Am I the only one?

Discussion in 'Teenage Parenting' started by AirForceWife7, Apr 3, 2011.

  1. AirForceWife7

    AirForceWife7 Mama to Brenna.

    Joined:
    Oct 5, 2010
    Messages:
    2,322
    Likes Received:
    0
    Does anyone else on here worry about SIDS as much as I do? It's seriously my WORST fear! :cry: I've read so many stories from the losses section of this forum & could never imagine how hard & horrifying it must be to lose the most precious thing in life to onesself. I just have so many fears that one day it may happen; there's always that risk present, & that worries me. Am I the only one?

    xx
     
  2. x__amour

    x__amour Mommy.

    Joined:
    Jun 28, 2010
    Messages:
    20,274
    Likes Received:
    1
    Kelsey. :hugs:
    I personally try my hardest not to think about it and tend to stay out of those sections. I guess it is in the back of my mind, I just don't want to stress about it, kwim? Yeah, sometimes I'll randomly get up and place my hand on her chest but I just try to think positively. Try not to stress yourself out, it'll be okay!
     
  3. Hotbump

    Hotbump SAHM, student, & wife :)

    Joined:
    May 30, 2010
    Messages:
    3,847
    Likes Received:
    0
    i think that all mommies have that fear. OH doesnt like to hear me even mention the word SIDS.
     
  4. stephx

    stephx Well-Known Member

    Joined:
    Jun 24, 2009
    Messages:
    5,734
    Likes Received:
    48
    :hugs: I think everyone worries about it hun, it definatly gets less stressful as they get older, but I think I'll always worry about it x
     
  5. bbyno1

    bbyno1 Well-Known Member

    Joined:
    Dec 19, 2009
    Messages:
    16,770
    Likes Received:
    0
    I use to worry like mad when Aliyah was newborn.
    I have started to worry less now that she is getting older even though i check her every night maybe 2-3 times
     
  6. AirForceWife7

    AirForceWife7 Mama to Brenna.

    Joined:
    Oct 5, 2010
    Messages:
    2,322
    Likes Received:
    0
    Thanks ladies, I feel a little better knowing I'm not the only one that worries ... & I will try to worry less :) It'll always be in the back of my mind, but there's no sense in worrying about something that's never happened. (and hopefully never WILL happen!) :flower:
     
  7. amandakelley

    amandakelley Mommy to Brayden&Pregnant

    Joined:
    Oct 8, 2009
    Messages:
    599
    Likes Received:
    0
    No, you are definitely NOT the only one who worries about this. This is a constant fear and it terrifies me so much to think that there is a possibility this could happen. I really don't know what OH and I would do if that were to happen, I don't even want to think about it.

    We currently co-sleep with him, which makes us feel a lot better. He doesn't like sleeping in the bassinet, he is so spoiled already that he HAS to be near us 24/7. Which I don't mind AT ALL! I was worried at first about co-sleeping, but he sleeps on a pillow in between us and we both have changed how we sleep. Guess it's just our instincts kicking in.
     
  8. amygwen

    amygwen Mom to Kenny & Gwendoline

    Joined:
    Oct 4, 2009
    Messages:
    9,376
    Likes Received:
    0
    Noo, you're definitely not the only one! I think all new moms worry about this. I still worry about SIDS because the risk is supposedly up to the age of 1. But in the early days when I would co-sleep, I went to bed every single night thinking about SIDS. It's awful, but eventually the worrying will go away or at least stop happening so often.
     
  9. vinteenage

    vinteenage Well-Known Member

    Joined:
    Apr 14, 2010
    Messages:
    4,467
    Likes Received:
    0
    I am awful about worrying about SIDS, to a point where I'm mentioning to my midwife on Wednesday to see if there's anything that can be done about it.

    I think about it constantly. Anytime Finn does something I think "Is this the last time I'll see him cry/laugh/smile/give kisses/etc?". I never let him sleep out of my sight. I think about what I'd write on here if it happened, what I'd tell friends and family, imagine how I'd react. I refuse to let myself think about Finn's life more than a couple months ahead so I don't "get my hopes up". I tear up pretty often about it. I check on him when we're in the car constantly, horrified I'm going to reach back and not feel him breathing. It's awful and pretty all consuming. I'm somehow managing to act pretty "normal" otherwise but SIDS and losing Finn is constantly on my mind.

    My grandmother lost her youngest daughter to SIDS, which is partly why I worry about it so much. I try to avoid the lost section on here but in another thread I was reading one day a women mentioned she lost her child to SIDS at an age I've always considered past the SIDS risk and my anxiety about it got so much worse.

    In short? You're absolutely not alone.
     
  10. Mei190

    Mei190 Well-Known Member

    Joined:
    Mar 11, 2010
    Messages:
    1,070
    Likes Received:
    0
    ^ Goodness and I thought I worried about it! I would talk to the midwife about it, maybe it would be slightly more reassuring.

    I do check Nathaniel a couple of times while he is sleeping however I try to place it at the back of my mind as I am terrible worrier if the idea gets caught. I also don't venture to the losses section of the forum, it would make me A LOT worse
     
  11. AirForceWife7

    AirForceWife7 Mama to Brenna.

    Joined:
    Oct 5, 2010
    Messages:
    2,322
    Likes Received:
    0
    Yeah, I really need to stop doing that! It's a bad habit, I just can't help it sometimes. Glad to know I'm not the only one who is an excessive worry wart:thumbup:Guess that's just all part of being a mommy!
     
  12. vinteenage

    vinteenage Well-Known Member

    Joined:
    Apr 14, 2010
    Messages:
    4,467
    Likes Received:
    0
    Yes, it's gotten kind of ridiculous! I'm wondering if it's turning into a form of PPD or something.

    Oddly though, I rarely wake up in the night to check on him. :shrug: Only one or two nights a week.
     
  13. Desi's_lost

    Desi's_lost baby girl,boy and me

    Joined:
    Apr 30, 2010
    Messages:
    5,405
    Likes Received:
    1
    I used to end up putting myself in tears daily about it..but it went away when I realized Syri is a strong little girl. i rarely think about it anymore. I think it kind of eases as they get older.
     
  14. Leah_xx

    Leah_xx Guest

    Hun your not alone. I co-sleep with gracelyn and i still manage to wake up 3/4 times a night! to check on her and make sure she is breathing. I am constantly worrying about her. When im at school and she is with my parents im always worrying if im gonna get called down to the office and they tell me something. now its even more now after she stopped breathing and her heart rate drops in her sleep. Its very scary but your not alone we are here :hugs:
     
  15. AirForceWife7

    AirForceWife7 Mama to Brenna.

    Joined:
    Oct 5, 2010
    Messages:
    2,322
    Likes Received:
    0
    Awe thanks Leah! :hugs: What happened with Gracelynn sounds very scary! I hope she grows out of it :flower:
     
  16. Leah_xx

    Leah_xx Guest

    No problem. Yeah it was the scariest thing ever. Besides when I went to the hospital and had my c-section and she didnt cry. They think it was just casue she was all mucusy. Thats what im hoping
     
  17. AirForceWife7

    AirForceWife7 Mama to Brenna.

    Joined:
    Oct 5, 2010
    Messages:
    2,322
    Likes Received:
    0
    Awe I hope so too! Lately it seems that so many babies on here are falling ill :nope: Cinci's (Csweets) daughter had a seizure yesterday after being sick for a few weeks, & Shannon's (x_amour) daughter Tori is sick :nope: Hoping everyone's kiddos feel better! :thumbup:
     

Share This Page

  1. This site uses cookies to help personalise content, tailor your experience and to keep you logged in if you register.
    By continuing to use this site, you are consenting to our use of cookies.
    Dismiss Notice