And the award for the most miserable baby goes to.....

[izzlesnizzle]

.......my LO.

Im seriously going out of my mind here, so much so ive turned to the red wine in an attempt to try and relax. I dont even really like red wine but its all we had!

In 8 months ive never had to put her in her cot and shut the door and leave her to cry but tonight i just had to. I made a pitiful attempt to restack the dishwasher to try and take my mind off the palavour going on in the bedroom then went back 2 mins later and consoled her.

Shes been like this for a month now, we are coming to the end of wonder week 37 and its about killed me. The end of last week i didnt think i could take anymore, this week ive been pushed even further. My head is just banging with the whinging, crying, demanding my constant attention every second. If i even so much as divert my attention to something else for one minute or god forbid talk to anyone else then all hell breaks loose.

Changing her nappy is such a battle now, she will not stay still and goes mental if i try to keep her on her back while i whip a nappy off and stick a new one on. Shes decided she doesnt like baby massage anymore that we've done since she was 3 weeks old quite successfully every night.

When does this get better?

 

[candyem]

I can totally sympathise with the happy thing. My happy baby turns into a monster when I try to lay him down for a nappy change. It's embarrassing when you are out and about...

 

[Twinks]

Izzlesnizz I totally get what you're saying! My lo is also 8 months old and I could have written what you wrote. My lo finds teething horrendous and is just cutting his two top teeth so I know why he is how he is at the minute. It's so hard sometimes and don't feel ba about putting your lo down to do a few necessary bits. I had to do this earlier to get his food bottles made up. My lo is also very clingy at the minute due to the pain with his teeth. Could it be your Los teeth too? Poor bubbas and lots of hugs as we're in the same boat. Our only life saver with our lo is he sleeps so well at night. Hope things improve for u soon x

 

[izzlesnizzle]

It could well be her teeth. Im just so confused with it all. I have calpoled her almost every day this week. Her gums look red and i can visably see 4 teeth at the top about to cut. I know i need to be more supportive and caring and i am really really trying but its so hard and i feel so sad and like the worst mum ever at the moment. I try to play with her as much as possible but its so hard to do it all day, sometimes i need to not play and do something else. Shes happy when shes got my full, undivided attention but the minute i try to do something else shes whining, crying etc etc.

 

[DaisyBee]

Jordans top teeth were way worse than her bottom ones. Have you tried ibuprofen? It seems to work better with the worst teething pain.

That and distraction. Like getting out of the house so she forgets how miserable she is?

Big hugs. Both of my girls have been sick all week. It's been a tough week here as well.

 

[Twinks]

I have to admit I use the baby Nurofen with my lo as the calpol doesn't seem to do a whole lot. Don't feel like a bad mum you're trying your hardest and that's all you can do. You probably try these things so sorry- I tend to put my lo in his high chair while I do bottles etc as gives me a break. I give him a cucumber to gnaw on which seems to help soothe his gums. My friend has also put a cork on her high chair on a string so he can pick it up and chew on which I thought was a good idea. I sometimes take him out for a random drive to the shops he always likes looking at people and I often give him a snack like babybel or melon to chew on so he's concentrating on something too. I've even driven him and let him sleep in the car as day naps are a nightmare with him at the min and he struggles to sleep so I can get a break and read a book in the car while he sleeps- I park up when he's fallen asleep. It's really hard but hang in there! I found last time when the bottom two were through we both had some relief for 8 weeks x

 

[izzlesnizzle]

i havent tried the ibuprofen yet, normally just give the calpol. Maybe i should give it a try but im always in two minds about whether or not she is in pain or not. The red cheeks and dribbling comes and goes.

The bottom 2 came through end of november and we've had nothing since but the top 4 seem to be imminent but have been for the last couple of weeks. I just wish they would cut through and stop rumbling away!

 

[Twinks]

My lo seems to find the teeth moving down the worst and he's really grizzly/ grumpy to the point where it's really hard to take him to baby groups. I try to keep them up although I have to work hard with him and get very tired because sometimes I just need to be around other adults lol (although I love my lo dearly :0)!) the cutting part with his teeth he doesn't seem to find too bad although today he's been crying a lot but that's cause he's finally cut his second. I know exactly how you feel and there will be other mums out there too that feel the same. In fact one of the other posts says about a grumpy baby and someone said their baby was grumpy but is a very happy toddler so that could be us soon :0) x

 

[izzlesnizzle]

I hope so! Baby groups are difficult at the moment as she doesnt seem to like me talking to other mums, she wants my undivided attention. If i do row row row your boat and twinkle twinkle little star shes marginally happy but as soon as i stop she gets upset again. Daisy said about taking her out as a distraction. Yes this works, she likes sitting in the buggy watching the world go by and theres not a peep out of her but i cant walk round all day. I take her out as much as i can but sometimes i need to be at home but having her on the floor infront of me rolling around whinging and crying is doing me in. Im a bit over walking her from room to room constantly showing her the mirror, pictures of OH and i in frames, pointing out nanna and grandad in pictures. Urghhh, cant wait for her to settle a bit and be able to entertain herself for 5 minutes!

 

[GemGiraffe]

I could have written this today. My LO has been exactly the same. Won't nap, has to have my attention all the time otherwise she's whining plus she's up 3-4 times a night. She's 6 months and has her bottom 2 teeth cut through but I'm thinking she must have another on the way.

I sympathise.

 

[Twinks]

Aw hang in there it will get easier I'm sure. Is she crawling? If she's not things will probably get a lot easier when she is as she'll crawl to explore things on her own. I know what you mean about needing to be at home sometimes though. Maybe give the ibuprofen a go as and when u would give her the calpol just to see if that makes a difference when she's crying lots. Keeping my fingers crossed for u that she improves soon :0)

 

[izzlesnizzle]

Shes not crawling but thats the other problem. Shes really trying- she gets up on one knee but cant work out how to move the other leg behind her then throws herself forward onto her stomach and nose dives the floor and ends up flat on her face then just sobs into the floor.

 

[Twinks]

Aw bless her!!What about a Jumperoo does she like anything like that so she can be on her feet or even one of those enclosed walker things. Sorry my suggestions are probably rubbish they're just things tht have worked with my lo but others will probably think of some good ideas too. It'll all be a distant memory soon. I sometimes take a breather up to the shops while my oh looks after lo just to reenergise again!

 

[izzlesnizzle]

She has a jumperoo and she goes mental in it. She hammers the life out of the floor with jumping so vigourously! She can do 10-20 mins in it which is great and gives me a bit of a breather. Thanks for your suggestions.

 

[Twinks]

Lol the image of a baby going crazy in a Jumperoo bouncing like crazy made me laugh! I tickle my lo a lot as the sound of his laugh always perks me up :0) x

 

[Sprat]

I found with my lo those top teeth were much worse than the bottom. My lo got a temp with those and was so miserable - he was dosed up!

The other big thing is the trying to crawl thing - they get so frustrated at that stage - it is such a relief when they finally master it!

It sounds like you are doing a great job so don't beat yourself up! I had to get out every day and go to baby groups etc - even if baby is still grumpy at least it is something different and no one minds at baby groups as they all know what it is like.

It will pass i promise!

Hang in there. X x x

 

[izzlesnizzle]

I wish she would master it, ive sat and watched her struggle with it for about 2 weeks now. Im desperate for her to get over this hurdle and work it out.

 

[Nat0619]

Part of this could be frustration from trying to crawl. Ciara was pretty whingy and clingy in the month she was trying to crawl. Although this did also coincide with cutting her first two teeth. She has been so much happier since being able to crawl . Think her top 2 teeth are now close, so a few niggles, but not like she was when frustrated x