Another angel... One still alive

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  1. mom2beagain

    mom2beagain mom and preggers

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    Last night we lost one of the twins we were expecting. Scan confirmed what the doctors thought that it was twin to twin transfusion. No genetic testing as they are MoMo twins and cannot be removed. Doctors said most likely because of gestational size (she only measured at 7+5) we should plan on having a vanishing twin.

    Sleep safe now sweet angel.
     
  2. Lyd

    Lyd Mummy

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    goodnight wee lamb
     
  3. HellBunny

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    I'm so sorry :( xxx
     
  4. Kristin52

    Kristin52 Well-Known Member

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    I'm so sorry :(

    rest easy little one:kiss:
     
  5. Pretty Sakura

    Pretty Sakura Well-Known Member

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    I"m so sorry. :( :hugs:
     
  6. pipkintyler

    pipkintyler Mum to Austin and Dexter

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    I'm really sorry to hear this, thinking of you. :hugs:
     
  7. mommylam

    mommylam Pregnant-Mother of 3 boys

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    So sorry to hear this.....
     
  8. Mummyjohnson

    Mummyjohnson Well-Known Member

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    I'm very sorry. Hugs to you. Sweet dreams little one x x
     
  9. Vickie

    Vickie Hannah & Rhys <3

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    :hugs: So sorry for your loss.

    We found out yesterday that one of our twins didn't make it either :( i
     
  10. FrankieGirl16

    FrankieGirl16 Well-Known Member

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    Sorry to hear it :(
    I'm going through the same thing right now. I didn't know I was having twins but when the doctor told me he also said it looked like it would vanish. It was five days behind the other one and only had a heartbeat of 86. It was really sad hearing it's slow heart beat.
     
  11. mom2beagain

    mom2beagain mom and preggers

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    So sorry for your losses as well. I have had a lot of people tell me that its fine because at least we still have one. To me it doesn't even come close to comparing to losing a little one. Sleep safe angels. Sleep safe. My thoughts are with you. :hugs:
     
  12. Vickie

    Vickie Hannah & Rhys <3

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    Yep I feel exactly the same :hugs:
     
  13. mom2beagain

    mom2beagain mom and preggers

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    I don't want to come off rude to anyone, but especially with my family, who keeps telling me now I can focus on keeping our other twin healthy, I just wanted to lose it. Ahem, did you think I planned this or something, and I have been doing my best to keep them both healthy and happy. Makes me feel like they are saying I did something wrong. They probably aren't and most of them have never been in a situation like this so they have no idea what to say. I told a few of them, don't say anything, just be here for me, that means more to me than anything else. I need support, not put downs. My husband and I feel terrible as it is, and I am sure the remainder of the pregnancy will be harder to enjoy because I am going to be so afraid of something happening.

    When a few family members found out that we picked a name, a girls name, they told me it was rude and inconsiderate. I have a gut feeling both are girls, I was right about my son, and I feel that any baby in heaven deserves at least a name. Just because I never met her doesn't mean that I didn't love her dearly. This loss was harder than the others. I lost one at 7 weeks and one at 5 weeks. With the 7 weeker I only knew I was pregnant for about a week, when we lost at 5 weeks, I had no idea that I was even pregnant. I thought it was my period. This time I found out at 3 weeks... I have had a lot of time to bond and get accustomed to the fact that I was expecting. We found out a little over a week ago that it was definitely twins, but I knew long before that.

    So sorry for the ramble. I have a whole mess of emotions going on right now.
     
  14. Vickie

    Vickie Hannah & Rhys <3

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    :hugs: I know it is a huge range of emotions for me as well.............sad, angry, but happy for the healthy baby.

    And unfortunately I don't think people do always know what to say, it's really hard I guess when you haven't been in the situation yourself. I'm sure for myself I wouldn't really understand either except that I'm now here in this position and it's awful.

    I had to tell people (including family) that I'm just not ready to talk about it because it's still so raw for me. Luckily most have been very understanding in that

    :hugs:
     
  15. mom2beagain

    mom2beagain mom and preggers

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    I almost feel guilty about being happy about the healthy baby.
     
  16. Vickie

    Vickie Hannah & Rhys <3

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    :hugs: Same here.
     
  17. JoanneBirnie

    JoanneBirnie Mother of 6

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    I am so sorry.....thinking of you and your family
     
  18. xloulabellex

    xloulabellex Mummy to 2 beautiful boys

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    Sorry to hear of your loss sweetheart <3 xx
     

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