And another one...

[MrsSixx]

Hi ladies,

I am sad to say I am joining you also. Went for dating scan yesterday (12+3)to be told they can only find a sac - looks like pregnancy ended around 8 weeks. I knew something was wrong...I was never able to find anything on the doppler and had quite a lot of odd twinges. Nothing like previous pregnancies.

Anyway, I have opted to miscarry naturally and am home now with my feet up. Lots more aches and pains today. I have been given 2 weeks and then back to the hospital for a D&C which terrifies me if i'm honest.

It seems from lurking and reading that miscarrying naturally is harder than it sounds with a MMC, i.e. most ladies have had to D&C in the end anyway. Hope I manage it and soon.



xx

 

[ncmommy]

So sorry for your loss!

You have to do what you feel comfortable with. With my mmc I decided to have a d&c because I just wanted to get it over with and try to move on. I was still having pregnancy symptoms and that was hard.

Take care of your self!

 

[bluesky]

sorry for your loss.

 

[Mom23monkies]

I am SOO sorry I know how hard this as I am going thru it right now.
I have had two D&Cs now and this is my first natural MC
Good luck to you, know we are all here for you (even if I am a noob)

 

[BabyQ]

I'm so sorry xxxx

I had a natural mc at 10 weeks (baby died at 6) whilst I was waiting to be booked in for a D&C. It happened overnight at home, just a night of quite bad bleeding. The contractions/pain were followed by rushes of blood through the night, for one night. Of course I cried, it was upsetting, a little bit painful and passing the clots freaked me out a bit, but we are amazing and we cope well us ladies.

I went for a scan the very next morning which revealed my body had expelled everything itself and I was told I could begin to TTC again straight away. I bled for a following week, and by about a week later I was getting negative pregnancy tests. So for me, it was all very easy and quick. I would do it naturally again.

You will manage it, it won't be as bad as you worry I promise xxxx

 

[Kittique]

Im so sorry for your loss

I just wanted to add that if you want to miscarry naturally putting your feet up is going to delay it even more I hope I am not sounding harsh but the best thing to do if you want to avoid a D+C (which I REALLY did) is to be more active. I had a MMC at almost 12 weeks and the babies died 5weeks prior, I went for a very long walk which started the natural m/c so I managed to avoid d+c.

Again im so sorry and hope it is as easy as possible for you xxx

 

[Embo78]

I'm so sorry for your loss. I remember you from first tri.

I had the same happen to me only I opted for a EPRC. I just wanted it over. The stress of the last few weeks took their toll and I couldn't bear the thought of seeing.

I waited 8 days for my op, which was yesterday and in that time I was very active. We've been moving house so lots of lifting heavy things, packing boxes, on my feet all day etc and I never bled enough to go on a panty liner so in my case, surgical management was best for me.

Hope you get all the support you need and again I'm so sorry for your loss

 

[MrsSixx]

Thanks all for your advice and support.

I woke up last night soaked in blood, and although the cramps seems to have stopped I am now bleeding as if I have a very heavy period.

I have been scared by talk from one or two well meaning friends about how much pain I am going to be in(!) and that I should go for the D&C. Reading about others managing naturally is great. Also, I gave birth to an 8lb 5oz baby last year without pain relief -- surely it can't be as bad as that? Rang the GP today who has prescribed me some Tramacet just incase. Hopefully I won't need it.

I am off for a walk with the dog in a bit (thanks Kittique). Last week I was on holiday in Cornwall, walking for miles over the cliffs and not a twinge. Weird that within an hour or two of being told baby had gone the cramps start. The mind is a powerful thing!

I don't think there is anything wrong with the D&C/EPRC method I should add - I would hate any of you to think that. It's just I have had a bad experience with general anesthetic before (massive allergic reaction) and I don't want to put myself in that position again if I can at all avoid it.

 

[Chloe's mum02]

So sorry for your loss

Amy xx

 

[kanga]

I'm very sorry x

Hope things start moving from you soon and it's not too painful x

 

[Mom23monkies]

Aww Sweetie I had some pain but honestly it wasnt any worse than my worst menstrual cramps
Honestly I prefer it this way, I hate annestesia I even worked thru my MC I needed to be some place that I didnt just sit and THINK about it but it just wasnt near as bad as my own "well meaning friends" who scared me also (I had epidurals with all my children and they had me truly frieghtened)
Any how If its ok with you I will say a prayer for you

 

[Blondie007]

So sorry you are going through this. I had a natural miscarriage at home after being told to expect a miscarriage after my scan. I managed OK at home as I was well prepare for what would happen. I wont lie - it was a bit painful but I was 'pleased' it happended naturally as I was terrified of the op! i didnt need any further assistance either. The worry was far worse that it actually happening, I was quite calm considering what was happening but like someone else said, we manage these things.

I hope it goes as well as something like this can do
xx

 

[MrsSixx]

It's all over (I think).

About 8pm last night started getting mild contractions. Bled heavily from 8pm - far more heavily than I was expecting. Passed the sac about 10pm. The pain stepped up a gear after than and I passed some more clots. But despite this I managed to fall asleep about 1am. So it wasn't that bad at all. This morning I am bleeding a heavy period but I have no pain.

I hope that offers reassurance to anyone reading this thread in the future. From a physical perspective only, I would class it all merely as very unpleasant but totally bearable. I didn't use any pain relief in the end.

I guess the worst thing about it all for me is that everything has been flushed down the toilet. Even though I was told by the hospital at 12+3 that all I had there was a sac measuring 8-9 weeks and no baby (I guess either blighted ovum or baby had already been passed without me noticing), I still feel incredibly guilty. What if they were wrong or I misunderstood and I just flushed my baby? Then I think, what else was I going to do really?

Anyway, lots of love and hugs to all of you. Thank you again for your kind words.

xx

 

[Blondie007]

I am sorry MrsSi, sounds just like what happened to me. I am pleased you managed on your own. Good luck for future pregnancies xx