guest

    mine would make you scream also lol don't be a nutter you look fab x
     
  15. pigginteacher

    pigginteacher Mum of 2

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    Nut-shake I wish I had a body like yours!! After two sections mine isn't looking too good and I know that nor matter how hard I workout my stomach will never go back to its pre baby flatness. I suppose it's something I will just have to deal with. I have recently gone back to weight watchers and started doing Zumba again. Have lost half a stone and starting to feel better about myself...slowly :) It wont take you anytime at all to get back to ur pre pregnancy shape as you obviously looked after yourself during pregnancy. Dont be too hard yourself hun xx
     
  16. peanut56

    peanut56 Mom to Hana & pregnant!

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    You look fantastic!! And I really mean that.
    My belly is all flabby and covered in stretch marks. :( I've never been a thin person, but I used to have a relatively flat tummy. Now it's disgusting. :cry:
     
  17. Cookie1979

    Cookie1979 Well-Known Member

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    I wish I looked like you. I put on 4 stone, I'm hugely fat and disgusting and I barely look at myself in the mirror these days. Before I was pregnant I took pride in my appearance now I dont bother, whats the point, nothing fits me and even when I do manage to squeeze into my clothes I look like a complete and utter state. Am I dieting though? Nope, I keep eating rubbish, likely because I feel so bad. Its a viscious circle.
     
  18. leannehurren

    leannehurren Well-Known Member

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    You're not the only one to feel that way! I've gone up 2 dress sizes and am the biggest I've ever been. I have about 2 pairs of jeans I can get into and they're tight!

    Really want to join weight watchers but have no money and with lack of sleep and problems with OH I reach for chocolate way too much!

    But I'm determined that I need to do something before I go back to work at the beginning of April!
     
  19. Srrme

    Srrme Well-Known Member

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    Goodness gracious, woman! You look fabulous for having twins! :dohh:
     
  20. mixedmama

    mixedmama Expecting No.2

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    Bloody hell, with your belly now I would have never guessed you had twins! (BTW your pre-preg bod was amazing! Very jealous!)

    Don't worry hun, your body will go back to how it was, with time, your twins aren't even 2 months old yet. It takes a minimum of 6 months for your whole body to recover from pregnancy so you're worrying about this far too early lol x
     

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